Still trying to figure out who in my family is neurodivergent and how.
Seems like there is a pattern emerging: If both parents are neurodivergent, chances for the kids to be is at almost 100%. If only one parent is, chances seem to be about 50/50.
Anyone know if there are actual studies on that or is there just not enough data from past generations?
@looneybyron@pathfinder This gets me to wondering though… if indeed #neurodivergence is inherited and not recessive, then won’t it quickly become the new normative expectation? Seems like #evolution to me… 😁
the job i had wanted since i was a kid was the wrong job for me.
i have no career now and i'm also unemployable.
you know, i never developed a social life and i never started a family. it wasn't important to me at 20 or 30 but now, at 40, it feels like something's missing.
i'm an adult now and i'm no longer very interested in the hobbies i had at 20. there's nothing to do now.
i have a drinking problem.
why could i never do housework properly? oh, right, the #AuDHD...
i have nothing to lose, so i guess i'll try to ask the government to help me.
practical home assistance granted. admitted to back-to-work programme. applied for a social support contact today, to give myself more to do.
i'm nothing at the moment. i was broken down and now i have to build a new me, from scratch.
@chrislw i was in my early 30s when i began suspecting something wasn't right. i knew i was different but chalked it up to being a nerd until i began running into problems and they grew bigger and bigger. i saw a psychiatrist in public healthcare about it. he dismissed #ADHD and said i had mild #ASD, but didn't seem very confident about it. there's no treatment for that and it isn't supposed to cause much trouble so i just kept trying to work for the next ~5 years.
i landed what i thought was a good job with nice colleagues, but felt myself beginning to struggle again, and that's when i contacted an independent psychiatrist with ADHD expertise to get a second opinion. he dismissed the ASD diagnosis and concluded it was ADHD, and he seemed confident about that.
the ADHD part always seemed to match me better, but i'm thinking there's some ASD in there as well, seeing as a lot of nerds are on the spectrum. the label AuDHD feels fitting here. some kind of #neurodivergence. spicy brain.
Morning, all!
Bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and ready to appear on SalesTV this morning.
I am talking about neurodivergence in sales, and how sales leaders can support their neurodivergent team members, as well as ideas for how to support yourself to deal with your workplace needs in sales.
If you want to work with me and see me in this setup, then the next chance is my emotional regulation workshop on the 27th of October at 7.15pm.
We'll talk about
what emotional regulation is
how emotional regulation/dysregulation can show up for ADHD and autistic adults
the kind of relationship you'd like to have to your emotions
one recommendation I can give for starting off a journey of emotional regulation
your mini-action plan for relating to your emotions in the way you'd prefer
We don't demonise any emotions (it can zap zest to do so) and I take a compassionate and accepting approach.
You get a free pdf workbook 3 days before the workshop to allow you to reflect and prepare, and understand more about the session. Captions will be on. You have your camera off if you need, and communication is through the chatbox, so no one needs to speak. We will also keep session confidentiality, and no recordings of you are sent out.
So if you'd like to see and experience your emotions in a slightly different way, this could be the session for you.
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Hey neurodivergent friends - we've got a lot of good places to discuss across fedi and I've been thinking that we don't always have a place the share with each other across groups for specific conditions. Maybe there is and I just haven't found it yet 😅
At any rate, I made a group for us: @neurodivergents
I like that they have basic moderation, which can help conversations. I'm not trying to impose my own will on anyone, and I envision it as a self-governing community group
"Nah, I don't stim!"
"Is THIS stimming?"
"I stim, therefore I am"
-from "Initiation Rites for the Late-Identified #ActuallyAutistic "-
I really thought I don't stim. I don't rock or flap my hands or jump or chew things or make stimmy sounds.
Of course, I do softly grind my teeth (sometimes I may wear night guard during daytime too), wiggle my toes or legs, enjoy knitting simple patterns (= the same repetitive motion), fidget like there's no tomorrow with any small object I can get my hands on and may start picking my nails if I can't find anything else, doodle, I might undo my hair and braid it while watching TV, or braid tassels of my throw blanket...
Stimming is healthy and good for you. Do it.
If -as is the case with many late-identified autists- you have suppressed your stims or been pressured to stop and feel like you have forgotten how to stim, then try to start again. Learn about different stims and just try different ones until you find something that does the trick for you.
@ReimanSaara It’s the same issue we often face just being recognized by NT. “You can’t be autistic… you can speak and look into my eyes…” There may certainly be commonalities but we are diverse in our #neurodivergence. It makes sense that the way we #stim doesn’t fit into neat preconceived boxes.