How often to you bail on a half-written post or response?

I have had a tendency since my earliest days on social media where I will get halfway or more through a response, and end up just cancelling it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just being to over the top with snark or otherwise don’t want to be that kind of person, but a lot of the time I’ll decide I just really don’t care enough to finish it. Sometimes I just know it’ll be an argument and I know what the person is going to say, and just have no interest in continuing the discussion. I did it on Reddit, I did it on bulletin boards, I even did it in my teens and twenties on Usenet - and I’ll probably go on doing it for as long as I continue using this medium. I probably do it a bit more than half the time. I know that lemmy benefits from more content and I have had some great discussions, but sometimes it’s just not worth it for me.

How about you? Do you hit publish or cancel more often?

hamsammy,

I’d say I post about 1/30 responses I make.

Kiwi_Girl,
@Kiwi_Girl@lemmy.blahaj.zone avatar

Do you write a lot of responses, or just do a low amount of bailing?

b3an,
@b3an@lemmy.world avatar

Sometimes I react emotionally. Resting a reply is the catharsis to release, and usually by the end I’ve lost my steam by letting it out. 🍵🫖

LilB0kChoy,

Probably 50/50. Mostly because I don’t care enough to get in an argument or have to defend what I say.

Simple throwaway comments, observations, generic opinion stuff I’ll just drop it and move on.

Anything I’m really knowledgeable in though, I’ll start and then cancel because there’s always someone who wants to challenge and argue and it’s just exhausting.

uriel238,
@uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone avatar

One in five, I’ll guess. I am prone to TMI, not as much intimate sharing as wanting to write about things that are too far remotely related.

I’m also prone to seguing into a rant as I have much to say I wish were said more often. Sometimes I edit those out. Sometimes I mark them as rants.

And then I am prone to mobile keyboard fatigue, and will wear out if a short explanation won’t do. I get back to it at a proper keyboard less often than I don’t.

WoahWoah,

I wish more people on Lemmy and everywhere else were like you.

nl4real,

A great deal. I also don’t like to get in internet arguments a lot for the same a reasons.

lvxferre,
@lvxferre@lemmy.ml avatar

I do it fairly often. Usually when:

  • It’s pointless to submit the content, for the others and for myself.
  • There’s a high chance that someone will misread it and whine.
  • It would help someone whom I don’t want to.

In Lemmy it’s usually the first thing.

Nepenthe,
@Nepenthe@kbin.social avatar
  • It would help someone whom I don’t want to.

....explain? We're...silently and maliciously watching people eat shit when they don't have to? And this happens often?

Y tho

lvxferre,
@lvxferre@lemmy.ml avatar

Dunno about “we”, but “I” do. I got plenty malice to watch them suffer! MWAHAHAHA [/evil villain laughter]

Serious now: if the person can’t be arsed to help themself, or if their request for help sounds like a demand/whining/passive aggressiveness. A noob saying “pls help how do i shoot web tnx” is 100% fine in my book, a “waah, why isn’t this community helping me? [insert easy-to-websearch question]” is not.

And this happens often?

Can’t recall doing it in Lemmy. But I did all the time in a certain other platform.

PRUSSIA_x86,

fuck it never mind

gatelike,

fook this nvm

_haha_oh_wow_,
@_haha_oh_wow_@sh.itjust.works avatar

More often than not, I hit publish, but I definitely hit cancel sometimes. Sometimes it’s because it’s not worth arguing, but sometimes, I realize I don’t really have anything worthwhile to contribute and should probably just stfu

Bakkoda,

I write a response. Reread to make sure it’s exactly what i usually write, first 25% on topic, rest completely off. Then i delete 75% and hit post lol

_haha_oh_wow_,
@_haha_oh_wow_@sh.itjust.works avatar

“Brevity is the soul of wit.”

thorbot,

Fairly often. I’ll get a sentence out and then

olafurp,

Every now and then I write a well thought out post, make sure my grammar is good and that my point is clear and that there is no context missing. Then I sometimes rewrite a 100 word section because I thought my thoughts were too jumbled up in hindsight.

Then I realise I don’t care enough to finish it.

To answer your question, my ratio is around 80% send 20% delete.

Paorzz,

About four words in

spittingimage,
@spittingimage@lemmy.world avatar

I still catch myself in the process of replying to someone who is Wrong On The Internet, but for the most part I just let it go. It still bothers me, but I’ve accepted that nothing I say on a webforum is going to change any hearts or minds. Nowadays I mostly post to try and give people a cheap laugh.

MigratingtoLemmy,

I do it sometimes, when I realise midway that I was wrong/don’t care enough (usually when I feel that someone hasn’t done enough research, but I should likely tell them that instead of just stopping my reply).

Timecircleline,

Funny enough, I almost replied to a comment here and then deleted it.

I’ve been trying to do it less since migrating to Lemmy because I recognize that the smaller userbase means that my interaction is more valuable, even if it’s scary.

Eonandahalf,

Right?! Same, Lemmy feels more human, probs because the big ones are mostly bots now.

… almost didn’t send this 🙃

Timecircleline,

I’m glad you did, friend.

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