Want to know how I prepared to influence my sensory needs when trekking to Everest Base Camp?
Read how I worked out my needs, influenced what I can influence, and understood how this could help me - and how you might be able to do some of this stuff for yourself if/when you want to travel!
Durkheim: The negative cult cannot exist without causing suffering. Pain is one of it's necessary conditions.
Why yes, I do believe that my big fekkin' research paper for this class (REL580 Theories of Religion - capstone class) will be Autistic Masking as a Means of Devotion to the Negative Cult of “Normal”
@Adhdinos@actuallyautistic
I neither want to be bored or overworked—and that’s not even entering into the conversation around fair compensation or present ability to work. There must be a happy medium between enough stimulation at work and not being over worked because ones “output” or “speed” or “benchmarking” is more than one’s colleagues. #actuallyautistic#adhd#audhd#autistic
#AskingAutistics (if you are not autistic please don’t comment, read and learn. Yes, I’m fed up to read allistic comments in thread asking input from autistics. And don’t waste your time and mine by trying to argue with me about that I will simply block you)
Why did you choose to identify yourself as #autistic, #Asperger, being on the spectrum, etc. ? Usually from what I read it’s a generational word and/or a cultural one as our #ActuallyAutistic is international and this is too often forgotten
@adelinej I made the move to self-identify the moment I became aware. I’ve been through coming out as #LGBTQ and #BDSM, so I have no interest in further enduring the self-harm of the #closet or #masking.
It's not exactly situational muteness, but I'm finding that when it comes to sharing my thoughts and theories and the work I want to do, I find that I cannot. There's not just a lack of executive function, but a block.
I feel like it's related to my cPTSD and constantly being told I was wrong or bullied in work/school life. (Work triggers cPTSD daily)
Autistic burnout recovery is not a linear process. It's an ever-changing, morphing, iterative process, that when graphed looks like a big messy plate of spaghetti.
Is it just me or is drinking water a wildly unpredictable sensory experience? Like I want to drink more, but there’s so much VARIANCE. Curious what y’all’s thoughts are 🚰💦
@RosethornRangerTTV@actuallyautistic I find the definition of friendship to vary widely and tend to use a friendship pyramid or scale. What sort of interactions and level of intimacy are you asking about? #autistic#actuallyautistic#audhd
I'm working on a blog post about meditation for people who find meditation really difficult, especially thinking about autistic and ADHD folks. If this is you, I would love to know what concerns or questions you have about meditation. Please reply to this post and let me know, what makes meditation difficult for you? @actuallyautistic#actuallyautistic#adhd#audhd
I’m learning to trust my instincts in the face of NT stupid. I show up at ortho office with son’s appliance, after having emailed them to describe how it’s pinching the tendon right in the middle underneath his tongue.
They grind all around the edge. Not in the middle in the physical gap between parts. 🤦♂️ I try to clarify where it’s affecting him. They didn’t acknowledge a word.
So I used 400 grit on it tonight and much better! Trust gone.
@yourautisticlife I’m honestly happy to have at least said something. I don’t expect much in the way of response. But now I’m on record as being clear I find the treatment poor.
Right now the bigger target of my ire is the therapist #KaisePermanebter sent me to. There is a member services conversation I need to have about reimbursement for an outside therapist. I’m not even going to complain about HIM, but rather suggest they’ve generally been useless.
It's so weird - since I realised I'm #ActuallyAutistic the ways I was masking have become more and more difficult.
I unmask a lot when alone now (cPTSD meant I masked a lot even alone) but I struggle more and more to mask around people too - which I guess is good but feels hard and unfair on them.
@alexisbushnell this reasonates with me. The feelings I’m having while beginning to #unmask feel a lot like #ComingOut. We’re increasingly become aware of all the ways #masking inhibits/ed us and stumbling through how to express ourselves now that we know we just can’t live that way any more. Learning how to clarify our needs with people who mostly never realized how their behavior affected us. #ActuallyAutistic#AuDHD@actuallyautistic
@JeremyMallin@actuallyautistic I think specifically (but not exclusively) AuDHDs have a knack for self-teaching. Imo it makes sense, the ADHD has you noticing tons of stuff and the autism holds onto it long enough to make connections from it.
Hence: #AuDHD = #WeirdWitchArmy
Always got in trouble for not doing things EXACTLY their way.
"Squeeze the kitchen sponge to get all the water out. In your fist! Squeeze harder. See? It still has water in it. (I use two hands to get the water out.) No, don't twist it!"
"Why not?"
Angry for some unknown reason. "That's not how you do it!"
I still don't understand it. I guess they were taught mimicry with coercion. Now stuck in that mode.
Since discovering I'm @actuallyautistic I've been musing on how not knowing this has caused many of the social ails I suffer from. Today I was thinking back to how I learned to change the way I converse because people always seemed to find me disagreeable. I've realized it's because I think in systems, so when someone tells me about something, my instincts lead me to analyse why it's a thing. But allistic's don't think in systems, they can learn systems, but they don't see them like I do 1/2
@Vincarsi OMG yes THIS. I get the same kind of reaction when I ask questions to ensure my understanding of the thing they said is complete and accurate. Like I’m forcing them to show all their work. Well, OK maybe I am. Is that wrong? 😉😉 #ActuallyAutistic#AuDHD@actuallyautistic