Relatable. I love a girl like this. It’s exhausting and it’s slowly impacted my own sanity, but it’s not her fault. It’s mainly about germs with her. She gets really upset if we don’t wash our hands every 15 minutes or so. But at the same time, she’s afraid of antibiotics.
The only reason antibiotic resistant germs are different than regular germs is that antibiotics don’t work on them, which doesn’t matter if you don’t use antibiotics! 😆
Her reasons are more vague and appeal-to-nature-y. But you do raise a good point.
‘It’s not you, it’s me’ is the gist of college student qualms with dating apps. Hook-up culture declines while young people search for genuine connection.
I’ve found several long term relationships off tinder as a WLW. It seems to work pretty well for me. The system doesn’t seem to be working for guys, and that’s unfortunate. But a lot of the pressure on women to settle for any man has gone away as women have become more self reliant. The whole thing has become far more consensual and less mandatory for survival. That’s going to influence men’s dating success no matter what medium people use to find matches.
This is ultimately a big part of it, and it’s universal, not just in dating. Most friendships are “friendships of convenience” and the other types of relationships typically progress from there. But in western culture, we don’t have any third places, and so we just plain don’t make friendships of convenience anymore.
It’s crazy how much height subconsciously influences our opinions of each other. I’m tall enough that most men don’t look down at me, and I’m widely respected professionally. Men listen when i talk in meetings, and it’s very easy to sell my ideas to people. My shorter coworkers who are more talented than i am struggle to gain respect.
My ex is 5’2" and i have very strong feelings of cute aggression towards her, and have to consciously remind myself to consider her opinions sometimes. It doesn’t help that she acted like a child a lot during our relationship 😒
I had to do this with my ex too 😅 we’re both women but men listen to me. My ex is a combat veteran with ptsd, and it can make her seem unstable, even though she’s incredibly sharp and there’s no one I’d rather have with me in an emergency.
You’re missing the point. At a right turn, traffic is coming from the left and pedestrians are coming from the right. You focus left to make sure traffic is clear and then go, meanwhile a pedestrian has entered the intersection from the right and you don’t notice them.
Prepagaged food is generally quite bad for you. Rancid oils, high fructose corn syrup in everything, low fiber, mystery preservatives, and so on. When i lived on that kind of food, i rapidly gained weight to 210 lbs. I look at pictures of myself from back then and it’s horrifying. I look like I’m dying. I started cooking my own food from simple ingredients, and within a year i was down to 140. I’ve kept it off ever since.
Here in the Pacific Northwest, the vast majority of people under 50 seem to be in polyamorous relationships. I’m fairly new to poly, but I’ve done a lot of reading and therapy, and it’s working out pretty well for me.
I do tend to be people’s anchor partner, so I’ve admittedly never experienced the pain that comes from being a secondary when you wish you were a primary. My anchor partner tends more towards relationship anarchy and doesn’t like hierarchical relationships, but i made it clear that my expectation is to be the priority in her life. We’ve made it work, although it takes a lot of communication.
I lost 70 lbs. It was mainly due to cleaning up my diet. Running is important for health, but the mistake i so often see from people who are trying to lose weight is that they don’t change their diet, run way way too hard, then they feel miserable, their willpower runs out, and they give up.
I started out run-walking with a heart rate monitor, keeping my heart below zone 3, and it turns out i really love running. I eventually took the running too far and started running ultramarathons.
Thousands of LGBTQ+ veterans who were kicked out of the military because of their sexuality could see their honor restored under a new initiative the Defense Department announced Wednesday, on the 12th anniversary of the repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy banning gays and lesbians from openly serving in the...
I got medboarded out after a suicide attempt related to being trans in the military under DADT. At least i didn’t get OTH, although I’m still not eligible for a VA home loan.
They most certainly do care. They’ve been trying to solve this problem since before occupy. The playbook back then was to plant people to give everyone second hand embarrassment and discredit movements, and it largely hasn’t changed. Billionaires spend a lot of time thinking about the guillotine.
Just making sure I’m in the right place. I cannot see any developed communities here so I’ve started wondering, what’s the real place everyone from Reddit has moved to? I’ve heard something about Discuit, but never tried it.
Probably it’s more the former reason. I used to curate my experience on reddit carefully and mainly participate woman centric subreddits, and few male centric ones, and I got used to that. Lemmy looks more like what would happen if you browse default subs on reddit, which tend to be very toxic. It’s a chicken and egg problem: you won’t attract women unless there are spaces women feel comfortable, and those spaces don’t exist unless there are women there to create them.
I still find myself going back to reddit for certain niche fashion or fitness things. And when i try to get my normie girlfriends to look at lemmy, it’s hard to sell them on it. They don’t care about politics or mod drama and reddit is still better for them.
Real talk though I’m upset that i can’t just walk around myself when I’m trying on outfits. Those mirrors in the fitting room that let you see yourself from several angles are so useful and i want them in my room.
My gf has mirrors on either side of her bed. We’re both girls and we look hot asf together. Sometimes i look in the mirror and think it’s a shame that we’re the only two who get to enjoy the view.
I’m majoring in CS related-field, and I used to have tons of passion for it and underlying tech, and worked as full stack dev, but my mind was very different in a good way (better at logical/cognitive demanding tasks, creative, productive, etc). Things happened, and I just can’t stand living in society, experiencing all this...
No, you should not. Read about Ted Kaczynski. We’re naturally social creatures. Isolation is very very bad for our mental health. If you’re feeling misanthropic now, it will get worse when you’re not around people.
It might be good for you to take a sabbatical and hike one of the triple crown trails. But the important part is to not isolate yourself completely.
This is normal in the United States and has been for a long time. When i was a homeless LGBT teenager trying to survive, i went to a temp agency trying to make a living some other way than SW. They sent me to this warehouse where a bunch of felons and ESL people were working in some of the most inhumane conditions i had ever seen before. 12 hour days in a 110 degree warehouse working with toxic industrial chemicals that we had no information on, with a bare minimum of PPE, intense physical labor moving large stacks of equipment, and one break at the 6 hour mark to drink water. Most of the people there had been there a while. They just had this quiet resignation and determination to survive.
I didn’t even last a single day. I started to feel heat stroke coming on around the 8 hour mark. Shivering, no more sweat, everything started to feel distant and confusing. I tried to go get water and they wouldn’t let me, so i threw all my equipment on the ground and stumbled outside to find water, and never went back. I’m white, trans, and feminine enough to survive other ways, but most of those people didn’t have any other options.
Fuck this monstrous place. I’ve been radicalized ever since seeing things like that.
That’s the thing that has always driven me crazy about our way of speaking about these things. Politicians say “we created x jobs” like it’s something to optimize for. People fear automation because it takes away their livelihoods. But, automating work and eliminating jobs should make people’s lives… better? Why doesn’t it actually? Where did the wires get crossed?
Why did we incentivize making humans suffer, at a grand societal level? Are we insane?
You have no idea what you’re talking about. It’s easy to say “things could never possibly be that bad” when you haven’t experienced it. I hope you never do. I’m guessing you’re a white man between 20-40, and while life hasn’t always been easy, the social contract has mostly held for you.
Others have touched on this, but ultimately the most vital trait a person can possess is perseverance and a bias for action. I would gladly work with a mediocre person who works relentlessly at improving their skills and figuring out solutions. I don’t enjoy working with “gifted” people who have plenty of ideas and few actions to show for it. Intelligence can make you risk averse, and you’re useless if you’re too afraid to take any action.
My partners and i always fight over the sink tbh. But the one time i lived with a partner and we had a double sink, we kept our hairdryer in the other sink 😝
Carry on spending the weekend in peace. My gf and i had some amazing sex when we woke up this morning, went to the farmer’s market, went to some cute shops, did cute gay stuff like holding hands while we walked all around our city. I’m content, for the first time in my life. Dying now wouldn’t be so bad.
two guys, one with boy pussy written on a sign, the other with girl pussy. there is a long line in front of boy pussy and no one in front of girl pussy
My gf almost never farts. She’s given me a complex about it, i stg. She says she trained herself not to by sheer willpower, and in spite of living together for almost 2 years, I’ve only caught her like twice.
Ukraine’s digital minister has reported concerns about the country’s overreliance on Elon Musk’s Starlink satellite internet system amid the war with Russia, The New York Times reports.
That’s kind of a ridiculous take i think. It’s more likely that one single person has too much power and uses it to enforce their morality on others. Tale as old as time.
i’m doing it because I want to make the fediverse more friendly place, in hopes of making it more welcoming for new users, and the nicer place in general. But I wonder how much is just less bots.
I started posting on 4chan in 2005 😏 my favorite communities on reddit were little isolated bubbles of 4chan refugees. Mainstream reddit culture was pretty bad, and 4chan got overrun by maga weirdos in 2016. So far Lemmy seems like mostly the worst parts of reddit with a few of the good parts. It feels like the default subs, just slower.
Trans Rights rule (discuss.tchncs.de)
Anon is in a relationship (sh.itjust.works)
Rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
Every day is full on my schedule until next March, sorry. (startrek.website)
College Students Dump Dating Apps as Bumble CEO Steps Down (gizmodo.com)
‘It’s not you, it’s me’ is the gist of college student qualms with dating apps. Hook-up culture declines while young people search for genuine connection.
Just disrespectful (startrek.website)
Right turn on red? With pedestrian deaths rising, US cities are considering bans (apnews.com)
Gen Z Explains Why They Want Less Sex In TV And Movies (www.theonion.com)
theOnion
Why does eating a frozen ready meal alone feel depressing even tho it's objectively good that I can have nice warm food easily
very kirk van houten coded...
Do you think monogamy will always be the main "form" of earth or do we just break someday this code and just "do whatever we want"
Will this one-by-one system forever be our main thing or do you think we will break monogamy and maybe “team up” as groups or something?...
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finally... (feddit.de)
Exclusive: Pentagon to review cases of LGBTQ+ veterans denied honorable discharges under "don't ask, don't tell" (www.cbsnews.com)
Thousands of LGBTQ+ veterans who were kicked out of the military because of their sexuality could see their honor restored under a new initiative the Defense Department announced Wednesday, on the 12th anniversary of the repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy banning gays and lesbians from openly serving in the...
spinny (media.discordapp.net)
Rich people in positions of power literally do not care (lemmy.zip)
edit: Emphasis on “but do nothing”. I suggest civil disobedience.
Where are all of the reddit refugees these days?
Just making sure I’m in the right place. I cannot see any developed communities here so I’ve started wondering, what’s the real place everyone from Reddit has moved to? I’ve heard something about Discuit, but never tried it.
Have you ever seen your own ass? (lemmy.world)
Should I just quit urban and social life for a rural and lonely life?
I’m majoring in CS related-field, and I used to have tons of passion for it and underlying tech, and worked as full stack dev, but my mind was very different in a good way (better at logical/cognitive demanding tasks, creative, productive, etc). Things happened, and I just can’t stand living in society, experiencing all this...
A Special Sunset (sh.itjust.works)
Taken with a Google Pixel 6 Pro
Blocked blocked blocked (startrek.website)
‘They Treat Us Worse Than Animals’: Working Without Water at Amazon (tribunemag.co.uk)
Being “gifted”, only makes you wish you weren’t sometimes (i.imgur.com)
braaaaaaaaas (lemmy.ml)
I’ve found it! The pinnacle of 1970s “chic” (feddit.uk)
The carpet, the jacuzzi, the steps, the mirrors above the bed… and I’d put money on that being a waterbed! Glorious.
Lemmy might, MIGHT have a small bias towards the left (lemm.ee)
Rekt (infosec.pub)
Wayne Brady Comes Out as Pansexual: 'I'm Doing This for Me' (people.com)
if you were going to die tomorrow and only you knew what would you do?
no you cant tell anyone youre going to die, you have 24 hours starting now
pussy rule
two guys, one with boy pussy written on a sign, the other with girl pussy. there is a long line in front of boy pussy and no one in front of girl pussy
When someone makes a crude joke on the internet (lemmy.world)
Is it possible to eat in such a way that you'll never have to fart?
If not, then what about rarely instead of never?
Starlink has become the 'blood' of Ukraine's communication infrastructure, but officials are reportedly growing concerned about relying on Elon Musk's tech (www.businessinsider.com)
Ukraine’s digital minister has reported concerns about the country’s overreliance on Elon Musk’s Starlink satellite internet system amid the war with Russia, The New York Times reports.
Random image from my gallery rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
Picked it randomly. Yes it’s from reddit, I downloaded over 1000 picks from there and I don’t feel like manually removing watermark from all of them
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I feel like Fediverse users are nicer to each other and more generous with upvotes than reddit.
i’m doing it because I want to make the fediverse more friendly place, in hopes of making it more welcoming for new users, and the nicer place in general. But I wonder how much is just less bots.