How often to you bail on a half-written post or response?

I have had a tendency since my earliest days on social media where I will get halfway or more through a response, and end up just cancelling it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just being to over the top with snark or otherwise don’t want to be that kind of person, but a lot of the time I’ll decide I just really don’t care enough to finish it. Sometimes I just know it’ll be an argument and I know what the person is going to say, and just have no interest in continuing the discussion. I did it on Reddit, I did it on bulletin boards, I even did it in my teens and twenties on Usenet - and I’ll probably go on doing it for as long as I continue using this medium. I probably do it a bit more than half the time. I know that lemmy benefits from more content and I have had some great discussions, but sometimes it’s just not worth it for me.

How about you? Do you hit publish or cancel more often?

altima_neo,
@altima_neo@lemmy.zip avatar

I do that often. Sometimes I stop and touch grass and realize I’m being stupid. Other times I realize I’m just wasting time, or just repeating what someone else said. Like yeah, my opinion matches up with someone else’s, but it isn’t helping the discussion any. Or other times I just need to chill from a heated discussion.

But usually the biggest one is when autocorrect is fucking with me and I just don’t have the patience to go back and fix just about every word I just swiped. I figure, if it’s that bad, then it just wasn’t worth posting.

Mr_Dr_Oink,

It depends how long the comment is. Short comments get past the “dont post it” filter 99% of the time. But long posts give me time to realise i dont care enough to carry on.

lolola,

depends. on political posts it’s like 90% bail rate, because i get done typing a message and then realize i’m just feeding into the outrage machine.

but on meme posts? maybe 10% bail rate, because lol

IvanOverdrive,

Sometimes I realize I’m not contributing anything new to the conversation. I just upvote the post that said what I wanted to say and be done with it. Yeah, I could get some upvotes, but what’s the point? It’s not like I can buy things with imaginary points.

DarienGS,

I do this all the time. I see so many brainless, low-effort posts all over the internet that I don’t want to add to the pollution with anything I’m not confident is either informative or funny.

But I also want Lemmy to grow and thrive, so here I’ve been making more of an effort to try to finish and post even comments I’m not so certain about. I figure that has to be better for the site than contributing nothing at all.

TimewornTraveler,

Rarely ever

caesar_salad83, (edited )

here’s me, posting 1 in every 10 comments I start writing.

andrew_bidlaw,

Something akin to 10% of unwritten comments here. 5% are shared between cases when I write it for too long and still can’t see it as a complete thought, or when I get distracted half-way through and can’t care to continue. Other 5% is my stupid phone optimi… pushing apps from memory when I switch to something else (even if it’s for fact-checking this exact comment), so I lose whatever I wrote and the thread itself.

kaffiene,

Absolutely. Sometimes you know your post isn’t going to do anything worthwhile. Sometimes you’re just being a dick. Sometimes the other person is clearly not going to listen to you. Sometimes your post adds nothing of value. That kind of self reflection is a good thing IMO. I wish more people did it

FoundTheVegan,
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About 20% I'd say. It used to be much higher, arounx80%, but pushing through the anexity of feeling like have nothing to contribute has helped improved my writing. Perhaps it's come with age, but I feel like it's much easier to make myself and my thought process understood by others. A younger me thought that logic and just "being correct" was enough to be persuasive, but that's just not how people work.

Cyv_,
@Cyv_@kbin.social avatar

I'd say over half. Maybe 60% ?

bjoern_tantau,
@bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de avatar

You’ll be getting less answers from people who cancel more often. 😉

I think I cancel my posts about 1 to 5 percent of the time. Usually when it gets longer and I notice that my brain is too stupid to continue. Sometimes also when I catch myself being a little bit too sarcastic.

SatanicNotMessianic,

As a data scientist, this is my favorite answer.

yum_burnt_toast,
@yum_burnt_toast@reddthat.com avatar

i tend to be long-winded and i dont often have a good sense for what information is explicitly necessary, so i have started a fair few comments that ive lost steam on and convinced myself werent worth posting. i also have not participated in social media for about ten years, so i dont have the sense that i can just casually post something without it being particularly valid, but when i do post its after reassuring myself that what i say doesnt always have to be life-altering.

so yea, probably 40% of the time i bail if i start thinking about it more than i should, which is easy to do when i have to proofread so much due to florisboard not having autocorrect.

SatanicNotMessianic,

I think we’re very much on the same page.

qooqie,

Eh not that much. Who cares about points? I’ll edit my response if I mistyped or made it difficult to understand, but why not contribute to the convo? Again points matter way less here than on Reddit and even on Reddit it didn’t matter a whole bunch

bjoern_tantau,
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Sure, points are pointless. I still get a dopamine hit when the number goes up or I get nice comments.

And I just wanted to bail on this comment, because I’m not sure if I grasp everything. But considering the topic I will leave it.

qooqie,

You right, they’re pointless but the monkey brain loves seeing them be in the positive

derekabutton,

50% of my messages here on Lemmy.

I’d guess more like 25% of messages at work and 75% on the discord server I use with IRL friends are deleted without being posted.

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