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Amelia_,
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Plan an exercise regime, if you don’t have one already! Of course every transition is a little different, but from what I’ve seen weight gain can be common.

It also has another benefit: as you become estrogenized fat gained will be distributed differently, so a good diet and exercise plan can help work off any fat in boy places ready to become the new, beautiful, feminine you! ❤️❤️

Amelia_,
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All you need to start with is something that gets your heart rate up and gets you breathing hard for 30 - 40 mins per day!

I am fortunate enough to be in a position to buy an exercise bike and a rowing machine, so I alternate between the two, find a tv show with long episodes and watch one per day as I exercise.

how did you deal with internalised transphobia?

It’s something I’m really struggling with, thanks to it it feels like I’m obsessed with the idea of ‘passing’, like whenever I see other trans women who don’t pass it gives me a little burst of dread, thinking that it’s impossible to pass and I’d never be able to. That horrible fear of looking “like a man in a...

Amelia_,
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Something that helped me a little is that, if anything, these feelings are an exhibition of our sisterhood with all other women. Even as much as they wish they didn’t, 99.9% of women regardless of gender at birth, wish they could change their looks in some way, wish they could remove that thing they’re most insecure about. All we can do is the same that all other women do, find the version of ourselves that makes us the happiest.

But inside that there also has to be some realism. The ladies we envy, the models and movie stars and idols and influencers and who ever else, they are a statistically tiny portion of the population. There’s a couple of billion women who will never, and could never, look like that and that’s okay. We are probably one of them, and that’s also okay.

Shaved my legs for the first time

So, I just had the realization a few days ago that i’m probably trans. I shaved my legs for the first time today and WOW! Physically it feels great, all smooth and soft, but mentally it just feels RIGHT. Like this is something i should have been doing forever. Its kind of overwhelming for such a small thing, but i just felt...

Amelia_,
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Do you have an epilator you could recommend? Once every 4 weeks sounds like a dream…

Amelia_,
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Gosh now I regret forcing myself not to buy thigh highs or skirts or anything until I lose weight hehehe~

The comfy warm bath and shaving session does sound perrrrfect though, all the steam and soft girl smells (:

Amelia_,
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Oh wowww, that does sound super pretty and satisfying, I definitely need lots more soft and lovely layers!

Thank you for contributing, everyone’s unique brand of femininity is valued and appreciated ❤️

Amelia_,
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In this regard I am fortunate in that I am still very early in my transition, my girl voice is very bad and embarrassing, I can’t really present feminine yet, I still have a very long way to go. So it’s uncomfy to pretend nothing is going on, but it’s not gonna really hurt me.

I don’t think I’ll be visiting them again after this time though.

Amelia_,
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Personally I bought an IPL device. Attempted to use it all over but that wasn’t so successful, but it’s still good for the face, and taking the money saved to help with laser on my chest and back.

Since we’re gonna be shaving anyway you’re always in the perfect state to use IPL, pretty easy to fit in to a routine and has a bigger effect the longer you use it, and it’ll combine with HRT once you start.

Amelia_,
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Yeah, I started with TransVoiceLessons too. Her beginner’s video on weight vs pitch helped a lot.

Amelia_,
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Gosh yes, I’m having lots of problems with resonance, I can’t stop sounding hollow :(

I still can’t really tell if I’m doing something wrong or if I just need more practice! I guess I’ll just practice until the new year and then maybe look for a clinician!

Thank you very much, this was super helpful <3

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