I’ll start. Apt next door is having a cockroach infected. 4 days ago, I was playing sims on my laptop, wearing my eyeglasses. Right lens got blurry, took off, huge cockroach was crawling across inside of lens. While I was wearing them. Freak out ensued.
Hey, so I believe in a higher power but I’m not on board with any particular religion. Anyone else think it’s cool to just fly solo as a good human, no religion attached?
Yes. Had religion shoved down my throat as a kid. Learned early on being a religious believer meant nothing, people are shitty no matter what.
Had to decide who I wanted to be, what rules to live by. Realized I don’t enjoy hurting people, try to learn from mistakes, random acts of kindness, to always try for the evolved, educated non violent option. That’s enough for me. If there’s a god who has a problem with that, oh well.
Fat dyke. Cracker. Loser. Piece of shit. Failure. Being sexually harassed by guy throwing me against a wall, shove him back, told im a typical snowflake, yet another stupid bitch who can’t take a joke. Get the fuck out , go back where you belong. Was especially fun living in homeless shelter, standing out front smoking a cig, and black guys driving by yelling at me that I’m a gentrifier.
Just 5 minutes ago, tried to google search a topic, got instead a blank white page saying we don’t recognize your phone traffic, please complete this capcha to prove you’re not a robot.
I’ve wanted to create a game that’s a simulation of mental health issues. For instance, youre playing someone who has autism. You turn to walk down a street. Turn to look, touch, car crash horns, screaming. Touch a wall, textures explode, patterns etching into your outstretched arm. Or, one about ptsd. Another about auditory processing disorder.
My IRL reality can be so hypervivid, intense, super saturated, surreal. Often wish someone else could experience it, know what it’s like.
Guy in my apt complex. Gang stuff, drugs, jail, now he’s turning it all around. Both of us spent years in homeless shelters, we trade war stories. He just got a job, bagger at a grocery store. We’re both struggling, overwhelmed, but seeing him employed gives me hope.
Got a lot of really good tips, thanks to everyone for chiming in. I was a serious alcoholic for decades, and haven’t had a drink in 5 years. So I will be able to quit smoking. Thanks again!
To be clear: I prefer to pay for things instead of having to see ads but 13€ / month!? For a meta product that has inherently user-hostile design patterns even without ads?...
Phone got stolen last year. New phone, installed instagram, tried to log into account, but locked out.
Instagram tech support told me I either had to: 1) take a photo of myself, they’d check if it matched any selfies in my account, or; 2) I had to associate my Facebook profile.
I’m security conscious enough to not post selfies online, nor use Facebook. Goodbye instagram.
Lack of commitment, follow through, cowardice preventing me from doing what I really want to do.
Which means, I don’t have that out. I can curl inward, f*ck everything, I’m done, and everything gets worse and worse. Not sustainable.
If I’m stuck here, no way out, I suppose only way left is to try to figure out how to get out of this dark space. It doesn’t have to be fixed all at once. Just do one small good thing for yourself. Give yourself time to heal, recover. Take it slow. The only way things can change is by actions. Take a shower. Go to goodwill, spend $ on clothes that isn’t sweatpants and tattered t-shirts. …
If I keep at this, one small step at a time, I’m laying in a solid foundation, preparing for that point in future where I’ll be able to go back to that goodwill, ask if they’re hiring. Sure, not the cushy $75k job you had b4 becoming homeless. It’s better than staying on SSI, trapped below poverty level in overcrowded slums.
Yesterday I blocked politics, worldnews, and similar. Feed was becoming nasty, depressing, everyone arguing, complaining, criticizing, trolls, strawmen. Literally people saying it all sucks, nothing matters, everybody’s a liar, there is no point, why bother…
I carry a powerbank and various USB C adapters so if someone’s device dies I can help them out. It is a lot cheaper and smaller than carrying around seven different cables....
Recently I’ve been catching up on tv and some of the more mature/adult shows, which I’ve been…Enjoying? Seems like the wrong word, but they’ve all generally been cynical or dark....
Nightmare on elm Street. That scene where he’s walking menacingly down alley, his arms stretching so long so his metal fingers scrapping along alley walls… terrifying.
It look me til mid, late 30s. Had drank so heavily for so long, was getting sicker and sicker. Realized was heading straight into Leaving Las Vegas territory, had to quit.
My fiance has been struggling a lot lately with this and it’s taking a toll on me. I’m doing all I can and all I know how to do but it’s getting really hard and exhausting to deal with the constant cycle of abuse and then apology and then abuse and then apology over and over and over again for months. Usually day by day. I...
I’m answering from the point of view of the alcoholic person you’re trying to help, change. I was that person.
Went on for years. People kept telling me risks, I should stop, it was affecting relationships, health, work, etc.
I’d say: I don’t have a drinking problem. I’m able to hold jobs. I drink to help cope with certain things. Everybody uses something to cope, alcohol is mine.
For years. Where things changed, late 30s.:
Getting sicker. Medical 420 became a thing. Finally found med that helped with insomnia. Introduced to dbt, cbt. A good psychiatrist.
It’s good you care, are trying to help. You might be able to. But… the person has to be ready, willing to recognize they have a problem.
Oh, also, alcoholics anonymous never worked for me. There are secular options. Harm reduction, moderation management worked best for my situation.
I have recently played 3 games that have forced a lengthy, unskippable tutorial section that runs for several hours of the game, just to unlock the most basic functions like buying the items, customizing features, multiplayer, and even 2-player split screen modes....
Get bored with games SO quickly. Part of how to keep interest is figuring out on my own how the game works. And I can, on my own, figure out games, software, very quickly.
Too many phone games try to make you sit thru insufferable tedious tutorials. So you’re not only depriving me the chance to figure out on my own, you’re also insulting my intelligence. Any game does this, instant uninstall.
Once, no money for food. So posted to craigslist something about a broke dykes dinner. Bunch of fellow gay women showed up, each contributed one item. Memorable night. There was some whipping with green onions in the kitchen. One of the women told me (we were all out of jobs, struggling) that a straight guy would pay her $50 to throw tomatoes at him while he jerked himself off.
Yes. Lot of apps on phone don’t work well together. Watch a YouTube video, while using music player, then a camera video file… one will stop.
Phone is for internet, texting, games. Sometimes just want to listen to music, doing it on phone gets too complicated. My tiny mp3 player fits in pocket, just slide on, click once, music instantly plays. It can hold 100 gigs of music, trying to fit that on my phone, would have to sacrifice other files.
It’s threaded with spiraling time threads, like symphonic Christmas lights dancing in an ethereal breeze. Touch one of these time threads, and millenias worth of physics explodes along my skin. You can hear the whispered susurrations of cosmic eddies trembling thru the universe, the songs of stars. It is bright like sherbert, cold and warm on the flesh, and every fiber of my being is rapturously tesselated.
They’re self aware. Understand the difference between subjectivity and objectivity. When they encounter someone different, they don’t judge, see it as a learning opportunity. Put thought into their words. If you ask them a question, you can see them carefully thinking about it.
Not specific to your situation, just a process I recently went through. White female, thick, wavy, unruly hair. For decades, most haircut, style places were white people focused. Most white women have fine, straight hair. These places just didn’t know what to do with me.
Few months back, did research. 2a to 2c hair. Reading stuff online, many people with same hair were black women, sharing tips. So I went to a salon, all black staff and customers. Said, I’m having trouble figuring out what to do with my hair, anyone feel OK educating me?
Nice older black woman said with a smile, come over here white girl, let’s see what we can do. Glad I took a risk. Best haircut, style, ever. She turned me on to a lot of good hair products.
I’ve noticed that I actually sleep better taking them in the morning and don’t feel that groggy at all. Is there a valueable effect that I’m missing from taking them in the mornings instead of in the evenings?
Meds affect people differently. I tend to have paradoxical reactions to meds. Have learned to trust my instincts. I mention cuz it’s good you’re asking questions, educating yourself. Just keep in mind, figuring out what works for you may not match up with other people’s experiences.
Lot of what you said is true. Good advice many people should follow.
Just, paradoxical reactions are a bit more complex, took me decades to figure out. Nyquil has me curled in a ball, twitching, spasming uncontrollably. Nodoze sent me into a violent rage, up all night. Lot of meds, make most sleepy, but me, rush of energy, awake all night. Antipsychotics meant to calm me, instead out of control anger. Benadryl means eyes wide, pulse racing.
It had nothing to do with dosage, plasma levels, titration. There are just some people bizarrely hypersensitive to meds, who have the bizarre 1% side effects the other 99% doesn’t get.
But for that 99%, everything you said is true, again good advice and info.
I’m the same way, most song lyricsare incomprehensible gibberish. So you’ll probably recognize this catchy line: “wrapped up like a douche in the middle of the night”
There’s a cat in my apt complex. Many cats, but this one often looks unhappy, disheveled. Terrible owner. Whenever we pass each other, he gives a plaintive meow. Every so often, he tentatively accepts skritches behind his ear.
So, out for walks, random places, whenever I see this cat, I meow. And he meows back. I meow again, he meows back. Never had a cat do this. It’s like he’s talking to me, we’re having a conversation, I just don’t know what he’s saying. Wish I did.
What are some of your, "If I like this, what else might I like" questions?
Thanks for all the interesting replies! Given the response, I decided to make a whole community around this, hope you’ll consider joining!...
Night vs Morning people (startrek.website)
Tell me about your cockroach horror story
I’ll start. Apt next door is having a cockroach infected. 4 days ago, I was playing sims on my laptop, wearing my eyeglasses. Right lens got blurry, took off, huge cockroach was crawling across inside of lens. While I was wearing them. Freak out ensued.
What are your thoughts on the concept of having faith in a Higher Power but choosing to distance oneself from established religious doctrines?
Hey, so I believe in a higher power but I’m not on board with any particular religion. Anyone else think it’s cool to just fly solo as a good human, no religion attached?
What's the most derogatory term someone has used for you?
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Which books have the worst video adaptation?
For me it’s definitely the Dark Tower, but the Golden Compas was also a huge letdown.
If you could make any "simulator" game, what would it be?
When do you think violence is justified? (kbin.social)
Self defense? Only on the battlefield? Only to achieve a ‘noble’ end?
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Atypical tips to quit smoking?
I know it’s gross, unhealthy, a stupid habit, makes no sense....
Instagram's monthly subscription (feddit.de)
To be clear: I prefer to pay for things instead of having to see ads but 13€ / month!? For a meta product that has inherently user-hostile design patterns even without ads?...
What keeps you going every day?
What are your favourite things under 50$ that make your life a bit easier or more pleasant?
I need some holiday gift ideas (that I will probably gift to myself as well)!
Anyways (startrek.website)
Get out and vote! (lemmy.ml)
I need Rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
What are some neat things you carry around that come in handy?
I carry a powerbank and various USB C adapters so if someone’s device dies I can help them out. It is a lot cheaper and smaller than carrying around seven different cables....
Lighthearted, upbeat shows for adults?
Recently I’ve been catching up on tv and some of the more mature/adult shows, which I’ve been…Enjoying? Seems like the wrong word, but they’ve all generally been cynical or dark....
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What movie do you see too young, that still scares you today?
I Can't Drink Now Like I Used to a Few Years Ago (26M), is that Normal?
I Can’t Drink Now Like I Used to a Few Years Ago (26M), is that Normal?...
Advice on helping a loved one through alcoholism?
My fiance has been struggling a lot lately with this and it’s taking a toll on me. I’m doing all I can and all I know how to do but it’s getting really hard and exhausting to deal with the constant cycle of abuse and then apology and then abuse and then apology over and over and over again for months. Usually day by day. I...
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Games that require you to unlock the basic functions of the game can suck my nuts.
I have recently played 3 games that have forced a lengthy, unskippable tutorial section that runs for several hours of the game, just to unlock the most basic functions like buying the items, customizing features, multiplayer, and even 2-player split screen modes....
What short term ways to get money have you tried and how did they turn out?
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If you could travel the multiuniverse, what would be the first universe you would visit?
Who cares about red flags in people. What are your green flags
How should I find a good hair cut?
I’m male 16, living in Iran for clarification. (English is not my first language so sorry for any mistakes)...
next to groggyness, is there an additional reason to take SSRI's in the evening?
I’ve noticed that I actually sleep better taking them in the morning and don’t feel that groggy at all. Is there a valueable effect that I’m missing from taking them in the mornings instead of in the evenings?
What are some songs that you started listening to ironically, but grew to genuinely enjoy?
I like The Man Behind The Slaughter by The Living Tombstone. I don’t tend to enjoy fan-made music, but this one was too groovy to pass up.
What tv show had a big impact on you?
For me, its Xena....
Could use some kind words after being misgendered all day long on my birthday~ (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
[Image of a trans woman in a green tank and a flannel shirt taking a bathroom selfie]
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