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tine_schreibt, to actuallyautistic German
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@actuallyautistic
Anybody else here have the problem that you sometimes like rapid stims - like bouncing your knee or fidgeting - but they also make you nervous?
I got a tangle a while ago and for some reason I fidget with it like I'm on a deadline; same when I bounce my knee or flap my foot, it's always super high speed. And I can literally watch me make myself nervous or even anxious. But slowing down doesn't fulfill the stimming need.
Anybody got any ideas how to deal with this?

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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What does the term “unmasking” mean to my #ActuallyAutistic comrades?

#AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic

tine_schreibt,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic
I thought I didn't mask a lot and that I suck at it. And I do suck at it - but not when I'm masking towards myself.
So unmaking feels like existing in a more immediate way, more in tune with my needs. I feel like I'm becoming less like my neglectful shitparents who said 'No, fuck you' whenever I so much as took a breath to express distress around a certain topic.
I'm still working on it, though, since it's so internal and subconscious.

theautisticcoach, to actuallyautistic
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What are the passions of my #ActuallyAutistic comrades?

@actuallyautistic

tine_schreibt,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

Stories! Writing stories! Finding characters and events in my mind, figuring out who they really are, what they want, what happens, and putting words to that, so they become tangible and real in the mind of the person who reads about them.
golden retriever energy

Also this little pebble that I found, it's so pretty and I love staring at it and it will feature prominently in the story I am currently working on.

tine_schreibt, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

This explains so much o.o

Does anybody else here feel the same?

https://neuroclastic.com/the-identity-theory-of-autism-how-autistic-identity-is-experienced-differently/

tine_schreibt,
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@Dremmwel @actuallyautistic

Yeah, I feel like most NTs are actually asking 'Name five stereotypes in terms of which I can think about you.' And then they use those to choose a topic for their small talk.

They don't want to get to know you, they want a convenient placeholder for the actual you.

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@GreenRoc @actuallyautistic

Yeah, I don't understand how people care so much about belonging to a group, as if somehow this meta-identity makes them into something more than what they are. It's so weird. Like it's a dye and they turn from boring yellow to powerful orange by swimming in it.

And, I mean, true, certain people gravitate to certain other people/hobbies/..., but group members tend to vastly overstate their group's homogeneiety. And conflicts are used to reinforce homogeneiety.

tine_schreibt,
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@adelinej @actuallyautistic

My answer starts out short and then grows longer and longer as I meander through all the things that move me and make me feel alive, that nourish me or hurt me and that keep me up at night.

kkffoo, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic
Baking can be really good for me in terms of re-regulating myself, so long as I have enough energy. Mince pies I made this morning, photographed by my lovely daughter.

tine_schreibt,
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@kkffoo @actuallyautistic

Wtf, I read that as 'banking' and was like...

lexx3000, to actuallyautistic German
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question to @actuallyautistic
depressed ones, is the narrative "what a useless dumb shit you are, freak that shouldn't have been born" ever go away? i recently discovered that apparently it's not a thing always in a background for other humans. it seems to be forgotten when i hyperfocus on some random bullshit that brings joy, but what about you?

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@arisummerland @lexx3000 @actuallyautistic
Pro tip: Ask yourself who gave you that gremlin. Because it's not a thing we were born with. But when powerful people treat us like shit, and we need to stay safe and not go nuts at this injustice, we create a gremlin that keeps us from questioning the lie that we deserve this treatment.
Give that gremlin some sweets and ask it: 'Who have you been protecting me from all this time? Could we be friends instead? Wanna hang out and listen to some music?'

tine_schreibt,
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@arisummerland @lexx3000 @actuallyautistic
This was the single most important realisation in my healing from cPTSD (that I had merely internalised my parents' hatred for me) and it turned my deep, smoldering 'self'-hatred into an equally deep and smoldering, heartfelt self-love that made everything else a lot easier.

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