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ReallyKinda,

Gravity’s Rainbow. I’d taken classes in postmodernism and still found it so difficult to focus. I’m not sure if I enjoyed the reading process, but I felt good for having completed it. Took 2 attempts.

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Has anyone experienced their prolonged anxiety just kind of disappearing? Stopped waking up anxious?

ReallyKinda,

I mean they’d already told us it’s like stealing a car, I thought we’d accepted that and moved on (with all our free cars).

ReallyKinda,

I hope the discussions immediately turn to better questions like “what does it mean to own an idea or a blueprint or a sound.”

ReallyKinda,

I have student loans at higher rates

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AI doesn’t seem to do well when it trains on its own data so I do think there’s a possibility it’s a one trick pony. Once there’s too much AI content in the data it’s trained on it will devolve into nonsense.

ReallyKinda,

Clearly nothing can change the status quo if it doesn’t also make trillions

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This is so far above my head that I’m not certain what to be excited about, but I’ve always been convinced the answer is magnets so..

ReallyKinda,

Broo I knew something was off about that saga. Pretty bold, Coke.

ReallyKinda,

I would put a lot more weight on her choice to live with you (pretty good indication she likes you quite a bit) than on a quip she made in a single conversation. It’s very hard to make a relationship work if small things like this can destabilize things to the extent that you’re questioning marriage! Try to measure your relationship by zooming out a bit more and considering whether she seems to enjoy your company etc. If you’re very upset save the assessing for a time where you’re calmer and focus on something else for awhile.

ReallyKinda,

I’m still working my way through Egypt!

Two LGBTQ films were slapped with R and NC-17 ratings. Critics say queer sex scenes are treated differently (www.cbc.ca)

When adapting the 2019 LGBTQ romantic novel Red, White & Royal Blue for the screen, Matthew Lopez was careful to circumvent an R-rating. The film has a handful of sex scenes that stop short of full-frontal nudity — there’s some bare butts and, naturally, shirtless men....

ReallyKinda,

they mention a long track record of harsher treatment of queer content but I wish they linked to that data or mentioned a couple comparisons for context.

ReallyKinda,

If someone has institutional access to the research article linked pls share the info!

ReallyKinda,

No More Deaths / No Más Muertes Is a great organization that helps put water out.

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I cherish my job a lot more (when before I was happy to switch every year). If companies want to retain good employees they’re going to have to adapt to the changes in the market.

Edit: guess I didn’t really answer, I agree with teleporter guy and private office guy. It’s ridiculous to ask people to return to a shared office.

ReallyKinda,

My insurance device already tracks my car (can be useful in a crowded lot).

ReallyKinda,

Unfortunately, yes. It connects to the engine reader and also has a gps. It’s pay per mile but with a cap on per mile charges so nice for people who don’t drive a lot. It costs $30 USD a month generally (which is cheap for my area). Lemonade (the rental insurance company) just bought it out. When I was with Progressive (a big American car insurance company) they offered a similar device though without much of a discount from what I could tell (I did not opt in). It also had a gyro device of some sort to tell if you were an aggressive driver. thought it was creepy at the time but here I am.

ReallyKinda,

Selfishly want Canada to road test some ridiculous tax for residential properties that you own but don’t personally reside in. 50% progressive increase in property taxes for every residential property beyond the one you live in or something.

ReallyKinda,

Sounds great! Unfortunately insta is the only site I’ve kept to keep up with irl friends and family and I use it almost exclusively for that purpose (I don’t browse strangers’ posts) so it’s a much harder shift than Reddit —> kbin

ReallyKinda,

There’s something about knowing there are hundreds of others listening to the same station at the same time that makes my local EDM station somehow more interesting than just shuffling the same playlist at home. Could your issue with albums have a social element similar to how watching a live sports match is just more exciting than the rerun an hour later even if you don’t know the outcome?

Also, I disagree with people saying that albums tend to be more boring because only the radio hits are good! I have many albums I like to listen to start to finish.

ReallyKinda,

The average person shouldn’t be allowed to drive. It’s extremely dangerous and most people are desensitized to it and absolutely don’t take the natural responsibility towards others that comes with having the ability to kill someone with a finger twitch (or a slight lapse in attention) seriously enough. I don’t think it would be allowed if it was just invented this year.

ReallyKinda,

I have a second one (and I say this as a 30-something who’s been vegetarian since middle school): if you judge it unethical to eat meat because you think the animals deserve life than you should also find items designed to look or feel like meat unacceptable.

You wouldn’t buy a pseudo human appendage at the meat market because it’s not just the reality that’s important it’s the entire idea that is abhorrent.

ReallyKinda,

(I still eat meat substitutes but if I was being ethically consistent I think I shouldn’t).

ReallyKinda,

Consider my cannibalism example (which is not actually cannibalism) or the example of whether AI child porn would be acceptable (I think most would find that it is not).

ReallyKinda,

If it is unethical to eat a thing than it’s unethical to eat something acting like that thing. Consider my cannibalism example.

ReallyKinda,

meat substitutes go out of their way to mimic the taste of meat. Some even add characteristics that are supposed to mimic blood in the meat. To me, that is symbolically adding back in the violence and harm you are originally opposed to. If you just really like Jack fruit and it happens to taste similar to beef in some preparations I don’t think you’re a part of my ethical quandary.

Take robot or AI childporn as another example if cannibalism isn’t bringing home the intuition. It’s not harming children (at least directly) but it could reasonably be argued that it’s perpetuating and normalizing a violent and problematic practice.

ReallyKinda,

Yes but I like the cannibalism example because it usually does a good job bringing forward the intuition I’m getting at with the hot take.

Another one is robot child sex worker—not hurting anyone directly (unless you believe in robot rights) but I think most people would deem it a problem. Looks like a duck sounds like a duck sort of thing.

ReallyKinda,

Hmm “murder” is usually a legal term but I think a lot of people believe in justified killing in a lot of cases. Usually in a movie or game the character is put into a narrative or context where it’s okay or understandable for them to kill. Even in cases where the character is supposed to be evil and depraved the story teller is kind of playing off the viewer or player’s preconceived assumption that, for example, killing innocents is wrong.

Serving someone what looks like a cut of beef (but really isn’t) doesn’t similarly problematize the product with context like storytellers usually do in games and other stories. It’s simply mimicking the real thing. Maybe a vegan restaurant with gory peta imagery would be a good comparison to how we might problematize meat subs similar to how storytellers recognize the depravity of killing in their creations while still including killing.

A game or movie that included rape or reasonless murder in a fully positive context/narrative would either be art or really bad taste.

ReallyKinda,

If you adopt a utilitarian perspective I agree (and I also totally agree that this is a matter of philosophy, clearly the norms do not support my hot take). If only the end matters and not the reasons, I agree that the ethical quandary falls away.

I tend to think utilitarian ethics are quite useful for states or organizations, but I don’t think individual ethics are typically the utilitarian kind (though we are surely influenced by utilitarian analysis for example a lot of vegans are vegan for straight up environmental reason and therefore wouldn’t even need to contemplate the ethics of fake meat beyond environmental impact). I think there’s a more innate sense of ethics that makes me not want to eat something as vital and curious as a cow or a chicken. I’m not trying to reduce the total amount of harm in the world, I just don’t want to be the cause of the death of another entity when I can help it. Eating a vegan burger that looks and feels like a beef burger feels like symbolic support of a practice I don’t support. Perhaps if all beef were pseudo beef that would change things.

No regrets: Gender-affirming chest surgery in adults has long-term satisfaction (arstechnica.com)

People who underwent gender-affirming chest reconstruction surgeries as adults have virtually no regrets years later and overwhelmingly high levels of satisfaction with their decision to have the procedure, according to a study published Wednesday in JAMA Surgery. The results were so clear, in fact, that the study authors were...

ReallyKinda,

it’s a pretty drastic decision to make if you’re unsure, so these results seem pretty reasonable. Probably even more so for bottom surgery.

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Was curious so did some digging, this article did a write up: “Provisional CDC data show that the number of suicide deaths in 2022 is the highest recorded, exceeding the next closest year (2018) by over 1,000 deaths (Figure 1). When adjusted for population growth and age, the suicide rate has risen by 16% from 2011 to 2022, moving from 12.3 to 14.4 deaths per 100,000 individuals. Looking back further to 1999, there is a substantial 37% increase from a rate of 10.57 per 100,000. Notably, while 2022 had the highest recorded number of suicide deaths, its rate is similar to 2018 (14.5 in 2022 vs. 14.2 in 2018 per 100,000) but higher than the rate in 2020—the year before suicide deaths began to climb again. Increases in the number of suicide deaths follow high levels of mental health symptoms during COVID, rising financial stressors, and longstanding difficulty accessing needed mental health care—particularly for some populations. Total suicide numbers may be undercounted, as some research suggests that suicides may be misclassified as drug overdose deaths since it can be difficult to determine whether drug overdoses are intentional.”

ReallyKinda,

Lol you can’t tailor laws to the area like that, can you?

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if you try you’ll push yourself into a bad mental space that many therapists make their livelihood off of! I am a big people pleaser so have had issues with over-valuing the opinions of others. One important thing I did to combat this tendency was to come up with a reasonable set of principles for myself so that I didn’t feel like I always had to take what others might think on board (because I’d given myself a reference). Another thing that helped was eliminating anxiety around things I was quite certain one shouldn’t be judged for (in the sense that some things just shouldn’t reflect on your character).

Being worried about having your job taken away and similar is a bit different. I think the things you do to prevent risking this include not voicing “hot takes” except with people you trust and who understand you, avoiding internet arguing, keeping your boundaries up at work, etc. I think most people have a pretty good sense of what ideas might be wildly unpopular in their locale.

As a slight side note, things like tenure (in the US) and anonymous review processes in academia were put in place precisely to ensure that people weren’t blackballed for theorizing things that were unpopular or that would potentially step on the toes of some politician who was threatened by your research. Many things that are popularly supported have and will continue to be wrong, so you need a certain self assurance to fall back on. Preferably your self assurance is supported by logic and reason and not dogmatism—but this entails a fair amount of hard work and study and reflection—you can’t just rely on intuition.

Why were we able to stamp out Nazism but not the Taliban?

It occurred to me that Nazi ideology was entrenched in the German people from as early as the 1920s and officially since 1933 to 1945. You’d think that such a systemic worldview would be difficult to eradicate but it would seem Nazism was quickly removed after the Allies and Russians conquered them....

ReallyKinda,

Nazism was quite centralized and therefore easier to target and eliminate. The bureaucratic structure made it easy to find and convict the main players afterwards. The ideology wasn’t totally eliminated, but new laws and such helped tamp it down.

The taliban is much less centralized and on top of that the various governments involved don’t have a lot of incentive to fall into line like Germany (which the US came in and rebuilt with a ton of strings attached so that it wouldn’t lose its German market share).

ReallyKinda,

Opinions vs deepl?

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Deepl’s “write” tool (the one I linked) gives style suggestions

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Interesting thought about the visibility

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love it

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I think one reason is the news portrayal like others mentioned—though this often goes two-ways—ask a native Californian what they think the South or Midwest are like and you’ll often get some crazy off base responses.

I think another big piece is that CA policies have a disproportionately large impact on everyone else’s policies (they share this characteristic with NY to some extent). CA has the 3rd largest economy in the world and therefore companies often have to adhere to CA policies in order to keep from losing an extremely significant market share. For example, CA committing to no more gas cars by X date immediately made gas vehicles an obsolete product for the manufacturers’ bottom line.

What are some realistic possibilities for working from home for someone with a chronic illness and little experience?

So I developed a chronic illness years ago. It makes working outside the house pretty much impossible for me. I ran my own business for a good while, but it’s struggling. I have all kinds of random skills and abilities, but I don’t really see how they fit together in the context of employed work, so for all intents and...

ReallyKinda,

Customer service is probably the easiest entry level remote job to get, but quite soul sucking—especially if they make you use a script. One suggestion I can offer is grant writing if you’re okay at crafting an argument. You can find small local orgs who will let you help write to get some experience then apply for jobs that pay decently.

The Reddit Protest Is Finally Over. Reddit Won. (gizmodo.com)

The last major holdouts in the protest against Reddit’s API pricing relented, abandoning the so-called “John Oliver rules” which only allowed posts featuring the TV host. The article describes it as "the official end of the battle," which seems an overstatement to me, but it's the certainly the end of the initial phase....

ReallyKinda,

I think Reddit likely lost a lot of users who were exclusively Reddit users and didn’t use other social media. That might not amount to that many people total, but it does mean advertisers lose one of the more important demographics Reddit had to offer (since they can target the others more efficiently on other platforms anyway). Hope it still hurts their bottom line.

Phony bank accounts resurface at Wells Fargo, with a twist (www.nbcnews.com)

As a longtime forensic accountant who helps consumer lawyers investigate big financial institutions, Jay Patterson has made a point to do business with a smallish local bank in his hometown of Little Rock, Arkansas. So he was startled in June 2022 when he received a bank statement from Wells Fargo showing $12 in an “Everyday...

ReallyKinda,

I like Wells Fargo cause they’re the only ones who will give me quarters for cash without any questions and without needing an account with them. Groceries won’t give them anymore and my own local credit union only lets you get 2 rolls.

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“Would you care for some bang bang machines?” 🇱🇺

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🇳🇱 sorry guys here’s a flag with a slightly darker blue

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Why not? I too have been watching the excitement but am not understanding the oomph.

ReallyKinda,

It did help, thank you!

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