For me it was “buy high quality pillow” because you sleep for one thrid of a day etc. I needed a new pillow anyway so I came to the store and bought the best they had. And it was … ok. Like it’s a fine pillow but my sleeping haven’t improved really, it’s basically the same. So I was disapointed :(
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I listened to this advice and splurged on a $60 or $80 “customizable” (it comes with 3 different layers, you combine them how you want) pillow and holy shit, I went from a 2-3 stack pillow ‘wake up multiple times each night and re-tuck’ to a 1-pillow man that doesn’t need to touch my pillow until it’s moved for some reason.
I won’t even name the pillow because of the nature of the thread but man. New pillow life is pretty great. Sorry that you guys got burned on your shitty pillows. For what it’s worth I also tried like 5 of the most expensive (not customizable, but all had something ‘special’ that made it better’) pillows at the mattress store and they pretty much universally sucked.
Mines exactly how stiff I want it, stays cool in warm weather, doesn’t stink of memory foam (I think it did at first, instructions were to air it out), and never goes soft.
Honestly I’ll have to look but no I don’t believe so. Just some random recommendation from a reddit comment a couple years, with multiple people praising this pillow and I’d just gotten a really nice new expensive king size bed so I said fuck it, pillow splurge time. I think I got 2 king size pillows for 160.
Edit- 200 total for 2 king pillows and I accidently got queen pillowcases instead of king and had to return them but they sent kings free of charge. so yeah, maybe get the smallest one sans pillowcase first and see if you like it. it’s a big purchase but I certainly don’t regret it. The site says it’s $84 for the cheapest smallest single pillow. sleepgram.com/pages/adjustable-pillow
That’s a good point too. The cheap warm face-grabbing cotton pillowcases with a bunch of extra slack suck, but silk is too smooth for me. I also like to wash my pillowcases a lot and silk doesn’t care for that much. Pretty sure what I have now is high-count cotton, but it actually fits the pillow properly so there aren’t corners hanging off.
Just buying an expensive pillow won’t necessarily improve your sleep. You need to try out various pillows and find the type that works best for your body and how you sleep.
Agreed. I’ve bought various expensive pillows and was never comfy or satisfied. Memory foam hybrid cooling blah blah blah… never comfy. I bought two down feather pillows for $50. Best pillows ever for me. Only reason I had to buy more was my wife kept stealing mine.
100% down pillows never have enough rise to be able to stay level when I’m side sleeping. But I sleep on all sides so finding a pillow isn’t easy either.
Speaking of pillows. I forget what brand I have, but I’m sure there are a bunch that make the same general thing. I was annoyed that I had to fight with every pillow I had to keep it from becoming a flat piece of cardboard. 8 years ago I bought pillows filled with shredded memory foam. They came with the stuffing separately so that I could fill my pillow up myself. It’s the best pillow I’ve ever had, and it hasn’t gone flat at all after many years.
I have a solid memory foam pillow and it fucking sucks. It’s like right in the middle of not being firm enough and not being soft enough. Maybe I’ll try to find one like yours.
Doesn’t that make your neck sore? I’ve used thin pillows all my life, whenever I use a pillow when travelling (hotel, someone else’s house etc) it’s ALWAYS to thick. I can’t imagine stacking two pillows on top of each other.
Nah. I’m mostly a side sleeper but even on my back, my head normally compresses the pillows enough that it’s comfortable. I occasionally wake up having tossed a pillow off to the side, but that’s rare.
Hey going off the pillow thing, I was in the same boat until I found a thin pillow. I’ve never been a memory foam or tempurpedic guy, but this pillow changed my sleep. Sorry of I sound like s shill but I love sleep.
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Yeah even with the expensive ones it’s hard to find a good one. Last time I got a pillow, I just ordered like 6 from Amazon, and tried each for a night before deciding which to keep - only one ended up being remotely good, and they were all “nice” pillows (highly rated, over $100)
I agree that pillows are very individualized, but I’m going to add my pillow choice out there since everyone else seems to be!
I’m very hot natured, so I found the GhostBed Pillow that stays cool during the night. Add to it that it’s just the right amount of firmness for me, and I love it.
I am a larger man with broad shoulders. I have trained myself to only sleep on my side due to breathing issues arising from my oversized uvula and the tendency for my tongue to join it at the back of my throat when on my back. Even when I’m awake, breathing on my back - much less speaking - is difficult due to my uvula in particular, as I can’t consciously control how it drapes back against my throat.
So I built my own pillow, so that my head doesn’t hang from my shoulders like an afterthought – no normal pillow is tall enough to support my head while I am on my side. It looks kinda like a particularly narrow and deep parking curb, vaguely saddle shaped, only it’s not made out of concrete. It’s literally a tiny showroom-demo mattress on top of a very stable wooden base, with an actual pillow secured on top of it and everything wrapped up in a custom pillow case.
Looks strange AF, but it keeps my spine straight and the crinks out of my neck.
I have sleep apnea and I have found a bumper belt works wonders. It’s a belt you attach to your back with several air bladders that keep you on your side, even if your body is included towards back sleeping. It travels very nicely. Just deflate the bladders and roll up the belt.
Luckily I don’t need anything like a bumper belt. I have trained myself to never end up on my back; to always turn a full 180° from one side to another no matter how deeply I am sleeping.
I’m able to do a number of nifty things like this in my sleep. Such as being able to wake up within 2-3 minutes of a set time, without an alarm or even a clock, so long as I get more than 4-5hrs of sleep. I’ve even been able to do it with less sleep, only with less than perfect reliability.
It’s a form of mental feedback that I do before falling asleep, and across enough days it ends up being trained in such that I don’t have to reinforce it every night.
Not quite the same, but I switched to buckwheat pillows. This way you can shape it to fit however you like no matter the position. Takes some getting used to but solved my issues with most pillows. Sadly it also means no more pillow fights…
Ok… I’m in the same boat, severe sleep apnea because of it. I sleep with 2 pillows, a dense down filled for the base and then a soft pillow on top for comfort. Keeps my head at the right height but also allows me to roll over.
Writing notes for myself to remind me to do something. The problem is that I don’t remember to look at the notes. What’s happening is that people are telling me advice that worked for them. That’s very nice of them to try, but when I’ve tried similar systems for decades and they always fail, it’s time to try something new.
I tried this. Same problem. If I need to remember to do something I put it in google calendar as a task I need to check off at a specific time. Highly effective… for me anyway.
I have a phone with me all the time and I have to be in a specific place to see notes, so notes don’t work for me. I do have a button on my phone I can talk to and say “Set a reminder to feed the animals at 6:30” or “set a weekly reminder to take out trash at 10pm every Friday” or “text her back in an hour” and then I get an alarm I can’t really ignore, I have to do something with it.
I use calendar events and put reminders depending on how important the task is. Like if it’s my mum’s birthday I put a reminder two weeks before (so I get her a gift) the day before and then the same day in the morning but if it’s something like remembering to call a company or something I just put one reminder at 3 pm on the day of the event.
You can then snooze the event for as long as you want until you have time to take care of it (at least on Samsung’s Android)
I sometimes use sticky notes in the bathroom. I stick one on the mirror right where my face appears. That way I will at least read it before removing it.
But once you get used to it you will stop paying attention. Now I only use it occassionally.
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