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I work in the public sector myself (though in a different country). I constantly find myself wondering if this is in my future too.

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Is their being successful going to be used by them to make my life worse? If not, I wish them all the success in the world.

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It has happened!

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I’m in Queensland, so we’re not allowed to have alcohol in supermarkets. This was a stand alone BWS

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You mean a kettle? How did you not already have one?

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Oh! Ok, you’ve sold me! :)

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After using a dedicated bidet for the first time, I was an instant convert! But the after market ones installed in existing toilets just aren’t the same. If I ever get the chance, I’ll be adding one to any house I own!

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Unless I’m at home, I’m probably wearing mine! (They get hidden behind my hair, so people don’t even know I’m wearing them)

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I mean the stand alone ones built in beside the toilet.

Something like this

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/b217987c-4deb-4350-a730-21eff08612c2.png

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Get in to the ones that fill a niche for you!

Like, it doesn’t matter how good PeerTube is, I’m unlikely to use it, because I rarely consume “Youtube like” content and when I do, it’s without an account or interaction, following external links.

But I use the threadiverse and microfediverse as my only social media outlets.

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What a headline to read as a trans person…

We’ve never been more excluded or villified in sports than right here at this moment

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If excluding trans folk wasn’t broadly tolerated by sports fans, it wouldn’t be so widespread.

I think the more likely scenario is that the work focused on LGBTQ folks as a whole and simply didn’t look at the very divergent experiences of trans folk in sports. Not mentioning that limitation is a strange oversight from pink news

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Whatever the reason, trans people are the most excluded from sports that they’ve ever been. This headline completely erases that

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If that was their goal, they did it without actually mentioning just how bad it is for trans people at the moment. The article didn’t say “Sports are moving against trans folks, but fans don’t want that”. What it said is that sports are more welcoming than ever, at the time when trans folk are more excluded than ever.

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their wording is still vague.

Yep. The experiences that cis LGBQ folk have in sports is nothing at all like the experience that gender diverse folk experience sports, and the implied equivalence even there is glossing over the reality that many of us are dealing with.

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ultimately I don’t care if trans people compete

You can see how this is indicative of what I’m talking about right?

I’m excluded from many sports, and even my LGBTQ peers often show indifference to that.

Yet somehow, the headline is that I’m more welcome than ever…

I think they have already figured out a reasonable timeline where it becomes fair again

It was already fair. They took that away.

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but taking the modern neo-fascist conservative opinion as the opinion of all, seems a bit disingenuous; they simply bitch at everything and louder than most.

This isn’t about fascists opinions. It’s about the fact that they are explicitly and openly banning us from involvement in an ever growing list of sports.

Cricket, football, chess, swimming, athletics, cycling, disc golf, weight lifting… The list goes on…

This isn’t opinions, it’s not about who speaks loudest, it’s about the explicit exclusion of trans folk from sports.

And you can’t talk about an apparent golden age of acceptance when the list of explicit exclusions is greater than it has ever been, especially when they don’t even mention those exclusions in the article!

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Yep, derby is one of the few that have been staunchly trans inclusive, even before the wave of transphobia in recent years

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Locked - Rule 2

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There’s an upcoming change in Lemmy as a whole that will essentially get rid of the scores altogether

Any chance you can expand on that?

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Lemmy was around and active before the reddit incident. It wasn’t busy, but it was growing. It’s always had its own life.

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It’s pointless when there is so much content that it gets drowned out by the time it’s a few days old. It’s not pointless when that isn’t true.

Many people sort by active or new comments and even days old threads will show up there if someone replies.

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I wish. I love black tea, but I have an allergy to it :\

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None. We’re still dealing with many other instances of people thinking it’s a good idea…

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Hi!

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It’s genuinely Die Hard. Calling it a Christmas movie used to be something I said for fun, but somewhere along the line, watching it at Christmas has become an actual tradition that I look forward to

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I don’t mean it like that. I’m not trying to meme or anything. Yeah, meming is why I first started watching it at Christmas, but it’s long stopped being about the meme and and debates about whether it’s a Christmas movie.

I watch it every Christmas now because it has become a genuine tradition for me

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What’s this?

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Thank you for the answer, however I was making a reference from the movie myself :)

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/pictrs/image/4c8d2d1f-f210-4452-924e-8157b2d5f5df.png

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I love that movie! :)

when will be your last time to vote for the "lesser of two evils"?

When will be your “this is the last fucking time I’m voting for the ‘lesser of two evils’, then I don’t care after that, let this country burn to the ground”? For me, this is basically it. This is last election I’m going for that " lesser of two evils" bullshit. After that I’m done. It’s just pointless. Let’s...

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We have preferential voting here, so I stick the lesser of two evils in front of the evil party but behind the people I actually want in power.

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Care to summarise for those of us that can’t sit through a 10 minute video?

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I can’t do video content as a means of delivering information. The linear, non indexed, “at the speed of speech” means of delivery wrapped on either side by waffle does my head in…

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Thanks :)

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Crusader Kings II

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Once you stop bouncing off, you’ll have trouble letting go :)

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You can’t get it wrong, because half the fun of the game IMO is trying to play with awful characters that screw up all your plans.

If you’re looking for a “paint the map one colour” strategy game, there are better options, but if you want to play game of thrones with heresies, inheritance wars, inbreeding and all of the other fun stuff, this is the game :)

How does attraction feel like to you, mentally, physically and emotionally?

It was sometime in early 2022 that I found myself reading a few romance novels. I remember being mildly annoyed about how most of the books had instant chemistry/attraction as part of the plot. Then I suddenly found myself wondering, how do I feel if and when I feel attraction? I think I have probably never felt instant...

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To me, romance feels like friendship without boundaries. It’s not something I feel quickly or when I first see someone. It’s something that has to develop over time, because it’s based on friendship.

Physical attraction, it’s desire… It’s usually in the moment, and can and does occur with people I don’t know. It’s noticing their features… feeling my eyes drawn to them

What’s interesting though is that I can experience romantic attraction to anyone (but it seems I’m more likely to experience it with women), but my physical attraction tends to be towards men and masc folk.

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It’s descriptions like that that make me wonder if I’m aromantic in some fashion, because I don’t have anything like that.

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Despite having more emojis than most lemmy instances, I still rarely use them myself, but that’s mostly because they’re not intuitively built in to the reply/post UI/flow. You can get to them, but it’s a bif of an effort 🤷‍♀️

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Most of the perceived gender differences in behavior are due to social conditioning.

Even if that’s true, they’re still differences though aren’t they? Social conditioning leads to differences just like any other environmental factor can. Social conditioning isn’t “less real” or the like just because it’s social

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Stick at it, you’ll see it

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Coding, photography, public speaking/advocacy, writing…

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The three brackets are a nazi dog whistle.

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Cheating is when you do something that betrays your partners trust.

I couldn’t care less if my partners post nudes, anonymous or otherwise, so it wouldn’t be cheating for me.

Other people feel differently, and so it could be cheating for them.

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If you’re in a relationship with someone that cares that deeply about office work, and you don’t have the first inkling that they do, you have significant communication problems that need to be addressed.

More realistically, you’d know enough about your partner to know that it might be an issue for them, in which case, not knowing what their boundaries are, but knowing you’re at risk of crossing them, you’d communicate with them.

Question to those not in the USA, and who have lived outside the USA.

I’ve been thinking about something and want to check an assumption I have. I only hear directly from other people in the USA, and interract with the global community through memes. How are the gun regulations/laws different from yours in terms of strictness, and do you wish there was more or less where you live?...

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I’m from Australia, and we have strict gun controls. US gun culture is a complete and utter mystery to me. I have no desire to live like that…

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