How often to you bail on a half-written post or response?

I have had a tendency since my earliest days on social media where I will get halfway or more through a response, and end up just cancelling it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just being to over the top with snark or otherwise don’t want to be that kind of person, but a lot of the time I’ll decide I just really don’t care enough to finish it. Sometimes I just know it’ll be an argument and I know what the person is going to say, and just have no interest in continuing the discussion. I did it on Reddit, I did it on bulletin boards, I even did it in my teens and twenties on Usenet - and I’ll probably go on doing it for as long as I continue using this medium. I probably do it a bit more than half the time. I know that lemmy benefits from more content and I have had some great discussions, but sometimes it’s just not worth it for me.

How about you? Do you hit publish or cancel more often?

can,

My comments tend to be short enough that I’ve already written them and by that point I might as well submit.

pathief,
@pathief@lemmy.world avatar

All the time. Sometimes I’ll write an entire wall of text, correct all the typos I could find and then delete it. “Why bother? This person is just not going to consider a different opinion, just save yourself the pointless discussion.”

nomecks,

Far less than on the other site. I’ve been trying to commit in order to grow the Fediverse, even if I’ve got a few garbage hot takes. I will say, my shit comments seem to get way more responses than my good ones.

Land_Strider,

Similar situation with me. Although I don’t complete my comments just to help Fediverse have more in it, because I don’t think the shit stuff even I wouldn’t like to be a part of it. Not saying you do it, cuz shit differs.

The times I hit cancel are usually when I can’t conclude my arguments satisfactorily. Sometimes my argument isn’t as contributive to the discussion, whether by sounding stretched or irrelevant, or by simply sounding incorrect or incoherent in the end. I bet a lot of people realize this as well when they put their thoughts into words and hit cancel. Nevertheless, it is a commendable action to both try to form the argument and send it to trash when you realize it isn’t reasonable in forms of communication.

Mostly the reason I complete my comments and hit submit is that Fediverse feels way less toxic, has a lot wider views, actually discusses a lot different takes, and generally less hivemind about upvotes/downvotes, although they matter less here.

Paorzz,

About four words in

ricdeh,
@ricdeh@lemmy.world avatar

For me personally it’s when discussing controversial topics, I know I’m right but I’m too lazy to get into an argument to elaborate on my points in detail.

franklin,
@franklin@lemmy.world avatar

It’s hard for me to self evaluation how often I’m right but if I’m asserting something with confidence I hold myself to rigorous proof.

If I’m just chatting about beliefs it’s a bit different but if I’m asserting something as fact I try not to say anything I can’t show the receipts for to check myself for misinformation.

If this process is too much work I just say nothing.

Timecircleline,

Funny enough, I almost replied to a comment here and then deleted it.

I’ve been trying to do it less since migrating to Lemmy because I recognize that the smaller userbase means that my interaction is more valuable, even if it’s scary.

Eonandahalf,

Right?! Same, Lemmy feels more human, probs because the big ones are mostly bots now.

… almost didn’t send this 🙃

Timecircleline,

I’m glad you did, friend.

lvxferre,
@lvxferre@lemmy.ml avatar

I do it fairly often. Usually when:

  • It’s pointless to submit the content, for the others and for myself.
  • There’s a high chance that someone will misread it and whine.
  • It would help someone whom I don’t want to.

In Lemmy it’s usually the first thing.

Nepenthe,
@Nepenthe@kbin.social avatar
  • It would help someone whom I don’t want to.

....explain? We're...silently and maliciously watching people eat shit when they don't have to? And this happens often?

Y tho

lvxferre,
@lvxferre@lemmy.ml avatar

Dunno about “we”, but “I” do. I got plenty malice to watch them suffer! MWAHAHAHA [/evil villain laughter]

Serious now: if the person can’t be arsed to help themself, or if their request for help sounds like a demand/whining/passive aggressiveness. A noob saying “pls help how do i shoot web tnx” is 100% fine in my book, a “waah, why isn’t this community helping me? [insert easy-to-websearch question]” is not.

And this happens often?

Can’t recall doing it in Lemmy. But I did all the time in a certain other platform.

lolola,

depends. on political posts it’s like 90% bail rate, because i get done typing a message and then realize i’m just feeding into the outrage machine.

but on meme posts? maybe 10% bail rate, because lol

qooqie,

Eh not that much. Who cares about points? I’ll edit my response if I mistyped or made it difficult to understand, but why not contribute to the convo? Again points matter way less here than on Reddit and even on Reddit it didn’t matter a whole bunch

bjoern_tantau,
@bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de avatar

Sure, points are pointless. I still get a dopamine hit when the number goes up or I get nice comments.

And I just wanted to bail on this comment, because I’m not sure if I grasp everything. But considering the topic I will leave it.

qooqie,

You right, they’re pointless but the monkey brain loves seeing them be in the positive

tuxtey,

Did it just n

blipcast,

Sometimes I don’t even

Dlayknee,

Right? I do it all the

Stamets,
@Stamets@lemmy.world avatar

80% of my comments. I try to set a baseline and be kind/respectful (not that I am always successful) but I’m not particularly a kind or respectful person. A lot of my comments are bitter and bitchy and I end up deleting them. This place isn’t reddit and I’ll be damned if I participate in inflicting my negativity on this place.

SuddenDownpour,

I mean, backing down on your hostility is an effort to be respectful from your part. There’s plenty of people with a very negative inner monologue who just keep the negativity to themselves.

Minarble,

Ok, so well I made this several weeks ago and well, you know…

https://aussie.zone/pictrs/image/8f1579b1-3573-458a-bb3c-1be792a86777.jpeg

mack7400,

This, definitely.

Steveanonymous,
@Steveanonymous@lemmy.world avatar

A lot. Sometimes I have something to say but so afraid of ridicule I back out

PRUSSIA_x86,

fuck it never mind

gatelike,

fook this nvm

dgmib,

I literally bailed while writing a comment on another post just to scroll down to this post next.

So yea… all the time.

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