Just making sure I’m in the right place. I cannot see any developed communities here so I’ve started wondering, what’s the real place everyone from Reddit has moved to? I’ve heard something about Discuit, but never tried it.
What reasons are they uncomfy and is there any way we can make women safer here? Not sealioning, being genuine. I try my best to make my instance as inclusive and welcoming as possible and would love to know if there’s anyway I could improve. I honestly would go as far to say there’s a pretty high ratio of women on literature.cafe compared to other small niche focused instances, but I don’t have any actual statistics to gauge from to say definitively.
I presume you are a woman? I am a woman too and see Lemmy just as comfortable or uncomfortable as Reddit was. Granted there are less communities focused on women though, is that what you mean? Or you really mean Lemmy is more toxic?
Yeah I’m not sure what they mean either, and I chat to other women on here every day. Not to say they’ve not had a bad experience obviously but it seems far from universal.
OP if someone is being a sexist creep, smash that report button!
Can’t say I’ve noticed anything different to most places, other than right back at the start when I called a few people out for assuming everyone was a guy it actually got upvoted, which was nice 😄
I’m going to quote it wrong, but there was a funny post on Reddit about 10 years ago that went something like “Statistically, you’re probably a white guy aged 19-22 in the USA”.
Honestly, the comments were hysterical because yes. Half the respondents met all those criteria, and most of the rest met 3+ of them.
Not OP and not a woman, but yeah, there are way fewer communities for women here, but Reddit was much worse and a lot more sexist when it was just finding its feet. There is still a bit of a boys club mentality around Lemmy though.
Probably it’s more the former reason. I used to curate my experience on reddit carefully and mainly participate woman centric subreddits, and few male centric ones, and I got used to that. Lemmy looks more like what would happen if you browse default subs on reddit, which tend to be very toxic. It’s a chicken and egg problem: you won’t attract women unless there are spaces women feel comfortable, and those spaces don’t exist unless there are women there to create them.
I still find myself going back to reddit for certain niche fashion or fitness things. And when i try to get my normie girlfriends to look at lemmy, it’s hard to sell them on it. They don’t care about politics or mod drama and reddit is still better for them.
If OP is getting unlucky enough to, idk, encounter a solid stream of sexist memes in their feed or something, “revealing” gender is kind of irrelevant to the level of uncomfy they might feel.
Present. Using this as I did reddit. It’s like browsing a lot of the smaller subreddits I enjoyed, but all the time.
Downsides are less content, and definite growing pains. I think there are some aspects of the platform severely limiting its growth at this time, and I’m not sure how it’s going to tackle them yet. But I’m along for the ride.
I’m in the same boat. What do you think are the limiting factors? I’m starting to see that federation is a double edge sword. It’s like every week a dozen new instances pop-up that have nefarious motives that need to be defederated with.
I just block them, and also instances like lemmygrad and hexbear. Probably won’t work when you use a web browser, but I exclusively browse with the sync client.
Yeah I block bots and communities like hexbear, it’s just unfortunate that I feel like that’s become a prerequisite to Lemmy being enjoyable and that puts off new people
Kinda no where hopefully. Because the final form of Reddit is just anger. No matter the subject or view. Lemmee has that nice drop by but go home too vibe that is perfect.
youtube might never really die though, that business model is just so incredibly dependant on scale, and hosting ridiculous amounts of data, that it seems nearly impossible for something else to start up
YouTube sucks, but I don’t want them to die. The insane amount of educational videos on there would be lost. I can pull up a video on how to repair a certain electronic, uploaded 14 years ago, where the uploader is MIA, but it still helped me fix my issue.
Not to mention any other service that tries to replicate YouTube will 100% have crazier monetization, with potential forced subscription. YouTube was built up slowly. Any new service will have to launch knowing potential billions of users will sign up and upload day 1. How do you even prepare for that? I mean shit, when new games launch, like Call of Duty, every fucking year the servers are flaky for a week+. They never learn.
I am on Lemmy (here and a few other instances) but when I get into discussions in comments here I am starting to wonder if I should just quit the whole social media concept altogether. So far I have mostly stayed since I still need to get some news from somewhere but RSS might be a better option in the long run.
I’ve been called a centrist because I called for socialized healthcare, cheaper education, higher taxes on the rich, and putting the needs of people above the desires of the companies.
Apparently that’s not liberal enough for a lot of users.
Ehm. I think you should visit other communities then. And skip the instances filled by trolls and those people. I’ve had a different experience here on Lemmy.
You made 38 comments in two months yourself, so… Maybe contribute?
I don’t mean to upset you, but honestly, we get the experience we create here. We can’t be passive and expect others to create interesting content for us.
Ok sure. But my point is, we really get what we create here. People shouldn’t complain about not much posts or comments if they don’t contribute to them themselves.
Idk. Some people have the motto, only speak up if you’re sure you have anything of value to say. I think that’s okay, too. Many people spam their opinion everywhere. Or just write low-quality comments that don’t really contribute. It makes it more content, but mainly more noise. And that’s not necessarily a good thing.
Sure. Memes is one thing I see a lot on Lemmy, and I unsubscribed to some communities because it just took over. To me that’s low quality, but to others it could be the best content ever.
Yeah, I’ve heard several people complain about the meme communities. There are a few that post lots of stuff and overshadow the real stuff. If you don’t happen to find out how to do it, I can understand why you’d be annoyed and not join Lemmy.
But I was talking more about low quality content like writing a cheap joke that is very obvious. Or being the 10th person to just agree in slightly different words instead of upvoting the first comment. Or having meaningless arguments. I kinda do all of that. But it’s more a social media thing and wasted time, than something advancing society or my own life.
And some other people just write 5 comments a month in topics they really know something about, and use their spare time to read the remaining Terry Pratchett novels instead.
I do it too… It may be low quality but its kind of like meeting friends - not everything someone says is going to be very interesting but at least it’s socializing…
That’s true. And there are a few positive aspects. I like talking to different people across the globe. I wouldn’t know about the struggles of everyday American life or the UK healthcare fuckups if I wasn’t here. And sometimes you get into an argument and get to learn stuff. It’s just still a form of social media. I think you still got to pay attention not to overdo stuff and participate in the conversations that are good for you. It is still easy to waste your time. Albeit not as easy as doomscrolling on Reddit or YouTube.
The average discussion is fine, mostly I don’t like how certain kinds of comments make me want to respond over and over again with certain people while we are going in circle, neither convincing the other.
That’s understandable, but we don’t need to always convince the other one or ourselves. It’s perfectly okay to just get more knowledgable and that’s it.
I’ve been ramping up my RSS feed collection constantly just to see that the majority of trustworthy sites are paywalled by now. I’d love to see some sort of “Netflix for news” (i.e. one subscription, multiple sources) but that’s yet to come, I’m afraid.
Maybe if feedly pro were to implement (ai generated) summaries of my favorite sources, I’d be willing to subscribe there.
Until then, I’ve grown a taste for podcasts. Those are mostly free with large overlap in content I’d have to pay for for if I read it myself. Kinda funny…
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