Try going door to door convincing people or something or just stop fucking complaining all the time holy shit.
Are you the one guy who tries to walk up to corporate front desks with a resume and firm handshake, loudly asks for a job, only to realize how out of touch you are 3 after the receptionist tells you applications are all online now?
This is part of the problem of our current political climate. I don’t know how you can constitute ‘not bullying’ as ‘accepting them’, but the complete lack of nuance in every conversation is what drives radicalization.
You can’t ‘bully’ transphobes into being an ally. That’s not how people work.
I get it. Transphobes are pieces of shit with the most punchable faces. But when you find yourself staring down into one, you need to ask yourself if you are going say what feels good and right to you, or what will make them just a little less transphobic to the next trans person they meet.
Deradicalization doesn’t happen overnight. It may take transphobes a hundred, ten, or even just one trans person to show them undeserved kindness before they realize they were wrong.
I’m not saying it’s anyone’s job to do this. I’m saying that sometimes, maybe a trans person or an ally may be having a good day and find it in themselves to deal with transphobic bullshit just to show transphobes that they are the better person. If they do, I’m saying that we shouldn’t ruin all the progress and emotional labor they’ve invested in by bullying the transphobe.
Before you take everyone’s word about the nasal cycle, check if you have dust mite allergies. Turns out I did and my nose was far stuffier and itchier than what should be normal.
I switched out my pillowcase to an allergy pillowcase and started taking some allergy meds. It cleared up my nose a lot and now I can actually feel one nostril only being slightly more closed due to the nasal cycle instead of having it almost all blocked.
That’s antithetical to OP’s post though. The whole point is to keep an open mind and question everything.
It’s not a bad thing to question your own identity. Question it, answer it, and then embrace it. That’s where personal growth comes from. Everyone has been doubtful of an identity before, because at the minimum we’ve all been teenagers at some point.
Surpassing your own doubts about your identity is how you solidify your identity. When you’ve answered your own doubts, you will be ready to face anyone’s doubts about you.
PSA: this is a reminder that no birth control method is fully bullet proof and that it’s perfectly valid to want to use condoms and track ovulation cycles at the same time.
Mine are raspberries. But I wanna hear about all kinds or routine and exotic berries (like the superberries from Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia pyramid scheme)
Hate on me, but I don’t love that being trans and having a mental illness are in the same sentence and the implication that a sex change is a light decision like drinking coffee :(
If you don’t have any options other than clumping litter, World’s Best corn litter has next to no dust. If you have to go with clay, Arm and Hammer Clump and Seal Slide is very low dust.
There’s a certain level of irony in correcting someone for misreading the prompt when you’ve misread it yourself.
Two false assumptions you’ve made here:
That English speakers are incapable of speaking other languages
That the word ‘native’ can’t refer to English speakers
As an example, someone who speaks English and Spanish is qualified to answer this question. The word ‘native’ is ambiguous and can refer to either native English or Spanish speakers. This person can answer the prompt completely in English and still be correct.
This question will require some explaining, so bear with me (I phrased it how I did because I wanted to emphasize one of the connections). I ask this here because economics seem to be a huge topic here, especially when it comes to certain schools of thought (not that I’m judging, you have your reasons)....
I genuinely have no idea what you are trying to ask. I don’t think an economic glass floor means what you think it means because it’s certainly not something that’s ‘provided by the public sector’.
The economic glass floor is a phenomenal that prevents privileged groups from doing poorly and descending the socioeconomic ladder, which is another driving factor for inequality.
I mean no offense, but your writing and phrasing is very long winded and feels like a freshman trying to impress their professor. Can you rephrase more concisely please?
I think you are confusing the concept of minimum wage with the glass floor. These are not the same things.
That reddit post is a charitable interpretation, but if it’s what you are saying, then first comment summarizes it best with ‘state mandated friendships’. In which case, I would argue that isn’t going to solve crime. Let’s take the US which has one of the highest incarceration rates in the world as an example. People aren’t becoming criminals just because they don’t have friends, they become criminals because of a lack of social safety nets such as universal healthcare, accessible housing, homeless shelters, livable wages, public transit, progressive taxes, affordable childcare, drug addiction treatment safe spaces. They are also pushed into being criminalized by for profit prisons, the war on drugs, lack of gun control, police brutality, redlining and racism.
There is so much more than that the lack of friendships that goes into why people become criminals. We need to stop looking at it as just a matter of moral failure of individuals, and start looking at the systemic reasons to why people commit crimes.
I just listed a myriad of reasons why people might become criminals, and I never said that lack of friendships isn’t one, I said it’s not the only one. Friendships are hardly a social safety net. Having friends doesn’t guarantee you food, shelter, or safety.
Something can have historical significance and also be rampantly commercialized at the same time. These are not mutually exclusive things.
Imagine yourself as a historian from a 1000 years from now. When you look back at the coca cola bottles, the Walmart signs, the oversized trucks all unearthed from the forgotten sands of time, you won’t see it and say ‘there is no culture or historical significance to be found here’. Instead, you will contemplate on what crises this century was going through that turned so many to overconsumption and yet still feel dead on the inside.
Your so called ‘lack of culture’ in holidays that are filled with superficial excuses from corporations to spend is history and culture in the making. This isn’t an assessment on whether this is good or bad, this is history regardless of what you may think of it. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you realize that maybe Americans are not the homogeneous entity you thought it was. Maybe when you look beyond the glamorous decorations and lavish spending, you will see there are families struggling to feed their 5 five kids and yet still do their best to bring the holiday spirit to the table.
I’m not an American, so I don’t have any stakes in this. I’ve lived in 5 countries, USA included, and I’m tired of people abroad complaining about the lack of culture in the US while gleefully importing American movies, music, franchises, movies, holidays, spending habits, slangs, etc. You can’t have it both ways. Either the US doesn’t have culture, or it does and it’s being exported. Pick one.
We can acknowledge that male abusers exist without minimizing the severity of female abusers.
You may not see it, but there is misogyny coded in what your say when you generalize women as less capable of being an abuser. Even if there are statistically more male abusers, it doesn’t make female abusers less terrible.
The reason why so many male victims are unable to speak up is because of statements like this. When you delegitimize female abusers, you are delegitimizing the suffering of male victims. This is a reminder that the patriarchy hurts everyone.
I think you overestimate how open minded the average person is. People are quick to reject an argument when it doesn’t conform to their world views. This comic is long because it tries to address most doubts about it. It’s slow to get to the point to avoid triggering the visceral reaction some people have to feminist theories.
I think there are a good amount of people who are on the fence who would be persuaded by the detailed argument in this comic. The thing that the author is trying to convince people of is subtle and invisible to most people.
How do you tell people that this invisible thing exists and that they might be the one perpetuating it without putting them off?
It’s like asking your well meaning friends not to use ‘retarded’ as an insult. Sure, they aren’t saying this to hurt disabled people, but they are unaware that it does. The best way to change their minds isn’t by saying ‘you’re offensive’ and decry their character. It’s by slowly and gently telling them that you know they don’t mean to, but this thing that they say hurts people.
I’m not saying that we need to walk on eggshells around every offensive person, I’m saying that slow drawn out explanations without directly criticizing people is what works.
I think you are conflating men with the patriarchy. These two things are different. Men are people, and people are diverse with unique thoughts and feelings. The patriarchy is a system that causes men and women to behave in gender conforming ways that are harmful to both.
This comic isn’t criticizing men as a whole, it’s criticizing the social conditioning that many men go through that make them unaware of how certain speech and actions impact women.
When comics like this are asking men to be mindful of benevolent sexism, it’s not saying ‘men are sexist’, it’s asking men to be aware of this phenomenon and take steps to stop themselves and others from perpetuating it.
You might not express benevolent sexism, but your friends, family, and colleagues might, and you can be an ally when by pointing it out when you see it.
Too often when women face subtle forms of sexism, they are prohibited from speaking up due to the downplay and backlash they get. Subtle forms of sexism are very hard to point out without being labeled as bitchy or oversensitive.
I know it may not feel like it but this is what healthy masculinity means in this day and age. There is nothing more respectable than men speaking up to other men and holding each other to higher standards. It’s incredibly powerful for men to speak up and support women in this because men who perpetuate benevolent sexism generally tend to listen to other men.
Minimizing human rights issues to further the cause for socioeconomic ones doesn’t make you an enlightened anticapitalist, it makes you ideologically pro-CCP.
Christ you sound like an insufferable 10 year old with your ‘facts don’t care’. If you had actually read what you linked, you would have read the part where it specifies that the brain is what perceives pain even if it itself does not contain nociceptors. Claiming that the brain ‘does not feel pain’ is nothing more than semantic click bait.
As someone having lived years with unending pain and central sensitization, I find it hilarious someone telling me my brain ‘does not feel pain because it literally can’t’. Oh what I would give to be this healthy and naive again.
Yes, annoying vegans who are very pushy about vegans exists. However, It seems like your bias stems from your intolerance towards any mentioning of veganism.
A vegan saying ‘I am vegan’ would be annoying to you, as if existing as a vegan is an offense. This is what you sound like when you say veganism is a yellow flag.
Personally, I find that there are far more meat eaters out there who are much more vocal and annoying about hating vegans than there actual annoying vegans. I like eating meat, but I don’t find that I need to be defensive about it around vegans.
Comparing veganism to toxic masculinity is just wild. You have a completely skewed perception of what the vast majority of vegans are like out there.
You think that the act of vegans existing is morally superior, whether or not they’ve said or done anything.
Nothing is being misunderstood here. You don’t get to say ‘I don’t care if someone’s a vegan’ and then say ‘veganism is a yellow flag’ in the same breath. That’s some cognitive dissonance if I’ve seen any before.
You say that as if altering clothing isn’t something that takes time to learn, time to do, risks of ruining your clothes, affect it’s durability, and difficult to do well. If it were so easy no one would pay for it to be done. Go to your local tailor and ask how much it is to hem a pair of pants or take the waist in.
Imagine everytine you buy a pair of pants you have to mentally prepare yourself to put the time and effort into sewing your own pants, something that most guys don’t have to do.
Cause friendships never end! (lemmy.ml)
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What's your favorite berry?
Mine are raspberries. But I wanna hear about all kinds or routine and exotic berries (like the superberries from Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia pyramid scheme)
Found him (sh.itjust.works)
What's a cozy, preferably non-alcoholic drink to enjoy for cozy wintery nights?
No cinnamon, or overly spicy, chocolate drinks (did I just rule out everything?) :/
lobotomy rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
What is the disgnosis and medication cost for cat potentially with asthma
Anybody been thru the process before and know what the approximate costs and details are about getting a cat seen for potential asthma?...
Speakers of non-English languages, what common mistakes do native speakers make that drive you crazy?
For example, English speakers commonly mix up your/you’re or there/their/they’re. I’m curious about similar mistakes in other languages.
Why does a proper concept of a glass floor not apply both economically/demographically?
This question will require some explaining, so bear with me (I phrased it how I did because I wanted to emphasize one of the connections). I ask this here because economics seem to be a huge topic here, especially when it comes to certain schools of thought (not that I’m judging, you have your reasons)....
Hey, it's Thanksgiving today in the USA and Brazil, and also kind of in Japan, so maybe it's a good day for me to ask, WHAT ARE YOU THANKFUL FOR? (a-z-animals.com)
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Expert appointed by Italian minister on gender violence wrote in controversial book women are as evil as the devil. (news.italy24.press)
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Benevolent sexism: a feminist comic explains how it holds women back (www.theguardian.com)
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Who cares about red flags in people. What are your green flags
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‘I prefer women’s jeans – men’s lack design subtlety’: why men are buying womenswear (www.theguardian.com)