grammaticus, to actuallyautistic
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In this week's post on the blog I offer a number of tips on the subject of , in and a few in - all created and hosted by folks.

Please let me know of other podcasts that you've found helpful and that should be on this list - I'll be updating it from time to time with new links.

https://grammaticus.blog/2023/08/30/listening-tips-autism/

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DivergentDumpsterPhoenix, to autisticadvocacy
@DivergentDumpsterPhoenix@disabled.social avatar

If there were no barriers, and you had unlimited resources. What one thing would you do?

I would start an academic institution dedicated to the study and advancement of the neurodiversity paradigm and movement.

#actuallyautistic #autism #autistic #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #askingautistics #askingadhders

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iridella, to bookstodon
@iridella@neurodifferent.me avatar

Neurotribes, by Steve Silverman. Amazing book, it gave context to so many things I have read about autism, misconceptions, contradictions etc. and how we are where we are. It's a hard read because it describes how autistic children were treated (and adults ignored) until not so long ago, but I would recommend it to anyone who wants to know more about autism. Note it focusses exclusively on North America and (parts of) Europe. @bookstodon

DivergentDumpsterPhoenix, to autisticadvocacy
@DivergentDumpsterPhoenix@disabled.social avatar

Two things to understand about harm-reduction:

  1. Harm-reduction does not make something "safe".

  2. Harm-reduction is only effective when both the professional and service user have a good understanding of each other.

If either of these points are misunderstood, the harm will not be reduced.

https://emergentdivergence.com/2023/08/28/creating-autistic-suffering-camhs-advise-safe-cutting-for-autistic-children/

ND Social Care & Family Services

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fjolnir_ravenson, to writers
@fjolnir_ravenson@me.dm avatar

This one is highly personal but is what I deal with daily as both a parent and writer. I aimed to give insight on and the different levels, Non-Verbal, meltdowns, and other disorders that can accompany parenting/caregiving someone with Also, the challenges as an author and tips at the very end!

@writers @autism @autism101 @parenting @medium

https://damienlawless.medium.com/juggling-autism-parenting-ed9ff879ec9b

Banner I made using the PicsArt app

youronlyone, to actuallyautistic
@youronlyone@c.im avatar

“Autistic Masking Is A Survival Mechanism Until It’s A Threat To Survival”

“It’s the environments we move in that need to change urgently”

A good read.

https://justinel999.medium.com/people-dont-know-i-m-autistic-but-i-m-not-masking-aa84a6c7c07a

@youronlyone

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StevenSaus, to actuallyautistic
@StevenSaus@faithcollapsing.com avatar

@actuallyautistic

I am seriously wondering -- with the massive under- and mis-diagnosis of neurospicy things:

Are we really the "divergent" ones here, numerically? Or are we just not the ones who made the rules?

PsychTink, to autisticadvocacy
PsychTink,
StevenSaus, to actuallyautistic
@StevenSaus@faithcollapsing.com avatar

It appears the same technique used to identify and be more in touch with one's stress levels translate quite well to sensory overload as well. Interesting!

@actuallyautistic

youronlyone, to actuallyautistic
@youronlyone@c.im avatar

So, this is what's happening to me:

It describes it as:
“Autistic burnout is a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic life stress and a mismatch of expectations and abilities without adequate supports. It is characterized by pervasive, long-term (typically 3+ months) exhaustion, loss of function, and reduced tolerance to stimulus.” ~Raymaker et al, 2020

Typically the Autistic person in question will still have multiple demands in their life that require cognitive resources, despite having little to no resources left to give. Life goes on, as they say.

Read the rest here: https://emergentdivergence.com/2023/05/12/creating-autistic-suffering-what-is-atypical-burnout/


Hat tip to: @emergentdivergence.bsky.social from the network.

What do you think? Anyone else?

@youronlyone

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zenforyen, to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic I'm not #actuallyautistic but I got #adhd diagnosed at 29, realizing that all cliche symptoms and diagnostic surveys are very superficial crap, lacking many subtle aspects.

I wonder, are the "cliche symptoms" for autism any good? E.g. can someone be autistic even if they can "read" other people just fine, and have no noticeable "special interest" or "rigid routines"?

Am I correct thinking this "special interest" thing must be rather persistent, like years/life long?

Thanks!

CuriousMagpie,
@CuriousMagpie@mastodon.social avatar

@zenforyen @actuallyautistic Here's a way to think about

joshsusser, to actuallyautistic
@joshsusser@neurodifferent.me avatar

I read that HHS report on the . I suppose it's good that the issue is getting some attention, but I was disappointed the report's focus was on "normal" people who are lonely because of circumstances and breakdown of social infrastructure. Disabled people are included in a few lists of groups getting the worst of things, but people aren't mentioned at all, unless you think the umbrella use of "mental health" counts. How ridiculous is that? We're left out of the report about people getting left out.

Is there a sign I can say "don't make me tap" about that explains how making societal changes to accommodate the people who need it most makes things better for everyone, but if you focus on making things better for the majority who already have it mostly OK you just make things worse overall?

https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2023/05/03/new-surgeon-general-advisory-raises-alarm-about-devastating-impact-epidemic-loneliness-isolation-united-states.html

@actuallyautistic

joshsusser,
@joshsusser@neurodifferent.me avatar

I just submitted a public comment to the for their October meeting, to give some feeback on how the report on the failed us.

> The Interagency Autism Coordinating Committee (IACC) is a [USA] Federal advisory committee that coordinates Federal efforts and provides advice to the Secretary of Health and Human Services on issues related to autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Through its inclusion of both Federal and public members, the IACC helps to ensure that a wide range of ideas and perspectives are represented and discussed in a public forum.

The next IACC meeting is Oct 11, and comments are due by Sept 28 if you feel so motivated: https://iacc.hhs.gov/meetings/public-comments/index.jsp
ASAN has a nice guide for how to submit comments: https://autisticadvocacy.org/policy/toolkits/iacc/

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

I have read the recent report from the Surgeon General on "Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation", and was disappointed that the focus was on so-called "normal" people who are lonely because of circumstance or breakdown of social infrastructure. Autistic people are arguably far more affected by isolation and loneliness than most people, but somehow are entirely omitted from the report. This seems outrageous. We are so easy to exclude that we are left out from the report about people getting left out.

We know that applying Universal Design concepts to accessibility creates environments and systems that work better for everyone. Curb cuts allow wheelchair users access to sidewalks, but also improve things for people with baby strollers. We know that making things better for the most vulnerable and most impacted often makes things better for everyone. If we work to reduce loneliness specifically for Autistic people, it's quite likely that will help lonely people of all sorts. But leaving Autistic people out of the conversation means nothing will get better for us, because the things that help most people won't necessarily help us. Creating more ways to do social activities with strangers is not the benefit for us that it might be for allistic people. It might actually make things worse for us, by shifting resources to programs we can't use at the expense of things that might help us.

Autistic people are desperate for help and support, but we and our needs are repeatedly ignored, even by initiatives that should be prioritizing us. It is demoralizing to see a major initiative like the Epidemic of Loneliness exclude and fail us so completely.

ScruffyDux, to actuallyautistic
@ScruffyDux@fosstodon.org avatar

@actuallyautistic Thought I didn't relate to the profile of . Starting to realize, actually, I do.

Example. Absolutely could not bring myself to work today on a freelance project. Tried to make it happen, failed.

Decided I want going to work on it today after all.

Immediately got the work done.

Why, brain, why??

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
@JeremyMallin@autistics.life avatar

I just attended a good Zoom by a local group for adults with

Tonight's Zoom was about issues and We also discussed ANC headphones and other technical coping mechanisms.

@actuallyautistic

DivergentDumpsterPhoenix, to actuallyadhd
@DivergentDumpsterPhoenix@disabled.social avatar

do you experience imposter syndrome?

I have been so good at hiding parts of myself over the years that I now doubt they are there.

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @actuallyadhd

BZBrainz, to bookstodon
@BZBrainz@mastodonbooks.net avatar

Late-Identified AuDHD: A Starter Workbook—a tool to begin gathering information together. (Large-Print pending review!! 🤩)

✅ Do you suspect you have spectrum disorder (ASD) and attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)?
✅ Are you late-diagnosed with ( + )?
✅ Are you still trying to identify your traits and describe your experiences to access support?
➡️ https://books2read.com/audhd
@bookstodon
@Adhdinos
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PsychTink, to autisticadvocacy
DivergentDumpsterPhoenix, to autisticadvocacy
@DivergentDumpsterPhoenix@disabled.social avatar

People wrongly assume that Autistic people are asocial or anti-social. In my book "The New Normal" I make the case that we are AuSocial with our own cultural and social practices.

Here I expand on that a bit further.

https://emergentdivergence.com/2023/08/16/ausocial-towards-an-understanding-of-autistic-social-culture/

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StevenSaus, to autisticadvocacy
@StevenSaus@faithcollapsing.com avatar

This... this hit, and Occam (along with what I know of sociology and economics and such) all track wit h this insight as well.

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StevenSaus,
@StevenSaus@faithcollapsing.com avatar

@stonebear @autisticadvocacy @Zumbador

There's a good part of me that wonders if there's a correlation between a wider range gender expression (and relationship diversity, perhaps) and the neurospicy tendency to look at conventions that have no reasoning behind them and then ignore the (stupid) conventions and just do what makes sense/ feels "correct" to us.

I am a cishet dude, so I may be VERY VERY off-base here. Thoughts?

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adelinej,
@adelinej@thecanadian.social avatar

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

The classic “you don’t look autistic”

me “How I’m supposed to look?”

neversosimple, to random
@neversosimple@mstdn.social avatar

So what's the idea behind using the hashtag?

It feels unwelcoming to me. Like I shouldn't engage here if I'm not autistic enough. I'm second guessing my own experiences less by the day, but from what I've heard almost everyone with late diagnosis have felt gaslit and left out throughout their lives. With all the self doubt that entails, seeing people proclaiming they're actually autistic feels like yet another "you don't belong here".

BZBrainz, to actuallyautistic
@BZBrainz@mastodonbooks.net avatar

@audhd @Adhdinos @actuallyautistic

COMING SOON!

The large print version of Late-Identified : A Starter Workbook is almost done! This is a starter workbook for those with late-identified and .
I aim to keep the cost of paperbacks the same for equitable access. This version should be live by 8/18/2023!

💫 https://books2read.com/audhd

DivergentDumpsterPhoenix, (edited ) to autisticadvocacy
@DivergentDumpsterPhoenix@disabled.social avatar
johnnyprofane1, to actuallyautistic
@johnnyprofane1@neurodifferent.me avatar

"Calm down."
🧵

G-d, I hate those words. Always have.

#AutisticParent #AutisticMom #AutisticDad
#AutisticAwareness #AutisticAcceptance
#Autism #ADHD #AuDHD #AutisticAdults #AutisticAlly
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@actuallyadhd

I've heard them pretty much every day of my long life.

Delivered in soothing tones...
Helpful tones...
Authoritative...
Anxious...
Angry...
Sometimes accompanied by a slap.

From Parents. Teachers. Priests. Playmates. Lovers. Doctors. Therapists... Each one demanding one thing of me.

👉Control over THEIR own feelings.

By demanding... control of mine.

WHO needs control when I'm sad?
Angry?
Intense?
Passionate?
Proud?
Informative...
Joyful...
or...
Suicidal?

You folks do.

I'm feeling what I'm feeling. And expressing it in ways that are not only the most natural to me... but also the most appropriate...

To the neurology I was born with.

You may not like it.
In the park.
In the grocery store.
In front of strangers.
In front of Aunt Mary.
In 2nd grade.
👇👇👇

With my office door open.
In your waiting room.
On our 3rd date.
In your house...
In your life.

There's a whole wing of autism deniers masquerading as scholars who say we autistics lack a "theory of mind."

Like adult autistics don't deal with typical human minds
👉 24 / 7 / 365.25 ... 👈

YOUR problem with MY behavior is easier to understand than your whole "theory of mind," "behavioral analysis" crap.

I don't get how YOU think or feel.
You don't get how * I * think or feel...
And we rub each other the wrong way. Just like cats and dogs.

👉THIS cat has a theory of your mind. It's simple.

You don't acknowledge what you think or feel.
Not in public.
Lots of times not even to yourself.

S'why y'all drive me crazy.

Why did parents, teachers, "helping" pros, "friends" tell me to calm down?

Not to soothe my distress. To soothe THEIR distress.

👉 Shame?
Not fun to feel ashamed... of your child.

👉 Fear?
Scary when everybody's looking at you.
And you think it's not even your fault.

👉 Anger?
It's frustrating... when you have no control.
Like... when I don't do what you want me to. Fast enuff.

👉 Soothing?
Of course, YOU need soothing...

Every time someone else's pain...
Or bad luck...
Or death...
Reminds you of YOUR danger.

🚨 "Calm down." 🚨

There is never a time that a command...
implying that an autistic person in distress is doing "something wrong"...
helps.

Doesn't matter our age... education... profession... wealth.

And since your "helpful advice" almost certainly inflames their pain... literally adding fuel to the fire in our hearts, minds, and bodies...

You'll NEVER get the outcome you demand... soothing.

You'll just add one more brick to the prison wall of our trauma.

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