I have the same problem, except I’ll sometimes end up chewing them so much that one finger will bleed in-between the finger and nail on the side. In fact, I’m pretty sure I have dried blood under one of my fingernails.
I used be a an absolute fiend for biting my nails. What fixed it was buying a little Swiss army knife nail set. It’s got a wee little nail clippers and file. It fulfilled the need for nervous movement.
Oh I can relate with this. I’ve recently managed to stop (hopefully for good) for the silliest of reasons. I want nice long nails.
I know it sounds silly, but I’ve switched from biting my nails to running my finger tip along one of my nails instead. I admire how nice they feel and it somehow takes the biting impulse away.
One thing I do need to do is an almost daily filing to keep them completely smooth. I know that I’ll resume biting if I find an irregularity or a jagged edge.
This is what helped me. Getting them smooth and keeping them smooth. Carried a file around for a couple weeks, but the habit broke very quickly and I never went back
I love caffeine, but it messes me up bad. Absolutely debilitating headaches. I’ll go six months or something without, and then relapse until I get woken up by a jackhammer in my skull and give it up again. Sigh. I don’t understand the studies that actually suggest it’s good for you.
I have occasionally tried giving up caffeine, and once the initial withdrawal headache passed, all that happened for me was more migraines (even after several months without it) and about 3 lb of weight increase. Daily caffeine does help me to prevent headaches.
Funny how caffeine for me causes headaches, and for you prevents them. I used to get bad migraines (the throwing-up-painful kind) when I was young. I wonder if that has something to do with it.
Yeah, it is so strange to me too, I expected it (quitting) to help but it does the opposite. I do get the migraines still, just fewer if I do daily pattern of caffeine. Relaxing is my biggest trigger now, it was periods before, those were the absolute worst.
It’s weird to ask, but are you young? I’ve seen it suggested that migraines tend to recede in those 35+. I was very, very grateful for them going away as I got older. As long as I stay away from the caffeine, the worst headaches I get these days are just a mild annoyance. Especially compared to the I-wanna-kill-myself ones I got when I was in high school.
No, I am in my 50s now. Migraines started at 18, were worst in my 30s, so painful that I didn’t understand when the doctors asked to rate the pain, so bad that when I went through natural childbirth my only comment was “well, it wasn’t as bad as a migraine, at least.”. And yes almost always with vomiting. Turned out it was birth control pills making them more intense but I didn’t know that until I stopped them. Hormonal IUD did not have that effect, nor does menopausal hormone treatment. Now I do still get them, much less often and they do vary in severity now, not straight to 11 on a scale of 10.
I will also say they are well managed with the sumatriptan injection, 90% of the time or better it works and doesn’t even feel dopey, just fixes it. For 20 years now, it’s worked. The problem was that when it didn’t work it sometimes was a 3 day thing and I couldn’t drink at all, even a sip of water caused vomiting. This bad has only happened like 6 times total, you used to be able to go to the doctor and get pumped full of something like heroin, it didn’t touch the pain really but put me so far away from it and I’d sleep and wake up without the headache. But now, because it didn’t really work, and there’s such a backlash against opiates, they won’t - even though this is a once every 4-5 years thing and nothing else works either. Now nobody but emergency room will touch it and all they do is IV liquids so you don’t die from dehydration, and something in it to stop the puking. But it leaves the headache there.
Whoa, I find it weird that people get withdrawal symptoms. I drink too much of it every day and I’ve never had so much a slight headache from quitting cold-turkey.
I make a “guitar playing” face when I do complicated things. Work is now complicated and I find myself making this face for hours at work. Now I’m lying in bed posting and constantly having to remind myself every few seconds to not make that face. I fucking hate it.
Hear me out! I have always been an avid reader, get very sucked into plots. I got diagnosed with ADHD in June. Since I’ve been medicated I’ve read $15,000 worth of library books. A little of that amount was before June, but most has been since then.
I will walk around the house making food while reading. If I am doing something that requires my hands then it’s a podcast or audiobook. This all being said a lot has been manga or graphic novels but there have been days when I read 10+ books.
Probably doesn’t sound like the worst problem but it’s something that has started to impact my life in ways I did not expect.
I haven't done the math on "value" read, but I do 15-20 hours of audiobook (because 2x speed) on work days. It definitely can make finding new reads a challenge.
you've 'spent' as much on books in five months as i have in, like, twenty years. but i don't always actually check books out. i often just go there (it's only a block away), grab a book, find a sofa to sit on, and read it.. cover-to-cover, then put it back where i found it.
That's kind of cool. I'd need to combine a lot of different sources to get a number, though. I use all of Libby and Hoopla from my library, a scribd subscription (sorry, everand, I guess now), Audible, and Apple Books to handle my audiobook needs (and more for ebooks, though I have less time for that).
I have tried several different ways, and I will try the alarm again since you’ve suggested it - thank you by the way - but I often get laser focused in such a way that I don’t hear my partner speaking when he’s beside me on the couch.
Yeah there's something about phone speakers that just never does the job for me. I dunno, the alarm sounds just lack...presence. I use a bell-based alarm clock to wake me up and when that thing goes off, you're getting the fuck up no matter how deep a sleep you're in. Phone alarms? I've slept through too many to count.
Obviously your use case is different, I'm just thinking if it can snap out a deep sleeper like me, it might help break your hyperfocus too.
I’ve been sucked into a depression fueled reading hole where I just read and lay in bed for several days. What’s weird though is after a couple of days I start to narrate my dreams and if long enough it begins to make its way into my waking life?
You’re doing great. What helped me quit when I was a teenager was to always know where my nail clippers were, and have fast access to them. So whenever I had an urge due to an uneven nail edge, I’d just smooth it out with clippers or a nail file. Really made it simple to quit.
I used to do it, what helped me break it was keeping a rubber band on my wrist and every time id bite, id snap my self with the rubber band, took ~1.5 weeks for me to stop
What helped me quit was a manicure. Spending $40+ on my nails helped me not want to bite them. By the time the gel chipped off, I broke the habit, so I didn’t go back. I still pick off hangnails and the uneven structure, but having a file next to my desk at all times helps with that. I also have a cheat nail where I mess it up if I need to.
I tend say “I mean…” before saying things. No one has ever pointed it out. but I’m very aware of it and catch myself doing it all the time. Sometimes 2-3 times in a discussion.
Sounds awful. Do you know what causes it? Otherwise this might not be in your control. Worth seeing a holistic therapist to find the root cause and hopefully feel better.
I regularly eat right before bed and I don’t have this, in fact if I don’t do it I wake up really hungry. It’s still a bad habit on my part. Maybe something else at work?
Same. I will potter around until 5 or 6 am and then hate myself as I have a meeting in the morning that I will either need to drag myself out of bed for or sleep until lunchtime and lose half the productive day.
They have identified that the habit is harmful. Not all harm is associated with pain or injury. You can cause a person practical/emotional/financial harm, and those are still forms of harm.
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