It’s something I’m really struggling with, thanks to it it feels like I’m obsessed with the idea of ‘passing’, like whenever I see other trans women who don’t pass it gives me a little burst of dread, thinking that it’s impossible to pass and I’d never be able to. That horrible fear of looking “like a man in a...
I’ve only managed it once, flying around a featureless void, exulting in the feeling of control. Then a fistfight, again with a featureless opponent. It felt like controlling the dream to that extent and not waking up took a lot of brain power
I assume so, it takes constant effort and practice to be able to do it at all though, that was over 10 years ago now when I was in my first year at university, I haven’t had the time to dedicate to it since 😅
I just got up from conversation with a couple of older black men, that I said “well I got to go back to work and start cracking the whip.” And it occurred to me then that it was probably a really insensitive stupid thing to say....
I’ve started recently too, something I took to heart was one of Vee’s videos on goals and timescales, she said for basically the first month your goal should just be to play around with your voice, go high, go low, sing in a higher pitch than usual, just have fun with it. I’ve been doing that and I’ve noticed it’s easier for me to maintain that higher pitch now
Last week I got myself a tape measure, figured out some sizing things and ordered a cheap dress online. It looked good, and for the first time in my life I felt beautiful. I felt like I could actually pull of a transition and not look like an ugly man in a dress. I giggled and cried and it felt so good. The next day I went to...
Same girl, I’m still totally hung up on passing, even though I know I’m still questioning whether I am trans or not. Even though cis people don’t get euphoria when they see a picture of someone their age passing, or thinking about being referred to with she/her lol. it’s gonna take time but we’ll get there queen 👑
So originally I was sceptical about the TERF claims on rowling (because I didn’t want them to be true), I’d assumed terminally online people had decided something silly (as has happened before), but the more I looked at it and thought about it, the more I thought, “Ok, I don’t really have proof here, but the odds are...
I’m 6 minutes in to Shaun’s video and it’s already beyond reasonable doubt lol, while I kind of want to explain this to her myself (because she’s super busy atm, so a 20 minute video will be a hard sell) but I doubt I’d do as good a job so I think I’ll just send her a link. Thank you very much for the links!
Sorry you got scammed :( some people are awful, nice to see another UK trans though, I’m still a bit isolated here because I haven’t found/explored the queer spaces local to me.
Starting now or next month won’t make a difference in the grand scheme of things, either way you’re going to be taking steps towards you own happiness and betterment ❤️
I don’t know what matrix is, but I think I’d like that :). It’s not that I’m estranged from the local queer scene, I just know literally about it because I didn’t know I was queer 🤣 plus I’m really shy at meeting new people which doesn’t help
My sister is 23 and still dresses up and goes out knocking doors for candy… and I find it weird but I let her do her. It got me thinking, at what age do you think someone should stop Trick r Treating at? Just curious.
I dunno about nutritious, but I sometimes like baking oat cookies and having them for breakfast, super easy to eat and honestly probably as bad for me as regular cereal. Do want to try and make them “healthy” though
I’ve grown and cut my hair several times before I started balding, from my experience, hair in the eyes is the start of the awkward stage, and hair in the mouth is when you’re at the end of it
Soon™ I’m growing mine out again and I’m hoping my thin patch won’t make it look awful lol. The finasteride has done some good work, hoping I’ll see more regrowth
I would love the child of a Surfacebook with a Framework laptop; or A bare keyboard attached to a screen, that I could plug my phone (possibly running Phosh) and use it as a hardware for a laptop experience
A machine that perfectly dispenses things: The perfect amount of cereal + milk in a bowl The perfect about of squash and water The perfect amount of soap/shampoo The perfect amount of moisturizer
Well that’s troubling, I’d say they’re probably just a vocal minority, but the far right seemed to have proven that doesn’t stop you from affecting policy changw
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I thought they kept the originals and returned the copies? Plus even if they were copies, the chances that those copies were the only remaining one when it burnt down is pretty high
I would greatly appreciate if anyone could participate in the survey I created for my research about fediverse . it won’t take much time and it is hosted on privacy friendly service, cryptpad . all responses are anonymized. You don’t have to answer all questions. Fill as much you can and submit when you had enough....
I’m also very early in my self acceptance journey, and I can definitely relate to what you’re describing. Something I noticed this morning in the shower: Recently I’ve had a massive uptick in intrusive thoughts about death, but I’ve also felt the most confident and put-together I’ve felt in years. The other side, and the journey to get there, seems scary right now, but I think we’re going to get there just fine <3
It is hard right now, but you’re right we absolutely will get through this, and when we’re on the other side we’ll be happier for it. I guess the catipiller isn’t very comfortable in his cocoon either, but she stil emerges as a beautiful butterfly ❤️
I semi-recently cracked too, I’d definitely recommend going for the full shave, it was super weird at first but then I loved it. Decided to let it all grow back so I could objectively compare and I’m 100% going to get rid of it again.
Another note, if you can I’d definitely recommend speaking to a specialist, I had a lot of trouble coming to terms and accepting such a big change and speaking to a therapist super helped me accept it.
Oh boy it does, I kind of cracked last year, but it was too scary so I repressed it and told myself I was NB instead. I want to shave my butt but my skin is sensitive and doesn’t like razor shaving, and anything less than smoothness down there is extremely itchy. It’s scary, but also exciting, because I don’t know what kind of woman I’ll be… Mostly scary now that I think about it, I’ve got an appointment next month with a makeover artist who specialises in MTF transformations, in hoping seeing myself like that will give me the burst of euphoria I need to see this through.
So with a little help from the megathread I have a particularly Good website for finding Old Games, and it worked yesterday when I downloaded systemshock2, but now I’m getting a 403 forbidden message. Is this from the site itself? Or is my ISP (virgin) cucking me?
It sounds like you’re literally me, I’ve had every single one of those thoughts and honestly, I’m only slightly ahead of you in that I’ve had some therapy now and I understand that I’m trans, even if I haven’t fully accepted it yet. Therapy is definitely step 1, and also some gentle experimentation, remember though that this process will take as long as it takes, you can’t rush it. If you decide to try on women’s clothes I definitely recommend getting a padded bra and some tights, the only time so far I’ve felt good in them is thanks to those two
What if the ads are optional, they’re turned off by default, but if you can’t afford to donate but still want to support you can turn them on for yourself?
Yesterday, I was reading this post on an open source solution to detecting and deleting CSAM material on Lemmy. I was reading the post, then my browser crashed mid-read. I’ve been looking for it ever since, and can’t find it. Can anyone link it?
how did you deal with internalised transphobia?
It’s something I’m really struggling with, thanks to it it feels like I’m obsessed with the idea of ‘passing’, like whenever I see other trans women who don’t pass it gives me a little burst of dread, thinking that it’s impossible to pass and I’d never be able to. That horrible fear of looking “like a man in a...
People who can control their dreams - what is it like? (kbin.social)
Epic tales, mastering the universe, or just reading a good book next to a fireplace?
The clothes you are wearing vanish in an instant. How does this affect you?
This may seem kind of stupid but I am kind of stupid, is there a list somewhere of phrases that are stupid or insensitive racially or gender biased?
I just got up from conversation with a couple of older black men, that I said “well I got to go back to work and start cracking the whip.” And it occurred to me then that it was probably a really insensitive stupid thing to say....
Not a fan of the new Rules
https://sh.itjust.works/pictrs/image/2e7d8cf1-4eb0-4e04-8a3f-1d087ae2761e.jpeg
Vocal training - Technical vs Practice?
Hiya, I hope everyone is having a comfy weekend (:...
raytracing rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
Finally cracked and it's been a rollercoaster.
Last week I got myself a tape measure, figured out some sizing things and ordered a cheap dress online. It looked good, and for the first time in my life I felt beautiful. I felt like I could actually pull of a transition and not look like an ugly man in a dress. I giggled and cried and it felt so good. The next day I went to...
Rowing is a terf, how do I prove it?
So originally I was sceptical about the TERF claims on rowling (because I didn’t want them to be true), I’d assumed terminally online people had decided something silly (as has happened before), but the more I looked at it and thought about it, the more I thought, “Ok, I don’t really have proof here, but the odds are...
Hacker pranks (lemmy.world)
I’ve create a website you can use to prank your colleague, friend or family member when he/she leaves his/her computer unlocked....
uk government rule (sopuli.xyz)
source www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-67344299?at_medium=RSS&…
Military Rule (lemmy.one)
What do you always do to get going when you feel like you are spacing out?
I don’t know if this was the right way to phrase my question....
so im finally taking the plunge and'll be starting hrt soon, ive got estrogel already and im currently looking into getting AA but i was curious about which type to get (im in england btw)
for context im in my early 20s and in a decent material condition rn so getting the AA isnt the problem, it’s just deciding which to get...
In your opinion, what's the age limit for Trick r Treating?
My sister is 23 and still dresses up and goes out knocking doors for candy… and I find it weird but I let her do her. It got me thinking, at what age do you think someone should stop Trick r Treating at? Just curious.
What is a nutritious, filling, and easy to eat breakfast for really early in the morning?
Preferably something that has little to no preparation required.
Halloween rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
Growing my hair, I seem to be now entering... The Awkward Stage™
Good thing winter is on its way, so I can cover it up when I have to go outside....
What is the device you want, but that does not exist?
I would love the child of a Surfacebook with a Framework laptop; or A bare keyboard attached to a screen, that I could plug my phone (possibly running Phosh) and use it as a hardware for a laptop experience
Neck rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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brisket ruleday (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
We need new mods
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Internet archive is library of alexandria of our time
I hope this time it wont burn down
A survey on user experience in fediverse (Lemmy, Mastodon, etc.) (cryptpad.fr)
I would greatly appreciate if anyone could participate in the survey I created for my research about fediverse . it won’t take much time and it is hosted on privacy friendly service, cryptpad . all responses are anonymized. You don’t have to answer all questions. Fill as much you can and submit when you had enough....
Bouts of serious self doubt and guilt?
So I’m very new to self acceptance on being a woman. Only a week in a half in, but have been contemplating if I were trans for a few months....
for fucks sake rule (lemmy.world)
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My shell cracked this past weekend
Getting hit with a lot of emotions. Some scary and some exciting....
A little help with direct downloads
So with a little help from the megathread I have a particularly Good website for finding Old Games, and it worked yesterday when I downloaded systemshock2, but now I’m getting a 403 forbidden message. Is this from the site itself? Or is my ISP (virgin) cucking me?
how do you know?
I’m not sure whether this is the right place for this question, but… How do you know?...
Under what conditions would you be OK with ads on your lemmy instance?
I’ll start:...
[SOLVED] I can't find this post on finding CSAM on Lemmy
Yesterday, I was reading this post on an open source solution to detecting and deleting CSAM material on Lemmy. I was reading the post, then my browser crashed mid-read. I’ve been looking for it ever since, and can’t find it. Can anyone link it?
Download managers
I’ve been pirating my whole life in mobile and rarely in pc. What are some the best download managers to use in windows?