How often to you bail on a half-written post or response?

I have had a tendency since my earliest days on social media where I will get halfway or more through a response, and end up just cancelling it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just being to over the top with snark or otherwise don’t want to be that kind of person, but a lot of the time I’ll decide I just really don’t care enough to finish it. Sometimes I just know it’ll be an argument and I know what the person is going to say, and just have no interest in continuing the discussion. I did it on Reddit, I did it on bulletin boards, I even did it in my teens and twenties on Usenet - and I’ll probably go on doing it for as long as I continue using this medium. I probably do it a bit more than half the time. I know that lemmy benefits from more content and I have had some great discussions, but sometimes it’s just not worth it for me.

How about you? Do you hit publish or cancel more often?

roguetrick,

I have a personality with a low neuroticism and a low conscientiousness, so I usually post.

aeki,
@aeki@slrpnk.net avatar

I’m inverse you.

Genuinely overthinking this very reply.

Luckily, I’m also impulsive.

andrew_bidlaw,

Something akin to 10% of unwritten comments here. 5% are shared between cases when I write it for too long and still can’t see it as a complete thought, or when I get distracted half-way through and can’t care to continue. Other 5% is my stupid phone optimi… pushing apps from memory when I switch to something else (even if it’s for fact-checking this exact comment), so I lose whatever I wrote and the thread itself.

caesar_salad83, (edited )

here’s me, posting 1 in every 10 comments I start writing.

shadowSprite,

I cancel more often. Because who cares what I have to say? And sometimes I realize it’s been more therapeutic to just type a comment out than it is to hit post and deal with people’s potential responses.

sparky678348,

I care what you say ❤️

You, yes you reading this, have a valid perspective and a unique insight and the world is enriched by you sharing your thoughts with other strangers.

moth,

I needed to hear this, thank you 🥹 You have a good heart Sparky

shadowSprite,

That’s so kind, thank you

thelsim,
@thelsim@sh.itjust.works avatar

As @sparky678348 already so nicely said, I too would love to hear what you have to say. Whether it’s something profound, something nice, or just that you like or enjoy someone else’s comment/post.
It is always so nice to hear from someone else, so don’t put yourself down. Let yourself be heard and join the fun :)

shadowSprite,

Thank you :)

can,

I realize it’s been more therapeutic to just type a comment out than it is to hit post and deal with people’s potential responses.

Yeah, but on Lemmy if you get sick of the replies you can delete yours and take theirs down with it.

sparky678348,

Goated

TimewornTraveler,

Rarely ever

DarienGS,

I do this all the time. I see so many brainless, low-effort posts all over the internet that I don’t want to add to the pollution with anything I’m not confident is either informative or funny.

But I also want Lemmy to grow and thrive, so here I’ve been making more of an effort to try to finish and post even comments I’m not so certain about. I figure that has to be better for the site than contributing nothing at all.

IvanOverdrive,

Sometimes I realize I’m not contributing anything new to the conversation. I just upvote the post that said what I wanted to say and be done with it. Yeah, I could get some upvotes, but what’s the point? It’s not like I can buy things with imaginary points.

lolola,

depends. on political posts it’s like 90% bail rate, because i get done typing a message and then realize i’m just feeding into the outrage machine.

but on meme posts? maybe 10% bail rate, because lol

Mr_Dr_Oink,

It depends how long the comment is. Short comments get past the “dont post it” filter 99% of the time. But long posts give me time to realise i dont care enough to carry on.

lvxferre,
@lvxferre@lemmy.ml avatar

I do it fairly often. Usually when:

  • It’s pointless to submit the content, for the others and for myself.
  • There’s a high chance that someone will misread it and whine.
  • It would help someone whom I don’t want to.

In Lemmy it’s usually the first thing.

Nepenthe,
@Nepenthe@kbin.social avatar
  • It would help someone whom I don’t want to.

....explain? We're...silently and maliciously watching people eat shit when they don't have to? And this happens often?

Y tho

lvxferre,
@lvxferre@lemmy.ml avatar

Dunno about “we”, but “I” do. I got plenty malice to watch them suffer! MWAHAHAHA [/evil villain laughter]

Serious now: if the person can’t be arsed to help themself, or if their request for help sounds like a demand/whining/passive aggressiveness. A noob saying “pls help how do i shoot web tnx” is 100% fine in my book, a “waah, why isn’t this community helping me? [insert easy-to-websearch question]” is not.

And this happens often?

Can’t recall doing it in Lemmy. But I did all the time in a certain other platform.

altima_neo,
@altima_neo@lemmy.zip avatar

I do that often. Sometimes I stop and touch grass and realize I’m being stupid. Other times I realize I’m just wasting time, or just repeating what someone else said. Like yeah, my opinion matches up with someone else’s, but it isn’t helping the discussion any. Or other times I just need to chill from a heated discussion.

But usually the biggest one is when autocorrect is fucking with me and I just don’t have the patience to go back and fix just about every word I just swiped. I figure, if it’s that bad, then it just wasn’t worth posting.

tierelantijntje,

There’s a high barrier for me to even start typing a comment, but I try to contribute more on lemmy. Haven’t really participated on social media in years. I guess about 20% of the time when I think I should comment I actually do it.

thelsim,
@thelsim@sh.itjust.works avatar

I know how you feel, I’ve had that same problem when I joined lemmy and really had to force myself to comment. But you know, I’ve told myself that in the end it’s more about just saying what comes to mind than worry if you’re really contributing to the conversation.
Even if it’s just agreeing with someone or just saying you like something, I prefer to write it out in a comment instead of clicking on some arrow. I like to think that whoever wrote the comment/post I replied to appreciates a personal response instead of an upvote. I know I do :)

dgmib,

I literally bailed while writing a comment on another post just to scroll down to this post next.

So yea… all the time.

reisono_,

I delete probably half of all posts/responses I start (across many accounts). Sometimes it’s because I realise the answer to my question while typing it but more often than not it’s because I realise what I’m saying is ambiguous/opinionated and I get too anxious about someone taking it the totally wrong way and getting offended or annoyed.

Annoyingly this gets in the way of a lot of my online communication. Either that or I realise no one cares what my opinion is… Unless they directly ask- thanks OP!

Quazatron,
@Quazatron@lemmy.world avatar

Here I am writing my opinion, only to realise that many of you have already posted most of the valid points I was going to make. So now my comment is pretty much worthless and adds nothing to the discussion.

I cancel most of the time, but today I’ll open an exception to prove my point.

Have you somehow become more enlightened by my post? Yeah, should have cancelled it.

Aussiemandeus,

I think that this answer really is great. It’s truly provided me with…

Eonandahalf,

When you think about it, you sort of proving the point that…

This took to long to formulate, so I gave up. But at least I posted it 🙃.

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