For me it was “buy high quality pillow” because you sleep for one thrid of a day etc. I needed a new pillow anyway so I came to the store and bought the best they had. And it was … ok. Like it’s a fine pillow but my sleeping haven’t improved really, it’s basically the same. So I was disapointed :(
Also, although I agree with the sentiment, I only need a mattress that’s just good enough to not cause issues, because when I’m asleep, I can’t care about the mattress quality.
My wife and I have taken to naming our pillows. There’s Flat Agnes, Lumpy Rutherford and The Rock, off the top of my head. I would have to consult my wife for the others.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I listened to this advice and splurged on a $60 or $80 “customizable” (it comes with 3 different layers, you combine them how you want) pillow and holy shit, I went from a 2-3 stack pillow ‘wake up multiple times each night and re-tuck’ to a 1-pillow man that doesn’t need to touch my pillow until it’s moved for some reason.
I won’t even name the pillow because of the nature of the thread but man. New pillow life is pretty great. Sorry that you guys got burned on your shitty pillows. For what it’s worth I also tried like 5 of the most expensive (not customizable, but all had something ‘special’ that made it better’) pillows at the mattress store and they pretty much universally sucked.
Mines exactly how stiff I want it, stays cool in warm weather, doesn’t stink of memory foam (I think it did at first, instructions were to air it out), and never goes soft.
Honestly I’ll have to look but no I don’t believe so. Just some random recommendation from a reddit comment a couple years, with multiple people praising this pillow and I’d just gotten a really nice new expensive king size bed so I said fuck it, pillow splurge time. I think I got 2 king size pillows for 160.
Edit- 200 total for 2 king pillows and I accidently got queen pillowcases instead of king and had to return them but they sent kings free of charge. so yeah, maybe get the smallest one sans pillowcase first and see if you like it. it’s a big purchase but I certainly don’t regret it. The site says it’s $84 for the cheapest smallest single pillow. sleepgram.com/pages/adjustable-pillow
That’s a good point too. The cheap warm face-grabbing cotton pillowcases with a bunch of extra slack suck, but silk is too smooth for me. I also like to wash my pillowcases a lot and silk doesn’t care for that much. Pretty sure what I have now is high-count cotton, but it actually fits the pillow properly so there aren’t corners hanging off.
Honestly I can’t remember an LPT I got use out of. I think the format tends to draw inane platitudes rather than actually good life advice.
Almost every “life pro tip” I’ve seen has been either ridiculously common knowledge (LPT: wipe your butt after pooping!) or weirdly specific recommendations (LPT: most frozen ravioli or tortellini can be cooked in a bowl of water in the microwave (this one is literally on the front page of the subreddit right now!)) or just straight up ads.
Finding the source of stress isn’t normally easy. It could be compounded or masked with addiction or anything really. For me, large doses of psilocybin open the wounds to be viewed as symbolic representations. This is normally a bad trip and it’s not fun, but has positive life altering consequences.
Speaking of pillows. I forget what brand I have, but I’m sure there are a bunch that make the same general thing. I was annoyed that I had to fight with every pillow I had to keep it from becoming a flat piece of cardboard. 8 years ago I bought pillows filled with shredded memory foam. They came with the stuffing separately so that I could fill my pillow up myself. It’s the best pillow I’ve ever had, and it hasn’t gone flat at all after many years.
I have a solid memory foam pillow and it fucking sucks. It’s like right in the middle of not being firm enough and not being soft enough. Maybe I’ll try to find one like yours.
Doesn’t that make your neck sore? I’ve used thin pillows all my life, whenever I use a pillow when travelling (hotel, someone else’s house etc) it’s ALWAYS to thick. I can’t imagine stacking two pillows on top of each other.
Nah. I’m mostly a side sleeper but even on my back, my head normally compresses the pillows enough that it’s comfortable. I occasionally wake up having tossed a pillow off to the side, but that’s rare.
I went to a furniture store with a friend to pass the time before she had to pick up her boyfriend up from work, and we were looking at the mattresses since she was thinking about buying a new one. The Purple mattresses were consistently disgusting feeling. They were made out of gel material and felt like those stress balls you get out of a gumball machine. I decided to test what it's like falling into the bed and as soon as my arms touched the mattress I knew it was a mistake. It felt like nails on a chalkboard. I would never be able to sleep in one of those beds unless I was wearing long sleeves, and maybe not even then. If I had a girlfriend who had one of those beds, I'd rather fuck her on the floor or just have her come to my place exclusively. They were also selling pillows from the same company, and they were heavy and the texture was even more noticeable.
I have a purple mattress and it’s ok, not life changing but better than my 5+ year old box spring. But I absolutely agree that sex on a memory foam is unpleasant to say the least.
We dropped a pretty penny on a saatva zenhaven, not disappointed. And on top of its comfort, it’s expected to last 20 years. If it does, it’ll hands down be the best $3k I’ve ever spent.
I was just trying to think about what I’ve spent big money on… and holy crap we pay a lot for rent. It’s damn near 50% of our income, and we do so much with the other half.
Maybe I’m crazy or there’s a cultural difference somewhere here, but if you needed to wear long sleeves then it’s the texture of the material, but surely you’d have a bedsheet over the mattress and not be able to feel it directly?
The pillows that they made from the same material were in pillow cases and you could still feel it through them pretty easily. I doubt a sheet would help for the mattress. A mattress pad might be enough to cover the gross texture, but at that point you would have wasted money buying a gross feeling mattress when you could have bought one that didn't need a mattress pad to feel like a bed.
I agree that pillows are very individualized, but I’m going to add my pillow choice out there since everyone else seems to be!
I’m very hot natured, so I found the GhostBed Pillow that stays cool during the night. Add to it that it’s just the right amount of firmness for me, and I love it.
Yeah even with the expensive ones it’s hard to find a good one. Last time I got a pillow, I just ordered like 6 from Amazon, and tried each for a night before deciding which to keep - only one ended up being remotely good, and they were all “nice” pillows (highly rated, over $100)
On the pillows, I’ve never had any good luck buying pillows in the past. I tried Beckham Hotel Collection recently because it was the best seller on Amazon, and I figured why not. The king size is definitely the comfier pillow. It’s fluffy but it also gives and sinks in just the right amount. And it wasn’t even nearly the most expensive pillow I was looking at. YMMV but may be worth a shot.
For this situation - my wife and I got coop home goods pillows. Expensive, but sooo worth it. You can add or remove filling from them for firmer or softer, they’re not solid memory foam so you won’t overheat as easily, and just overall very comfy pillows. A high quality mattress is a great investment too, unfortunately they’re expensive. I got a purple mattress 3 or 4 years ago and it ruined regular and memory foam mattresses for me because it’s squishy enough to mold to me and be comfy but still give my back support it needs, and is cool enough that I don’t overheat. Pillows and mattress were not cheap, but I’d pay double what I did with how much they helped my neck and back at night
Repeating the name of the person you were just introduced to remember it. As in “Hello EfreetSK, nice to meet you”. Doesn’t work for me, writing it down afterwards does if I can still remember it
What they meant to say was “Buy a Coop Home Goods Eden Pillow”. We have four on our bed and two full body pillows as well. Can’t sleep on anything else now, always take at least one when I travel.
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