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dorgaldir

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youronlyone, to actuallyautistic
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Hello, I'm Yuki. I am

I am currently struggling with my emotions that, for some reason, I no longer have control over, and it is so intense, I sometimes cry while walking just thinking about how my mom is struggling with her daily life, while waiting for her eye operation.

My entire life, I was . But for the past month or so, I've been Spock the human.

I never thought I will need a support group one day, since I've learned to live masking and find ways. But, right now, I definitely need a support group. And I am trying to find one locally that I can join physically. And just cry, and just share, to just be me, someone who will listen.

None of my usual calming methods and tics are working anymore. The emotions are just too intense, I have no idea how to put the lid back on it.

So, yeah, I'm Yuki.

@actuallyautistic @autistics

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dorgaldir,
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@youronlyone @actuallyautistic @autistics @youronlyone
Hi Yuki, I hope you can find the support group that you need.
I can only say that you're not alone and that I feel you!

pokinkypwet, (edited ) to random French
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do you prefer your porn videos to be portrait or landscape?

i find myself watching porn mostly on my phone and landscape is a bit annoying for my tiny hands, but what about you ?

dorgaldir,
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@pokinkypwet i prefer every video in landscape, not only porn... If I see a video in portait I automatically assume the filmer does not know what they are doing...
Portait just looks and feels very clumsy and amateurish...

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Some autistic people find making phone calls extremely stressful and unpleasant and will avoid them at all costs.

Please don’t try and force your communication preferences on others.

image: anon
@actuallyautistic

dorgaldir,
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@BynkGin5 @autism101 @actuallyautistic yes...
If I don't know you, don't call me 😅
Text, app, mail, messenger, send a letter, ring my doorbell, talk to me in the street...
Just
Don't
Call
Me
But when I do know you, I'll gladly call for hours if needed...

AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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Small talk can be bad for a lot of autistic people because:

It follows rules we don't understand - for example how much information is allowed and what I'd deemed 'too much.'

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic

dorgaldir,
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@Uniflame @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic yeah, most people are not prepared for answers like "Bad" or "wish I wasn't here right now" and especially not for an honest emotional response with a some background information about my personal life...

To minimize weirdness I often use the phrase "could be better, could be worse" which is always correct...

dorgaldir,
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@Uniflame @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic I also stopped masking all the time. If I apply for a new job one of the things I always tell them is "Just so you know, I have autism" so that if later I do something "weird" in the eyes of the neurotypicals, they know I have autism and I feel like that makes me less the "weird co-worker"
Many people try to accept your "weirdness" if they know what the origin of that behaviour is...

dorgaldir,
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@Uniflame @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic Yeah, everyone needs to decide this for themselves.
But if they make a problem when I tell them I'm autistic, it's better to stop right there.
But I'm lucky that I have a jobskill that is in reasonable demand, so I can choose not to work there without being afraid that I won't find another job... Not everyone has that luxury... But I believe that it is up to the ones that do to clear the path for the others that don't

dorgaldir,
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@PeteLittle1970 @Uniflame @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic
Exactly... And it's up to us, to help those who can't by being open about our problems so that others don't have to expose there already problematic situations...
I always hope that I can make things easier for others by taking one fot the #AutiTeam
I don't care that I can't worke somewhere, but maybe that company starts thinking about how they treat others when they see that I refuse to work for them.

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