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dbc3

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I'm Donald Bede Cooley III, trying to live up to DBCI & DBCII standards. Lived thru Cold War, Civil Rights era, supported Gore's message. Believed in the "Dawning of the Age of Aquarius."
I've worked as an engineering and/or project management consultant in various industries, eg: space, transp, defense, oil, food, steel, medicine..., retired in '16. Now I'm an ombudsman for my refugee friends. I love science, all fields, write code for fun.
I refurbish donated bicycles for folks in need.

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bibliolater, to science
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"Just 300,000 years ago – a blink in evolutionary time – at least nine species of humans wandered the planet. Today, only our own, Homo sapiens, remains. And this raises one of the biggest questions in the story of human evolution: where did everyone else go?" https://www.theguardian.com/science/2023/nov/18/where-did-other-human-species-go-vanished-ancestors-homo-sapiens-neanderthals-denisovans @science

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@bibliolater @science
Genocide

tine_schreibt, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

This explains so much o.o

Does anybody else here feel the same?

https://neuroclastic.com/the-identity-theory-of-autism-how-autistic-identity-is-experienced-differently/

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@tine_schreibt @actuallyautistic
Ayup

twt, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic My coach was suggesting blue light glasses to help reduce overwhelm in supermarkets. Do people find they help? Does something else help more?

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@twt @actuallyautistic
Yeah, curbside pickup

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@twt @a @actuallyautistic
I can turn my hearing aids down, or off, with a phone app. When off they serve as earplugs. Nobody knows!😆😆😆

EVDHmn, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic
If anyone doesn’t mind much I have a random question!
Not so much a poll, but does anyone else sometimes have the problem of seeing things from too many angles, i was wondering if it worsens by expanding perceptions. I don’t mean in a hallucinations way, it’s just like they kinda contour in almost like a dataset, of theoretical, probability etc.or what could that be like, what could cause that, I know for myself it’s difficult. But rewarding in many ways. Please and thank you

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@EVDHmn @actuallyautistic

I drive people crazy sometimes musing out loud about "how that rock got there" or " where does that tree surrounded by concrete find water?" etc. It is oftentimes quite personally rewarding. I can point to two oak trèes in my woods and by their shape tell where there must have been a big one shading them when young, 200 years ago. So I can look at the woods & mentally go back potentially 5-700 years, well into the time native artifacts i have found were left there.

Dr_Obvious, to actuallyautistic German
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@actuallyautistic
I had an appointment today with my psychologist and we talked about some of my points that lead me to the believe I might be autistic. She sees strong indications for that too, but is not qualified to diagnose it.

She gave me the hint though that the local autism ambulance is more on the gatekeeper side of diagnosis. Because of my kid I will have contact with them anyway, but I am already worried that they might neglect my diagnosis and trigger my imposter feelings.

Bummer...

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@CynAq @Dr_Obvious @actuallyautistic

PERFECT!
This states exactly how I feel sbout it. I do not need or want a diagnosis. I am who I am. I have lived with me and my sometimes weird, but often positive traits for 76 years.
It has been helpful to learn that many others have similar traits, foibles, whatever label you choose. I have long felt that many/most of those who I now understand are called "normal" are boring, frequently mean spirited, often narcissist. Divergent is GOOD!

youronlyone, to actuallyautistic
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I've just been told to “advise ahead of time” because I had meltdowns.

I guess “normal” (pfft) people file sick leave because they knew they'll have a fever ahead of time.

@autistics @actuallyautistic

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@youronlyone @MisuseCase @autistics @actuallyautistic

Meltdown! That's it!
Growing up I was identified as having "anger management issues." Have always felt flawed. "Just learn to grin&bear it."

I never explained, because noone ever asked, that it was like a pot boiling over. I could tolerate something for a long time, but eventually something just snapped. As an adult I had 3 incidents at work that i recall with embarrassment but know damned well my blowup was beyond my control.

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@youronlyone @MisuseCase @autistics @actuallyautistic

All 3 times i was a senior program manager dealing with someone who continuously worked their own agenda, at cross purposes to a large risky project I was responsible for. It was like they kept jerking the rug from under me. I was stressed enough by having a huge responsibility with high visibility to corporate execs. I had no authority over the miscreant and nobody to tell about it.
I just wanted to go write code, in a room by myself.

andrew, to law
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In this week's column I call for a streamlined process for low income households to obtain energy tax credits. TLDR: Don't require them to install solar on their roof or build a solar farm in their community, let them invest in community projects that are situated where they'll generate the most electricity.

Ultimately, engage with the communities you seek to aid and ask them what they need and how to facilitate it.

@law

https://news.bloomberglaw.com/tax-insights-and-commentary/energy-credits-for-low-income-taxpayers-should-be-easy-to-get

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@andrew @law

Low income households struggle just to feed their kids on shit wage jobs. LIHEAP is what they need just to pay for heat and electricity. Tax credits for spending additional $ are not going to help much when they don't earn enough to pay much (or any) tax after the EACC.
Propose taxing the rich polluters to pay for building local clean energy production facilities on reservations or other depressed communities; give the people LIHEAP to pay for the product.
Or ⬆️ min wage.

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@halfcocked @andrew @law

Keyword in his clarifying reply is "refundable" credit

ratcatcher, to random
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For anyone having issues with the hashtag, there is also and @allautistics (the latter being a recently created group that you can follow and post to).

They are intended for anyone who is (or thinks they might be) autistic (formally or self-diagnosed).

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@ratcatcher @FrightenedRat @allautistics @actuallyautistic

Is there a hashtag for "maybe sort of autistic"?

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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Is there such a thing as “autistic energy”?

@actuallyautistic

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@PeteLittle1970 @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

"If an NT has drive and ambition they are "driven" or "committed" or "dedicated" "

Not always. I am called obsessive, and to those saying that, not being critical but just stating fact, ND is not a factor. Nobody, including myself, has formally acknowledged I am anything but NT. They just think I am really quirky and need to do better. But they don't think "driven" or "committed"; they think negligent of things THEY care about.

dbc3, to actuallyautistic
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@markusl @cwebber @ginsterbusch @dpnash @sentient_water @hosford42 @Tooden @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity

Ah, that just negated my self-suspicion!

Love spicy foods ( I put habanero hot sauce in my cofee)

Zero ear for pitch

Don't mind distracting chatter or bright light

But here's the thing. I KNOW I'm not "typical," But nobody is. I have many characteristics I see mentioned here. Don't have others. Is that not what "divergent" is?
This is why I don't identify as is/is not autistic.

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@hosford42 @markusl @cwebber @ginsterbusch @dpnash @sentient_water @Tooden @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity

I just don't like labels. No question I "diverge" from others in the way I think, in what matters, in a zillion little things. My family think I am weird. My wife is still trying to "train" me to behave after 55 years of marriage. She still resents when I don't respond appropriately to something, "do it her way"

I
Can't
Fix
That

I try. But I fail. Time after time.
It's just who I am.

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@markusl @StrassenKatze @cwebber @ginsterbusch @dpnash @sentient_water @hosford42 @Tooden @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity

The Chicago-area Metro has "quiet cars" in which the riders quickly shush anyone who lapses and speaks above a whisper. People step out to the vestibule if they need to take a phone call.

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@Zumbador @actuallyautistic
there is a particular scent that eminates from the soil when it first gets wet. I read about it recently but don't recall where. Some notice it, but not all. Perhaps that scent triggers a childhood experience.

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@alastair87 @Zumbador @PeteLittle1970 @Kellyshenanigans @actuallyautistic @servelan

There are some 900+ distinct odors we can sense. Most we have not noticed or confuse with a whole group of similar ones. We store memories associated with many. Different folks have different associations. I think there is evolutionary programming in our dna for some associated with survival - food and danger- but a lot of opinions are acquired. Sadly, covid robs many of ability to savor scents.

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I'm . The sound of the train blowing its horn as it passes my house makes me cover my ears in pain. But the throbbing bass of the engine that causes a deep pressure in my chest from the vibration makes me feel happy.

When I was a kid, I used to crank up the bass of my parents' stereo and sit directly against the woofer to feel that pressure. They would always yell at me to turn it down. I've always loved that feeling.


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@independentpen @sentient_water @hosford42 @markusl @Tooden @actuallyautistic @neurodiversity
Or two, based on my reading about myself in this thread

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@strypey @UnknownOutrider @Claire @PatternChaser @benjamincox @ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic o
When my wife interrupts me and says "just get to the point" I want to just turn and leave. A few times I have. She gets irritated. Sometimes I just blurt out thé conclusiowith no explanationn

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@strypey @Claire @UnknownOutrider @PatternChaser @benjamincox @ScruffyDux @actuallyautistic
that or equivalent is what i say to her. She will start talking while my attention is elsewhere and the first word I understand is maybe the 5th or 6th. I hear 3 or 4, try to figure out the topic from the blur of sound I heard, & therefore don't get the rest of what shes saying. We always blamed it on my bad hearing, but with my newest aids I hear just fine if i am focused & it is not too fast.

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@bstix everyone wants to be a movie star

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