It's disorienting when a person does one thing and then insists in their narrative that no such thing ever happened.
Anecdotally, I have encountered a lot of self-described anarchists who are very bossy. Similarly, every sermon about NVC I experience feels like a combination of violence and smugness.
Several people have pointed out to you that your presence and behaviour in this thread in the @actuallyautistic group has been received as inappropriate; I'll venture abusive.
It seems you have been saying one is not exercising empathy if what's being received is a violation.
In all service to good faith that you do have good intent toward us, put your NVC cock back in your pants and consider all this pushback might be a gift to you.
-I didn't mean what I said
-I meant what I didn't say
-My flexibility in most things means my "no" is mutable
-I can't or shouldn't be lifting that by myself
-Feats that look easy have no massive underlying effort
-Establishing boundaries makes me a control freak
-I will keep quiet to keep the peace
-Telling me how everyone else does something is a) news to me b) relevant c) welcome
-I'm different for difference' sake
Having one of those days when I wonder how different my life might have been had my #autism & #ADHD been diagnosed much (much) earlier...
It sometimes feels a bit like heaving myself breathless over a marathon finishing line long after others have completed it, only to find that I was shlepping an anvil behind me that could have so easily been offloaded, if only I'd known. @actuallyautistic#audhd
I get this. I was in my forties before anything started to make sense. Seems to me, though, especially listening to early-diagnosed autistic people, that it looks more one anvil vs. a different anvil. So many patterns of denied autonomy, undelivered opportunity, and overt dehumanisation. I can't say it's been MORE difficult being treated like I should have had the tools to be different than it would have been to deal with being broadly undervalued.
Lots of software industry people use the term #tech or #technology to refer to pieces of software, programming languages, frameworks or libraries for those languages, communication protocols etc.
To me, it sounds like this:
I'm a line cook and my favorite technologies are Viking 12" pan and Shun 8" Nakiri.
Oh, I'm a writer and my go to technology is English.A close second is The Oxford English Dictionary!
I don't know. Specific products don't fit the definition of technology for me.
In my head, technology is a set of broad categories. Programming languages or the concept of network protocols are technologies, specific products under these labels, aren't.
Are there any #ActuallyAutistic people who feel like this? Because I'm quite sure this pet peeve is a direct result of the way my brain works.
When I was a kid in primary school, one thing the system was obsessed about the skill of solving mathematical problems in your head, without writing. They thought this increased solving speed and thus, multiple choice test performance. (this wasn't US or Europe so Western-centric interpretations of this story won't work well).
The book we used for that had a title that would translate to "problems from the mind" or "mental problems" for short.
I did that all the time as a kid, but my instructors hated that when I translated my processes to long-form, they didn't match the processes they were instructing us to follow to determine the answers. So, I'd ace every exam that only required answers and fail every assignment that wanted shown work. Their processes made no sense to me, like getting lost on weird roads as my brain screamed, "Cut through the field RIGHT HERE."
I went in blind and didn't think I'd score too high because as far as I understand what monotropism proposes, I didn't think it fit my profile very well. I tried to answer the questions as accurately as I could, without overthinking.
Well...
The result says I'm more monotropic than 73% of autistic people and 98% of allistic people.
I guess I was misunderstanding what monotropism would feel like, if these results are anywhere near accurate, because I'm quite surprised, to say the least.
Would anyone else like to chime in and discuss this with me a bit? This result was not at all what I was expecting.
At rest, the average body consumes 20% to 25% of the body's energy. That equates to 350 to 450 calories for the average person. The energy comes mainly from glucose.
I have taken so much shit for the amount of carbs, milkfat, and salt that my body needs. But but the magazines in the grocery aisle say you need to stop that!
It's sugar sugar that fucks me up, even fructose I have to be careful with.
