The phrase "burnt out former gifted kid" has always given me the ick, but there are unique challenges/issues/traumas related to that experience that tend to come up in #autistic discussions and I've never encountered a good description.
Proposal for a slightly less icky alternative:
✨ burnt out former high achiever ✨
@orangegoldgreen@actuallyautistic@autistics
For me intrapersonally….It’s mostly the gifted part, that gives me the ick, we are all gifted right?
The burnout is just the result. No blame or judgement just acceptance.
When minority groups are facing a decline in their well-being due to real problems that affect their group, no amount of positive thinking will make that go away.
It is completely unreasonable to ask people to think positively about their lack of privilege in a situation.
I've been thinking about gamifying the process of making new friends in my city. Kind of like a #LARP but your character is just yourself, and you earn points for showing up to small group events. Extra points for helping organize gatherings and coming up with creative ideas for people to get to know each other better.
...I've been thinking about this for over a year, maybe someday I'll have enough energy to actually start it.
Is there any value in pursuing a potential autism diagnosis as an adult, if a person gets along well enough in life and isn't interested in finding community?
@smeg@actuallyautistic Many people who did not know me well would have said I got on well enough—a challenging social barometer—and they would have been wrong. Though I'll admit, if I hadn't needed help, had deficits not been perceived by the doctor, I'd have not likely pursued diagnosis on my own due to stigma and internalized ableism. #actuallyautistic
@smeg@actuallyautistic I simply didn't know I needed more knowledge, support, and tools to help myself than I had ever been allowed before. It was inconceivable to me that there were skills I could lear or accommodations I could ask for that could make some parts of life less challenging. #actuallyautistic#autism
Straight up: I’m a slut, submissive, service slave. I like being reminded of my place as a faggot. Indeed I revel in it. I am Autistic and have ADHD. All that said, there is this nuance between degradation and still being respected.
So I’m having this increasingly excited conversation. With a man I’d really like to be abused by in the very best ways. And then I get “oh so you’re autistic and retarded?”
Full. Stop. Buzkill. 🛑😡
I instantly blocked him. Right or wrong it took me to a very bad place. I might tolerate it once there was an understanding and trust but not right at the start. Sigh.
I'm going to throw this out there and it may sound a bit controversial, but keep in mind I have nearly 20 years's experience as an entrepreneur. Is there ANYONE who works with #neurodivergent business owners or #ActuallyAutistic business owners who don't just regurgitate the same allistic/neurotypical "marketing advice" that's sold all over the groups and "free offers"? Because I'm not seeing anyone doing anything different from the NTs. @actuallyautistic@actuallyautistics
The nice thing about digital art is it never has to be finished. On this one I got too deep into the image. There's a lot going on you can't see cuz the midtones are too dark...
The non-gendered warrior SHOULD be creating themself (to coin language) out of and battling dark chaos, a bright spark headed toward a dim light... they never know if there's a goal...
the job i had wanted since i was a kid was the wrong job for me.
i have no career now and i'm also unemployable.
you know, i never developed a social life and i never started a family. it wasn't important to me at 20 or 30 but now, at 40, it feels like something's missing.
i'm an adult now and i'm no longer very interested in the hobbies i had at 20. there's nothing to do now.
i have a drinking problem.
why could i never do housework properly? oh, right, the #AuDHD...
i have nothing to lose, so i guess i'll try to ask the government to help me.
practical home assistance granted. admitted to back-to-work programme. applied for a social support contact today, to give myself more to do.
i'm nothing at the moment. i was broken down and now i have to build a new me, from scratch.
@chrislw there's a certain bliss in ignorance. learning that some of your problems are a condition can be a bit of a downer. on the other hand, it helps you develop more self-awareness. certain challenges become easier to predict ahead of time so you can take them into account. the formal diagnosis could entitle you to certain types of assistance and benefits, depending on where you live. it's a lot to take in.
@manon@actuallyautistic@autisticadvocacy@audhd for me, I swing between a manic need to do everything but not be able to do it properly, complete disdain for anyone asking anything of me, and when it gets bad it triggers my schizophrenia.
The French State under Emmanuel Macron unveiled its new “plan” regarding #ActuallyAutistic and other #Neurodivergent humans yesterday.
More of the same. That is to say, NOTHING.
A huge 5 year plan about US, without any consultation, whatsoever, with US.
Anyone who knows the French State knows the HUNDREDS, if not THOUSANDS of hours that went into useless meetings to create this plan. The involvement of THOUSANDS of bureaucrats and “consultants”.
Yet, the result is more ableism. More silencing of autistic voices. More oppression.
Where did the 500M+ euros go for the LAST 5 year plan? Nowhere. Into the hands of private companies who seek to profit via the oppression of autistic bodies.
Where will the 600M+ go now?
Shameful.
The Republic has actual autistic advocates and experts living just steps from the Élysée Palace. Organizations that fight for our rights like @CLE_Autistes
. None of us were consulted.
Who was consulted? Parents groups. Autism groups led and run by non-autistic people. Companies which exist to earn money from the State and autistic people on our backs and commodifying our bodies.
According to the “new and groundbreaking” plan, autistic adults will receive free support groups (weren’t we already meant to be getting support groups under the last plan?). Said groups are led by non-autistic people who actively promote the pathology paradigm of autism, which is rejected by the vast majority of autistic adults. Not an improvement.
It will allow certain autistic adults currently institutionalized to live outside and go work. Cute. As if that is a progressive idea!
What about support for those of us who want a career? A meaningful one? What about support for those of us who cannot work but also do not want to be institutionalized and removed from society, our friends, and families?
What about support for those of us who do work with need help with day to day things? What about support during autistic burnout?
Nothing.
Oh, and the Marianne eugenics project continues on!
France continues to show itself to be unserious and performative when it comes to the civil and human rights of autistic people. Our humanity today, as yesterday, has been denied by those who purport to support us.
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