I remember getting this 5 star review from Dr. Nick Walker. Nick has been one of the leading minds of the neurodiversity movement for over two decades. Her conceptualisation of neuroqueer theory has been groundbreaking.
My book is available in most territories, but do let me know if you have difficulty finding it 😊
Hello #UK#ADHD peoples....
My GP has given me an Adult "ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRS-v1.1) Symptom Checklist" as part of trying to get medication prescribed.
Some questions ask about social interactions, but my answers will be impacted by my ASC1 ( #Aspergers ) traits (Questions 15, 17 and 18 just seem like they would be too rude to do.)
Is that likely to impact my NHS diagnosis? #ActuallyAutistic#Autism @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic
"I’m autistic," I say. A brief pause ensues, a furrowed brow from what I can see from the mirror, and then an unexpectedly humorous response: "Is that like a professional auto driver?"
The phrase "burnt out former gifted kid" has always given me the ick, but there are unique challenges/issues/traumas related to that experience that tend to come up in #autistic discussions and I've never encountered a good description.
Proposal for a slightly less icky alternative:
✨ burnt out former high achiever ✨
@theautisticcoach@actuallyautistic No (except with my brother), and I often ponder lately whether the reason is related to #autism or not. I imagine that my inability to feel as much empathy as I’d like has something to do with it. Since my mother died in August though, I’ve been reflecting a lot on how my autism was ignored when I was a child, and how that contributed to many of the negative feelings I have about my family.
In the recent months I had a really strong hyperfixation on #autism and posting a lot to the @actuallyautistic and consuming every toot. The recent days I got catched up by an older hf, because I stumbled over the adventofcode and now I am diving in learning rust. Although that is quite occupying my mind, I guess it is a good sign that I am quite settled with the autism topic.
Another sign for it is how I dealt with my recent experience of joining a online meeting of a local autism group.
Each day, I pour my heart into my work... to be a voice in our autism journey. Basically, cuz I gotta. That's special interests for ya...
But now, I’ve hit a snag.
Our car, my lifeline in this rural Owensburg, is crying for help.
We were so fortunate... family members Zach & Sky GAVE us the van. Our Odyssey's absolutely neccessary to survive. At least in the country village we chose to support my autistic sensory need.
But we're facing brakes & tires. Which ain't cheap. I’m staring down a $500 bill.
Plus Christmas is coming for the family. Kimmie has 7 extraordinary kids. And then there's the 17 grandkids showing more and more signs of extraordinary every day...
If you've found a friend in my words, consider lending a hand. It’s more than just money; it’s keeping our dream of an autistic community alive.
You guys make MY dreams come true. Every day. In my freaking 70s.
It's my raw hope, I help make one or two come true for you by sharing my lived experience.
I’m forever grateful for your past support. Together, we're more than just a community; we're a family.
With your help, we can continue this amazing journey. Thanks for being the stars in my night sky.
Big shoutout to EVERYBODY for always being there. And making AutisticAF Out Loud a reality!
Angie Kilroy
Bernard Grant
Bernadette Grosjean
Brea Corwin
Bridget Donahue
Burnett Grant
Chris Thompson
Cinja
Ed Dupree
Fellow Autistic
Heidi
Irene
JD Goulet
Jim Hogan
Kimmie Knapp
Marcus Garrett
Martin Nutbeem
Merlin Star
Nonimiz on TikTok
Potto
Tad
Wick
Zach & Sky Granger
And a dozen more folks who prefer anonymity.
I'm finding that I'm really obsessed with practicing UV unwrapping in Blender and coming up with clean, simple, and attractive UV maps. Everyone else seems to loathe doing this. Is this the #Autism? 😆
Also, Blender 4's native tools are pretty good. I'm mostly only using third party apps occasionally and just for better packing when I do.
** I also used to really love paper folding long before computers were a thing. Maybe that's part of it too? 🤔
Thoughts based on Michelle Garnett and Tony Attwood's article on "Autistic Flourishing" and how we, autistic adults, can thrive in this life without changing who we are.
This Friday (tomorrow) at 4pm, AMASE Chair @ferrous will be talking with Pete Wharmby, autistic author, about #autism, #writing, #education, #monotropism and all that sort of thing.
Tickets are free and open to anyone. This event will be recorded.
I have a busy and stressful job, but one in which I have a lot of control over things, a lot of routine, and an office I can hide in. I am worried about the drastic change in routine (or loss of it) and loss of control.
I love my wife, and kids to the moon and back, but they are unpredictable, and I end up apologising 24/7, and feeling guilty for being rubbish. Also they feel pressure to be happy knowing we don't get time together, which adds to tension and stress.
My family (parents and extended family) are not close, but my wifes are, and Christmas means gatherings, party games etc. And I feel guilty about avoiding them.
I feel obligued to be a festive jolly person to everyone as I do like Christmas and do not want to appear rude.
I have never really spoken about this till now, but I find it the hardest part of my year, and it takes so much energy to mask all the time. What I would love would be to hide away from everything, but there is so much expectation etc.
Sorry for the long rant but thanks for being a safe space to get this out!
:infinity_rainbow: :octo_sad: :blobcatpensive:
@actuallyautistic Do other people with #autism have difficulty this time of year? For me this is one of the loneliest times of the year. I struggle with my mental health during the holiday season.
When minority groups are facing a decline in their well-being due to real problems that affect their group, no amount of positive thinking will make that go away.
It is completely unreasonable to ask people to think positively about their lack of privilege in a situation.
I'm speaking here as an #autistic person, my score is 7 out of 10.
Also note:
I've heard a lot of good things about this.
This was released 10 years ago.
Those said and considered:
The show is not about the autistic person, or #autism for that matter. Autism was only used as a literary device to create a drama, like most other shows (be it Asian or Western) where there is an autistic character.
There was an excessive emphasis on "dumb", "stupid", and "idiot". Instead of it making people emphatize, it makes an audience hateful.
None of them actually showed that they finally understood autism and autistic people. To the very end, it was all about "do this" and "do that" so people will accept you and respect you. Sure, this is a common problem with society, however, should they have ended it that way? People will unconsciously think that's the proper way. It is not acceptance, it is forcing an autistic person to be "neurotypical".
And yet, 박시온 (Park Shi On) said in the last episode that it hurts him more when he's trying to remove his difference. But the people around him still acted the same way to end. There's a disconnect there.
The female lead is a prime example of a lover who doesn't understand a single thing about autism and autistic persons. She never showed any sign that she's doing her best to understand him, nope, instead she's doing her best to make him a "normal" person.
Yes, that's how it is in the real world. I've been in such a relationship. However, why leave it that way? She want to do things her way to the end. She will eventually get tired and quit. They will have a lot of fights. 시온 (Shi On) will just keep doing the same thing, keep quiet, say it is okay, say he is not mad, because he is always the one doing the "understanding".
What they did was to only validate that this relationship is doomed to fail instead of showing how a relationship with an autistic person can be if done properly.
The entire show, it was 박시온 who did the understanding and adjustments. Basically, the show taught us that autistic people should mask, mask, mask, and mask more. That no one will accept you unless you "get over" your autism (or in other words, mask your autism).
Conclusion:
While it did show the discrimination, stereotype, and prejudices against autistic people.
While it did capture the traits and quirks of an autistic person well.
I cannot recommend this show at all because it does more damage than in helping the autistic cause.
If I watched this when it was released in 2013, yes, I would say the same thing and rate it similarly. I'm sorry.
Just watch 이상한 변호사 우영우 (Extraordinary Attorney Woo).
Generally I am on the small details side. But I saw a post about systems thinking today. When it comes to technical problems like software, data flow or a scientific hypothesis, I have the feeling I have everything simultaneously in my mind. All the small details, but all at once.
I am still a little different from other people.
I speak and act a little differently.
So I tried very, very hard to eliminate the differences, but I couldn't do it.
The more I tried, the more it hurt.
So I thought I'd always be different until the day I die.
But many nice people filled in the gap for me.
And that is how I am standing before you today.
Thank you for filling in the gap.
Thank you for not avoiding me.
And thank you very, very much for your love.
Each day, I pour my heart into my work... to be a voice in our autism journey. Basically, cuz I gotta. That's special interests for ya...
But now, I’ve hit a snag.
Our car, my lifeline in this rural Owensburg, is crying for help. We were so fortunate...
Family members Zach & Sky GAVE us the van. Our Odyssey's absolutely neccessary to survive. At least in the country village we chose to support my autistic sensory need.
But we're facing brakes & tires. Which ain't cheap. I’m staring down a $500 bill.
Plus Christmas is coming for the family. Kimmie has 7 extraordinary kids. And then there's the 17 grandkids showing more and more signs of extraordinary every day...
If you've found a friend in my words, consider lending a hand. It’s more than just money; it’s keeping our dream of an autistic community alive.
You guys make MY dreams come true. Every day. In my freaking 70s.
It's my raw hope, I help make one or two come true for you by sharing my lived experience.
I’m forever grateful for your past support. Together, we're more than just a community; we're a family.
With your help, we can continue this amazing journey. Thanks for being the stars in my night sky.
Big shoutout to EVERYBODY for always being there. And making AutisticAF Out Loud a reality!
Angie Kilroy
Bernard Grant
Bernadette Grosjean
Brea Corwin
Bridget Donahue
Burnett Grant
Chris Thompson
Cinja
Ed Dupree
Fellow Autistic
Heidi
Irene
JD Goulet
Jim Hogan
Kimmie Knapp
Marcus Garrett
Martin Nutbeem
Merlin Star
Nonimiz on TikTok
Potto
Tad
Wick
Zach & Sky Granger
And a dozen more folks who prefer anonymity.
Is there any value in pursuing a potential autism diagnosis as an adult, if a person gets along well enough in life and isn't interested in finding community?
@smeg@actuallyautistic I simply didn't know I needed more knowledge, support, and tools to help myself than I had ever been allowed before. It was inconceivable to me that there were skills I could lear or accommodations I could ask for that could make some parts of life less challenging. #actuallyautistic#autism