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grammaticus

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Tree-hugging #Birder and #CatDaddy. Obsessed with #Fungi. #Neurodivergent. #English, #Latin & Classical #Greek #teacher. Blogging regularly on the topics of #language, #culture & #literature: https://grammaticus.blog

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Sci_Fi_FanGirl, to actuallyautistic German
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@ahrimans_erbe @hellomiakoda @actuallyautistic

Maybe this video might be helpful:
https://youtu.be/xkIpcZOyY4w?si=pHiSRAiHXBbHezTo

I've also noticed that I am a quite different person depending on where I am and who I'm with. It gets extremely stressful when such different spaces come together.

grammaticus,
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@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @ahrimans_erbe @hellomiakoda @actuallyautistic it's the same with me - I've never allowed my, however small, circles of friends, acquaintances or colleagues mix, for that exact reason

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades feel about spirituality?

Not religion, per se, but spirituality.

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grammaticus,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I've always found the word too vague. Unless there's a religious, organised, established form to it (and rules! :D), it can be very confusing. Especially since people tend to use it as a catch-all term for their own idiosyncratic approach to religious belief.

I always feel like there's some extra information needed - spirituality of what? That missing word is the keyword.

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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How do my comrades feel about self-check out at the supermarket?

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grammaticus,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I avoid it like plague. I always get so confused about what I'm supposed to do + very anxious about doing something wrong. 😱

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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How do my comrades feel about haircuts?

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grammaticus,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic for a few years I would trim my own hair, which did not look all that great 🤣 Now I go about once in two months, always to the same place, making an appointment with the same person.

Still, I'm stressed out even thinking about it, I wish I could do it properly by myself ✂️

DivergentDumpsterPhoenix, to autisticadvocacy
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Psychiatry in the west has been built upon a long history of colonial aggression. If you are part of a minority group, chances are you will end up in a psychiatrists office at some point in your life.

Psychiatry then positions the problem in your brain, rather than the political and material circumstances of your life.

Psychiatry needs to do better.

@actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

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@DivergentDumpsterPhoenix @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy

It's often that those minorities do not have access to psychiatric services or counselling. And even when they do, it isn't always a very positive or beneficial experience.

I'm finding more encouragement in the acceptance of self-diagnosed autistics by the wider autistic community than by any advances in contemporary psychiatry / psychology, tbh

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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Do any of my #ActuallyAutistic comrades find any particular vitamins, herbs, foods, or the avoidance of them to be helpful with their self-regulation?

NOTE I am NOT speaking about quack autism “cures” peddled on the net. I am speaking about things which help with regulation.

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic not for self-regulation as such. I only take some multivitamins to help with vitamin deficiency - I tend to eat a lot of the same, not very balanced at all. And vitamin B is supposed to be good depression, so I've been taking more of that (although I can't really tell any difference 🤷‍♂️)

grammaticus, to actuallyautistic
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In this week's post on the blog I offer a number of tips on the subject of , in and a few in - all created and hosted by folks.

Please let me know of other podcasts that you've found helpful and that should be on this list - I'll be updating it from time to time with new links.

https://grammaticus.blog/2023/08/30/listening-tips-autism/

@actuallyautistic

grammaticus,
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@adelinej @actuallyautistic fantastic, thank you!

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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How do my comrades use the days when they have more energy?

Expend it all? Go half way and and continue to rest? Use none of it at all?

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I tend to focus on home improvement projects, moving furniture around and decluttering - the sort of things I can't even think about when I'm in a low-energy mode

CuriousMagpie, to random
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Went to the hospital today for neurological testing. I saw only four other patients who were wearing a mask and no practitioners or staff. I honestly don't understand.
1/x

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@CuriousMagpie @actuallyautistic I'm so sorry to hear about your experience. I've definitely been in similar situations, and I still remember vividly every single one. Most upsetting!

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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What does the term "Autistic Burnout" mean to you?

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grammaticus,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic being extremely low-energy, depleted and wiped-out; going into a kind of recovery mode where I'm self-isolating, not answering any calls or responding to emails. Reading about how people describe CFS, it's a lot like that (it might be it, for all I know)

grammaticus, to actuallyautistic
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Five hours of sleep... 😴 Not bad, in the end, I guess. Just to share what finally helped me to fall asleep - a white noise stream on my radio app. 📻

I've heard of it before - people using white noise machines and such, but I've never tried it before. I guess I can put this on my list of life hacks that actually work ☑️

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@StevenSaus @actuallyautistic @ChrisT that's fantastic, thank you so much for sharing those!

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic it's incredibly difficult for me to shake off the sense of loss. It just doesn't go away

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@Zumbador @actuallyautistic I feel this too, big time. Rain, wind, snow... I feel fantastic! Thunderstorms are the best! ⛈️

But when it's "nice" weather, calm and sunny, I feel like 💩

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@independentpen @actuallyautistic I'm too confused about where I am to answer any of those with clarity or certainty.

Each day is filled with ups and downs, but there are things that keep me going and give me joy. I try to hold onto them and that's what provides me with some consistency.

A lot of the time, however, everything feels like a house of cards that may collapse at any given moment 🤷‍♂️

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@neversosimple @actuallyautistic welcome to the club! 👋

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@nomadave @actuallyautistic I loved it - rewatching it now for the second time

Adelie - Chinstrap - Emperor - Gentoo... Helps me too! :)

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic I used to drink quite a bit. In fact, I went teetotal only about six months ago when I was first prescribed antidepressants. Non-alcoholic beer is crap, but I'll have some of that on occasion. (I should add there's some history of alcohol abuse in my family, so quitting alcohol definitely feels like breaking a cycle)

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@Autistrain @IzabelaKaramia @actuallyautistic same for me - nature sounds I'm very happy with, but road traffic is a disaster. I now never leave home without headphones :blobcatheadphones:

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@Autistrain @IzabelaKaramia @actuallyautistic yeah, I don't know what to make of it - I'm OK with loud music in my headphones, but I can't stand it when someone plays it loud on the speakers. 🤷‍♂️

With traffic noise, I think it has to do with movement and randomness - cars passing by, noises going up and down with no rhythm or pattern to it. That's what keeps me constantly on edge.

Nature noises are also random but somehow they don't cause the same level of stress (or any, for the most part)

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@sarahmaywalt @actuallyautistic one thing that has been helping me a lot are #podcasts created by #ActuallyAutistic folks. Off the top of my head, the ones I've been listening to lately are Thoughty Auti, The Autism Podcast, Meet My Autistic Brain, 1800 Seconds on Autism... There are plenty more out there

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic until I started setting reminders in my online calendar, I could easily go the whole day without any water (I do tend to drink a lot of tea, though)

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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic how long is the event supposed to last / at what point would it be okay to leave

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@servelan @Carex @Uniflame @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic that is so relatable! I was just thinking today about all the times my mum kept telling me to smile and not look sad or expressionless. I hated it but I did it - and I still keep doing it, in all kinds of situations. It's like it's become my default face in social interactions, regardless of context. It's exhausting 😐

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@AutisticAdam @Uniflame @servelan @Carex @actuallyautistic better late than never... I'm 44 and I'm just beginning to unpack it all :meowbox:

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