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JeremyMallin

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Recently identified late Dx Autistic he/him. Artist, designer, engineer.

Avatar: Full color selfie photo of me, a 50 year-old white man in a black T-shirt, wearing eyeglasses

Background: A 3D rendering of a rainbow colored arrangement of rows of Crayola crayons created by me in Lightwave with textures I created in Illustrator

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JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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Is it a very autisticy thing that I once, as a grown adult, thought it was a good idea to make my own Charlie Brown zig zag T-shirt and then wear it out in public with khaki cargo shorts, and I only thought it was mildly quirky when I did? 🤔😆

Or that even now I have ideas for how to make an even better one?

Context: I didn't know I was autistic at the time. I do know though.


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theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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Do my comrades have a good relationship with their families of origin?

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JeremyMallin,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic Nope. sigh

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I'm finding that I'm really obsessed with practicing UV unwrapping in Blender and coming up with clean, simple, and attractive UV maps. Everyone else seems to loathe doing this. Is this the ? 😆

  • Also, Blender 4's native tools are pretty good. I'm mostly only using third party apps occasionally and just for better packing when I do.

** I also used to really love paper folding long before computers were a thing. Maybe that's part of it too? 🤔

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JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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A thing I don't get about (one of many things)

Why does everyone talk about the weather shortly after greeting each other?

"Um? Yes, I too went outside. That's how we both got here."

Did they think you didn't notice on the way over? 🤔

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Also, why do cars have consoles with weather reports? You're outside already. You already know it's too cold, too hot, or comfortable

"It's raining." The car has windows. You can probably see that for yourself. If not, maybe you shouldn't be driving.

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@MishaVanMollusq @actuallyautistic 😆

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JeremyMallin,
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@kristenhg @actuallyautistic Nice! That I actually understand. I'm always up for science talk—even when I'm just listening with not much to contribute.

JeremyMallin,
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@joshsusser @actuallyautistic I literally never want to fight. I have to convince random people that too? Yikes!

JeremyMallin,
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@VoxofGod @actuallyautistic I need to learn how to vibe effectively.

poloniousmonk, to actuallyautistic
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"Science just discovered a tailless person!"

Turns out there's a name for the inability to form mental images, aphantasia, and it seems to correlate with autism. I certainly have this.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aphantasia

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@poloniousmonk @actuallyautistic It's weird because the opposite of aphantasia, called hyperphantasia, also seems to be more common with autism. I think I have hyperphantasia. I can form very vivid, very detailed 3-dimensional holographic mental images.

I think there are other instances where opposite conditions are both more common with autism. I wonder why.

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I was well into adulthood when I finally figured out why no bath towel ever seems absorbent enough.

  1. I'm ; so, any moisturev at all on my skin greatly bothers me.

  2. Skin soaks up water like a sponge. Even if you remove all the surface moisture, some water absorbed by the skin still makes its way back out to the surface.

  3. Most bath towels truly are awful regardless.

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@VoxofGod @actuallyautistic I don't know why they don't just make them out of modern hydroscopic sponge-like foam materials instead of fabric at all.

JeremyMallin,
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@foo @actuallyautistic That sounds great.

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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it isn't that we lack empathy as people LOVE to claim

it's that we don't empathize with a lack of empathy and NT norms of expression.

because they're bs

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@JamesPadraicR @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

💯 💯 💯

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I wonder…

If I could type on a keyboard all the time, would I ever physically speak?

I think I'd prefer a real, full size keyboard to a mobile phone touch keyboard though.

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@SingingNala @actuallyautistic Yes. I feel that way sometimes too. It seems to vary day to day, but trends more common the older I get.

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I noticed many years ago, that certain fabrics, materials, clothing types irritate my skin less when it's sufficiently cold enough in winter. I wonder why that is. 🤔


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ScottSoCal, to actuallyautistic
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Wondering if this is an autism thing, or a me thing:

When they cast an actor in a movie, in a speaking part, but then have someone else sing and the actor just lipsyncs it. It's jarring, it throws me out of the movie and all I can think is "that's not his/her voice, how am I supposed to go along with this?"
We're watching a musical. And an actor is lipsyncing to someone else singing.

JeremyMallin,
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@ScottSoCal @actuallyautistic Yeah.
Dubbed voices are tough on me too. I think I have an auditory processing issue that has led me to rely a lot on lipreading, and this interferes with that.

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I have trouble maintaining direct , but I have no problem with photographs of people looking directly at the camera or drawings of people looking at the viewer.

Do people really have this level of problem with it? Do you?


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18+ JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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Some of my triggers/tortures:

• very low pitch sound
• very high pitch sound
• very loud sound
• sock toe seams
• shirt wrist cuffs
• wrist watches
• in ear buds & plugs
• over ear head phones (but not as bad)
• wool clothing
• my whiskers
• my ear hair
• my nose hair
• background noise when I'm trying to hear
• very bright light
• very dim light
• artificial light
• rapidly blinking light
• repetitive sounds

What are yours?



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18+ JeremyMallin,
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@HaelusNovak @actuallyautistic
Fragrances! I forgot about that. I can't really smell many things, but strong fragrances is a real trigger even for me.

18+ JeremyMallin,
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@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic
Oh yes! Fabric softener is the worst!

JeremyMallin, to random
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I'm curious… what's the definition of "active users" versus "total users" regarding instances? How are those calculated?

The Pixelfed instance I'm on reports well over 100k users, but only 5.4k active users. I don't see how there are that many inactive users. What's up? 🤔

The other (not this one) Mastodon instance I'm on has more active users but far fewer total.

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I rarely ever address anyone by name. There are people I've known for decades whose names I've never even used when addressing them directly.

Is that an #Autism thing?

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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How did my comrades come to know that they’re autistic?

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JeremyMallin,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic
Phase 0: (47-48 years)
Vague sense of struggling and being different. No idea why. Some incorrect guesses.

Phase 1: (a year or so)
Listening to Autistics on social media and thinking "That can't be autism because I do that too."

Phase 2: (a month or so)
Listening to Autistics describe my life exactly, except they were talking about themselves.

Phase 3: (about a week)
Self assessments (RBQ, RAADS-R, AQ)

Phase 4: (a few days)
Maybe I am.

Phase 5:
I am.

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Autistic masking behaviors vary from person to person. What are some of your masking characteristics?

image: @alittlepuddins.ie

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

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@autism101 @actuallyautistic

A big one that isn't on the graphic is feigning ignorance/dumbing myself down to fit in.

JeremyMallin,
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@pilum @autism101 @actuallyautistic 🤔 I guess so. Kinda vague.

AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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Autistic me:

Loves books but does not have the mental stamina to sit and read a book from start to finish for hours on end. So instead consumes short-form content online for hours and hours.

Yeah because this makes sense...

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JeremyMallin,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic My manifestion of that is that I usually read just a few pages at a time, and often take a year to finish a book.

JeremyMallin, to random
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A fair number of mutuals from the old platform are now mutuals on here. I'm really glad about that, but I still miss some of the ones I remember from before who aren't here yet. I wonder how the missing folks are doing sometimes.

JeremyMallin,
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I wonder if this is an thing… I very often think about people who have drifted out of my life even years later—my old classmates from school, my campers from when I was a summer camp counselor, former colleagues, people I knew on defunct social media and early chat rooms. Every now and again, I even spend some time Googling to see if I can find people from many years ago.

But I also have great difficulty keeping up with social connections too.

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@failedLyndonLaRouchite @actuallyautistic I think there is a good chance that you're right. I still feel like a newbie sorting it all out.

JeremyMallin,
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@AlisonW @actuallyautistic Yeah. I've probably searched for hundreds (definitely at least dozens) over the years. I've found maybe a hand full at most, but for some reason that small number makes me feel successful in the attempt. Weird.

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades recover and practice self-care about a meltdown?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic
Solitude, silence, and rest.

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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How many fellow Autistics have never lied on a job application, never lied on a CV, never lied on tax forms? 🙋‍♂️

Is doing that expected? Is it required? Is not doing that handicapping us? Do you too feel almost unable to do that?

#AskingAutistics
#ActuallyAutistic
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@UnCoveredMyths @actuallyautistic Me too I think.

JeremyMallin,
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@f1337 @actuallyautistic I've been in that situation before too.

I got rejected from an honor society in high school because they thought I had too many community service hours; so, they assumed I was lying. I was not.

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@IPmonger @actuallyautistic me too. 💔

JeremyMallin,
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@Cassandra @actuallyautistic 💯

JeremyMallin,
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@AlisonW @actuallyautistic Me too. 😟

AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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Autistic people are often attracted to one particular line in a song and will sing that one line aloud or in their brain for days, possibly in the singer’s accent. This may be considered a form of stimming, as well as a form of echolalia.

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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I think I also do that with particular parts of songs that I can't stand too. I never knew why. I can't explain it as anything other than stimming, but I didn't know that until just recently.


JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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Are there any Autistics who do not have any auditory sensory issues at all? I've found plenty with different auditory triggers than I have—some times even seemingly opposite to mine.

The construction equipment working in this grocery store parking lot is emitting a high decibel low frequency bass that is killing me while I'm waiting for my pickup order.

#AcutuallyAutistic
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AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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A big part of being autistic for me is being very intentional with my word choices in order to say what I mean and mean what I say.

To follow that up I then start having a bunch of people claim I said something I absolutely did not because they chose to add additional meanings they made up themselves.

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JeremyMallin,
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@liskin @actuallyautistic @AutisticAdam just like Google does. 😵‍💫💔😠

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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If you're thinking of accusing an Autistic of being pedantic, just don't. :gi:

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic
#neurodivergent

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cynaq, to actuallyautistic
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I just did that test.

I went in blind and didn't think I'd score too high because as far as I understand what monotropism proposes, I didn't think it fit my profile very well. I tried to answer the questions as accurately as I could, without overthinking.

Well...

The result says I'm more monotropic than 73% of autistic people and 98% of allistic people.

I guess I was misunderstanding what monotropism would feel like, if these results are anywhere near accurate, because I'm quite surprised, to say the least.

Would anyone else like to chime in and discuss this with me a bit? This result was not at all what I was expecting.

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JeremyMallin,
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@cynaq @actuallyautistic me too.

AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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An autistic person who is unsure about their understanding and knowledge of something usually has more understanding and knowledge of that topic than non-autistic people who claim to be experts on it. We often under-sell and over-deliver. More often than not non-autistic people do the opposite.

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic

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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic 💯

JeremyMallin, to actuallyautistic
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I had a realization about my #SensoryIssues last night…

None of my #AuditoryTriggers exist in nature. They are all 100% caused by human technology.

🤔

Yet another reason for my biophilia?

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#ActuallyAutistic

youronlyone, to actuallyadhd
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One stereotype about us is we like and . I'm a “yes” and a “no”.

I do like Prime numbers and Odd numbers:

  • 17
  • 13
  • 7

17 is very special.

  • 17 is the 7th Prime
  • 1 is an odd number
  • 7 is an odd number
  • 17 is an odd number
  • 1 + 7 = 8, although an even number, it symbolises infinity and eternity, and us

13 is also special.

  • A Prime
  • An Odd
  • A Fibonacci number

And depending on whom you ask:

  • The 8th Fibonacci number
  • The 7th Fibonacci number

Ironically:

  • The anniversary of my first romantic relationship was on: 1997-07-17. It was my first love who picked that, and she had no idea what my favourite numbers are.
  • My height is 175 cm or 5'75" to 5'85" (depending on whom you ask).
  • Favourite time of the day: 07:00 and 19:00 (7pm). 19 is the 8th Prime. (There's 8 again.)

And I'm . ^_^

How about you? What two stereotypes is you and not you?

@autistics @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd @autism

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@youronlyone @autistics @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd @autism

I like prime numbers too. 1973 is a prime number. I was born in 1973.

ashleyspencer, to actuallyautistic
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I don’t use this place for advertising and only talk about the behind the scenes stuff of running my business. However, it was suggested here that I share my store links, so here they are:

The Autistic Innovator - an online store for autistic people. :RainbowInfinity:
https://shop.autisticinnovator.com

I Love Plushies - 100% plushie store for plushie lovers.
https://iloveplushies.com

Both of my stores are a labor of love. :RedHearts:

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JeremyMallin,
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@ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic I shared the link to your shop with my therapist (they're also autistic) because they love all sorts of fidget toys and autism parephernalia. 👍

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