How often to you bail on a half-written post or response?

I have had a tendency since my earliest days on social media where I will get halfway or more through a response, and end up just cancelling it. Sometimes I feel like I’m just being to over the top with snark or otherwise don’t want to be that kind of person, but a lot of the time I’ll decide I just really don’t care enough to finish it. Sometimes I just know it’ll be an argument and I know what the person is going to say, and just have no interest in continuing the discussion. I did it on Reddit, I did it on bulletin boards, I even did it in my teens and twenties on Usenet - and I’ll probably go on doing it for as long as I continue using this medium. I probably do it a bit more than half the time. I know that lemmy benefits from more content and I have had some great discussions, but sometimes it’s just not worth it for me.

How about you? Do you hit publish or cancel more often?

neuroneiro,

I… nevermind…

Harvey656,

9 times out of 10 I realize I’m dumb and in the wrong and stop the post.

Pratai,

For me, almost….

NotMyOldRedditName,

You pretty much summed it all up there.

I’d say 30% or so for me?

bhamlin,

All the

vortexal,
@vortexal@sopuli.xyz avatar

Quite often, probably mostly because I have social anxiety. Sometimes I feel like I’m not adding anything meaningful to that conversation or that I’m probably not being as helpful as I initially think I am. I sometimes also have trouble putting my thoughts into words.

TehBamski,

The irony is that there might have been a fair amount of replies to this, but people bailed on them. I guess we’ll never know.

occhionaut,

Shout out to those guys

XbSuper,

Constantly cancel. It’s rarely worth arguing with people here.

sbv,

Entirely this. Social media debates are usually public grandstanding. It takes a tonne of time to research and compose a response that few people will see.

spittingimage,
@spittingimage@lemmy.world avatar

You’ve summed up the problem nicely.

WookieMonster,
@WookieMonster@midwest.social avatar

Or I realize I’m over sharing with strangers.

ohlaph,

I beg to differ.

ohlaph,

Dail

idunnololz,
@idunnololz@lemmy.world avatar

My Lemmy app keeps a receipt every time I bail. So far it says I’ve bailed 56 times. Lmao.

lseif,

im so glad you asked this question. i cant tell you how many times i-

actually never mind

nomecks,

Far less than on the other site. I’ve been trying to commit in order to grow the Fediverse, even if I’ve got a few garbage hot takes. I will say, my shit comments seem to get way more responses than my good ones.

Land_Strider,

Similar situation with me. Although I don’t complete my comments just to help Fediverse have more in it, because I don’t think the shit stuff even I wouldn’t like to be a part of it. Not saying you do it, cuz shit differs.

The times I hit cancel are usually when I can’t conclude my arguments satisfactorily. Sometimes my argument isn’t as contributive to the discussion, whether by sounding stretched or irrelevant, or by simply sounding incorrect or incoherent in the end. I bet a lot of people realize this as well when they put their thoughts into words and hit cancel. Nevertheless, it is a commendable action to both try to form the argument and send it to trash when you realize it isn’t reasonable in forms of communication.

Mostly the reason I complete my comments and hit submit is that Fediverse feels way less toxic, has a lot wider views, actually discusses a lot different takes, and generally less hivemind about upvotes/downvotes, although they matter less here.

Steveanonymous,
@Steveanonymous@lemmy.world avatar

A lot. Sometimes I have something to say but so afraid of ridicule I back out

intensely_human,

I cancel maybe 10% of the time

ChefTyler1980,

Constantly.

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