When I first came to Lemmy, I was more defensive than I realized. I had gotten used to aggressive, obnoxious behavior. Soon, I noticed that wasn’t an accepted norm here. It only took a couple days to realize, but I needed a few weeks to actually get out of the habit. In those early days, I’m sure I brought some toxicity with me.
Now, though, I don’t create, feed, or encourage toxic comments. I just assume it’s an honest mistake, poor choice of words, or someone whose primary language isn’t English. If I choose to reply, I’m friendly, and give them the benefit of the doubt. If a comment seems deliberately rude or trolling, I don’t engage at all.
Also, how nice is it to be able to give (or get) the benefit of the doubt?!? You can make a spelling error without getting three or four pedantic screeds! I didn’t realize how much I missed basic civility until I rediscovered it here!
As we all know, Roblox is garbage tier gameplay structured around psychological cues to get children to fill an endless pit with fake money bought with real money....
You’re not doing anything wrong. As far as the name caller is concerned, find a way to respond to her politely yet firmly. Don’t sink to her level, or create reasons for others to criticize your behavior, but don’t take her abuse, either.
Perhaps act surprised if she brings it up again. “I told you that I don’t buy things from bars, and that I’d continue this behavior. What is unclear about that?” You have explained yourself as thoroughly as you need to. Don’t let her put you on the defensive. If she wants to make it an issue, that’s her problem. It’s her turn to explain herself.
This vague “higher power/afterlife” stuff affects everything, regardless of player choices. Individuals, businesses, and entire nations make enormous decisions based on something that you won’t even confirm exists. Even the fan-made wikis and FAQs are unclear and contradictory. WTF.
I avoid automatic payments like the plague. I never give insurance companies, utilities, credit companies, etc. permission to withdraw from my account. All it takes is one underpaid office drone to make a mistake, and you’re overcharged a thousand dollars. You can (probably) get the money back, but not without a time consuming hassle.
Ever notice that billing mistakes on paper bills are virtually never in your favor? In my experience, I’ve always been overcharged, and never undercharged. I don’t expect automatic payments to be any different.
I let them mail me paper bills, which I then pay through my bank’s website. When the payment is made, I write the confirmation number on the bill itself. Yes, it’s more cumbersome, but that’s a price I’m willing to pay. There’s a verifiable paper trail, and I’m completely in control. Since it’s my money, I deserve to be.
Totally expect to see a sea of “Nazi Sympathizer” comments, but look. I don’t think we should be Doxxing anyone so that we don’t invite folks to Doxx us....
Beehaw isn’t reddit, where one can get away with being a horrible person as long as one doesn’t technically break the rules. The beehaw mods don’t tolerate Nazi bootlickers, even if they’re polite bootlickers.
Creating this thread won’t solve anything. If you have a question or concern, the beehaw mods are very open and easy to communicate with.
I was wondering if Judge Reinhold and that guy with the mustache would be in it… and there they were at the very end. I might actually give this one a chance!
I’ve got a niece (5) and nephew (3). The niece is really good about finding ways to entertain herself and the nephew will always try and take it for himself and intrude, usually not in a compromising sort of way. Obviously, this is pretty typical kid behavior overall....
Your niece will probably brag to your nephew about the cool thing that she did, and rub it in that he was too young. That’s what siblings do. This is especially true if he’s ruined things in the past, and she’s harboring some resentment, which she almost certainly is.
I agree that it’s unfair to hold her back, but being left out and being forgotten are two very different things. Spend quality time with him, niece excluded, doing an activity that he will enjoy, or that he has chosen.
I read something about that a while ago. If I recall correctly, it was intended to be a franchise, but Master and Commander was so incredibly expensive that they decided against it.
A few days ago I downvoted someone's comment, and the next day I happened to notice every single comment I've ever made had at least one downvote. All from the person I dared to downvote the ONE time. I straight up asked why they did it, and they seem to think I'm an "obvious" troll account that "apparently just exist to...
The same thing happened to me. The downvotes don’t bother me nearly as much as knowing that trolls can stalk us like that. It’s creepy. That’s the real issue.
Everyone telling you not to care about downvotes is missing the point.
Yeah, trolls really care about being “called out”. Trolls can’t stand negative attention, so be sure to tell lots of people who they are and what they did!
In your interpretation, maybe. I just think it’s obnoxious and rude to do it to all of someone’s comments. If someone genuinely disagrees with what I’ve posted, that’s not a problem.
Right? Leave me a comment telling me why you disagree! Maybe you have a point of view that I hadn’t considered. Maybe I got a fact wrong - I’d rather be corrected than keep on being wrong! I’m a big boy; I can take it.
Or, maybe I’m just being a jerk and all someone needs to do is talk some sense into me. By itself, a downvote doesn’t tell anyone anything. Reply! Talk to me!
Making the reader understand nonlinear time by describing the way humans experience linear time (traveling along train tracks, at a set speed, only able to look forward) was absolutely brilliant. Hell, I still sorta remember that part and I haven’t read the book in decades.
Sometimes I wonder if horrible people can be great storytellers because their outlook on life is so different from our own. That doesn’t excuse or justify their behavior, but still, I wonder.
A friend of mine drives an SUV. I’m getting him a sticker of Jason for the back window, with an “arm” holding a bloody machete that attaches to the back window wiper. When the wiper is on, it looks like Jason is hacking away with his machete.
I think it’s kinda corny, but he loves stuff like that!
The pain comes from not expecting the post to be deleted. By telling us that you’re going to delete it in a day, you’re taking away the unpleasant surprise.
"We don’t want them to be retaliated against and to be charged by the DOJ,” the House speaker said. His office later noted that DOJ already has the raw footage.
You’re right, it does. I guess since various law enforcement agencies already have the footage, they can get away with it… but yeah, since public volunteers helped in so many cases, the end result is the same.
Blurring the faces of the protestors may not break the letter of the law, but it definitely violates the spirit. I’d like to see a skilled legal team make an official complaint.
That was my initial thought, but then I read the article.
DOJ does have that footage. But online sleuths have proven to be an extremely valuable resource in identifying Jan. 6 participants, using the CCTV footage to determine which rioters entered the building and then building a database with the clearest photos of those suspects. They have often used facial recognition for leads and have aided in hundreds of cases against Jan. 6 defendants.
Blurring the footage isn’t the empty gesture I thought it was. All he’s doing is exposing the layout of the building while protecting insurrectionists. Bear in mind that the building was deliberately designed in a confusing way for security purposes.
I have no idea who this man is, and I suspect that learning about him would only infuriate me - especially if (when?) the legal process turns out to be slow and inadequate.
I can’t speak for others, but as I see it, the Israeli government is committing atrocities on a daily basis. So is Hamas. I’m against senseless violence in general, but since the IDF has the upper hand and has killed the most civilians in the current conflict, I’m more likely to complain about them.
You would still have the same age, gender, personality, skin color, etc. and you would be able to speak at least one local language and would know basic information of the era and place. Your family, social standing, and such would be randomly picked.
World was already the biggest by far when I first started lurking back in July, and it’s just getting more dominant. Before, there was quite some diversity in the distribution of generic communities, but nowadays the vast majority of posts that reach the top are from over there....
I was hoping for specific, concrete examples. This is just a summary of the problem which also mentions some pending, unresolved lawsuits. The closest thing to “Good News” is this sentence:
As PEN America notes, growing public opposition to educational censorship targeting issues of race and LGBTQ+ identity could ultimately make such legislation less attractive to conservative lawmakers.
Translation: things suck, but they could get less terrible. Um… yay, I guess?
Years ago, a coworker told me about someone famous who had died that morning. I don’t remember who, only that it was someone who I had heard good things about, was well liked, and seemed like a nice person.
I was actually sad to hear about it. I probably would have gone weeks without hearing about their death otherwise, and it wouldn’t have bothered me as much. Instead, my morning was ruined by someone who just wanted to be the first to tell people, and treated the news like it was merely another piece of trivia.
I decided right then and there not to share bad news without a reason. Sometimes people need to hear unpleasant things, of course, and I don’t dodge that responsibility. There’s no reason to pointlessly spread negativity, though, especially when the information isn’t particularly essential to anyone.
I don’t know why I typed that. It’s basically the exact opposite of what you asked. Uh… sorry!
Lemmy users, have you seen toxicity migrate here from reddit?
Vulcan's can't lie (pixelfed.social)
I banned my kid from Roblox.... what next?
As we all know, Roblox is garbage tier gameplay structured around psychological cues to get children to fill an endless pit with fake money bought with real money....
She scolds me about not buying anything in the bar we hang at (kbin.social)
Greetings....
If you were to give feedback to the Devs of "Life", what would you say?
What system or method do you use for your monthly budget or personal finance?
What budgeting advice do you recommend? Money management method?
What would be Gorn's callsign? wrong answers only (i.chzbgr.com)
I'm concerned that the continued existence of a certain post is normalizing Doxxing "people we don't like", and that's not okay.
Totally expect to see a sea of “Nazi Sympathizer” comments, but look. I don’t think we should be Doxxing anyone so that we don’t invite folks to Doxx us....
Beverly Hills Cop: Axel F | Official Teaser Trailer (youtu.be)
Standards shouldn't be behind a paywall (lemmy.world)
ISO 8601 is paywalled...
How to introduce 5 year old niece to new things without 3 year old nephew feeling left out?
I’ve got a niece (5) and nephew (3). The niece is really good about finding ways to entertain herself and the nephew will always try and take it for himself and intrude, usually not in a compromising sort of way. Obviously, this is pretty typical kid behavior overall....
Please don't let this be Gene's legacy. (lemmy.world)
What Film Are You Surprised Didn't Get A Sequel?
I'm starting to see some serious downsides to being able to see who downvotes you. (kbin.social)
A few days ago I downvoted someone's comment, and the next day I happened to notice every single comment I've ever made had at least one downvote. All from the person I dared to downvote the ONE time. I straight up asked why they did it, and they seem to think I'm an "obvious" troll account that "apparently just exist to...
What is your favorite time travel movie or show?
;-)
Car Talk with Martok - Bajoran Rage (startrek.website)
Car Talk with Martok. Every Thursday....
Tesla's Nordic labor crisis drags on as a Danish pension fund dumps its shares in Elon Musk's EV maker (markets.businessinsider.com)
What gifts are you getting for your friends and family members?
Share your gift ideas, because I am a bit stumped.
Neuralink Barrels Into Human Tests Despite Fraud Claims (spectrum.ieee.org)
Belt and Road: Italy pulls out of flagship Chinese project (www.bbc.co.uk)
deleted_by_author
Me first (startrek.website)
Speaker Mike Johnson says he's blurring Jan. 6 footage so rioters don't get charged (www.nbcnews.com)
"We don’t want them to be retaliated against and to be charged by the DOJ,” the House speaker said. His office later noted that DOJ already has the raw footage.
another video essay (feddit.de)
this one: www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6_LW1PkmnY
Why is *all* of Lemmy filled with Anti Israel content? (fedia.io)
I hope I will not get downvoted because I'm genuinely wondering...
You must pick a point in human history before the 1950s to be spend the rest of your life in. What era and place would you choose?
You would still have the same age, gender, personality, skin color, etc. and you would be able to speak at least one local language and would know basic information of the era and place. Your family, social standing, and such would be randomly picked.
Check mate atheists (lemmy.world)
How did Lemmy World become the default instance?
World was already the biggest by far when I first started lurking back in July, and it’s just getting more dominant. Before, there was quite some diversity in the distribution of generic communities, but nowadays the vast majority of posts that reach the top are from over there....
What super power would be impractical in real life?
The total combat losses of the enemy from 24.02.2022 to 04.12.2023 (lemmy.world)
mil.gov.ua/…/the-total-combat-losses-of-the-enemy…
Efforts to block LGBTQ+ issues in schools are finally backfiring, new report says (www.lgbtqnation.com)
Conservatives went from blocking "critical race theory" to supporting "Don't Say Gay" laws, but it's not going so well for them...
People who post content because it makes you angry : why do you help it spread?
Stuff like memes from people you think are wrong politically, cartoons you don’t find funny, etc etc. Why help the things you hate spread?