The standard doesn't necessarily apply in reverse if you look at how the work is split between male and female partners in hetero relationships - it's often skewed that the woman does a lot more emotional work, household work, and childcare, on top of also having full time jobs. I think you're right though, if men aren't meeting women's standards, then women should either be content to be single, hook up with other women (for those who would prefer), or reexamine how important romantic relationships are for them.
Obviously that part only applies to people who are bisexual/pansexual/gay. I'm not saying that hetero women should just become gay >.< Though I realize it sounds like that, it isn't what I meant.
I mean, the point of the article is the women who are struggling to find suitable partners. The attitude that woman should just lower their standards (and yet again just accept higher workloads and lower efforts from their partners) is pretty antifeminist. The problem here isn't that they have unattainable standards, it's that a lot of men aren't putting in effort to meet those basic standards, for whatever reason.
You have some good points I hadn't considered before, so thank you for that. It's definitely something I'll have to think about more. It's also worth mentioning that the difference between women who couldn't find a suitable male partner vs men who couldn't find a suitable female partner also really isn't very much - "nearly half" vs "one third", which was something I also wasn't really considering when I made my comments. Ultimately it seems like a complicated issue that isn't going to be fixed with one simple solution
For those who want to read it without the paywall, here are the important parts:
Multiple synchronized videos show a projectile, previously identified by Israeli officials as a Palestinian rocket, launching from Israel and detonating near the Israel-Gaza border.
The footage has become a widely cited piece of evidence as Israeli and American officials have made the case that an errant Palestinian rocket malfunctioned in the sky, fell to the ground and caused a deadly explosion at Al-Ahli Arab Hospital in Gaza City.
Numerous media outlets have shown the video footage and several have cited it as evidence that a Palestinian rocket hit the hospital.
But The Times concluded that the missile in the video was never near the hospital. It was launched from Israel, not Gaza, and appears to have exploded above the Israeli-Gaza border, at least two miles away from the hospital.
To trace the object in the sky back to Israeli territory, The Times synchronized the Al Jazeera footage with five other videos filmed at the same time, including footage from an Israeli television station, Channel 12, and a CCTV camera in Tel Aviv. These different videos provided a view of the missile from north, south, east and west. Using satellite imagery to triangulate the launch point in those videos, The Times determined that the projectile was fired toward Gaza from near the Israeli town of Nahal Oz shortly before the deadly hospital blast. The findings match the conclusion reached by some online researchers.
The Times cannot independently identify the type of projectile that was fired from Israel, though it was launched from an area known to have an Iron Dome defense system.
Eighty-five year-old Yocheved Lifschitz spoke of a “hell that we never knew before and never thought we would experience” as she described the harrowing assault on her kibbutz by Hamas militants and the terror of being taken hostage into the Gaza Strip.
Uhm, drag shows are absolutely not comparable in any way to blackface. The fact that you make that comparison reveals that you have little to zero understanding of drag or its history.
The massive Chinese social media network Sina Weibo informed its platform’s most popular users last week that they must display their real identities, including names, gender, IP locations, as well as professional and educational background, on their account page starting at the end of October....
I'm kind of split on this one tbh. On one hand I can understand wanting to know the background behind influencers, especially influencers who claim to have knowledge or Expertise in some area. Plus a lot of influencers do already share their name and jobs etc.
On the other hand I think it's outrageous to force people to dox themselves when they hit a certain number of subscribers. I feel like something like this would result in a lot more targeted harassment, especially for women. It's already dangerous to be a woman on the internet, no need to add a ton of identifying information on top of that. This may end up adding another barrier to marginalized groups of all kinds.
Youtube let the other shoe drop in their end-stage enshittification this week. Last month, they required you to turn on Youtube History to view the feed of youtube videos recommendations. That seems reasonable, so I did it. But I delete my history every 1 week instead of every 3 months. So they don’t get much from my choices....
when a generation habituated to unquestioning adulation enters a labour market in which competition is global “the approval bath stops. The world doesn’t know your name or care who you are.” That’s a shock for a generation used to “years of being coddled in schools without failure and provided unearned rewards and medals for mediocre performance so their feelings wouldn’t be hurt or egos threatened,”
Brooks argues a lack of morality leads to a focus on self rather than the well-being of others. David Foster Wallace agrees: “This is a generation that has an inheritance of absolutely nothing as far as meaningful moral values.” Brooks recommends turning off the screen, which too often acts as a mirror to yourself, and getting involved in the outside world
And the content that makes up top posts isn't what you want to make top posts..
X now rewards Premium subscribers with an ad revenue share tied to the number of impressions, or views, of ads a user generates in their tweet replies," he said.
"This incentives X users to post content that sparks the most replies, and the characteristics of content that typically generates the most replies is content that is divisive, polarising, provocative, and controversial... exactly the sort of content that brands do not want to have their ads placed amongst.
The U.S. Copyright Office has again rejected copyright protection for art created using artificial intelligence, denying a request by artist Jason M. Allen for a copyright covering an award-winning image he created with the generative AI system Midjourney.
In a conversation with Mike Solan, the head of the Seattle Police Officers’ Guild, Seattle Police Department officer and SPOG vice president Daniel Auderer minimized the killing of 23-year-old student Jaahnavi Kandula by police officer Kevin Dave and joked that she had “limited value” as a “regular person” who was only...
I agree completely with everything you've said. The way it is now, the police are pretty much just a legally protected gang. It doesn't feel like they're here to protect civilians at all. I just have one question - does it make sense to take guns away from cops when the US has a gun problem? In England there are significantly fewer guns, which is just one of several reasons why it works for the police there. I feel we would need significant overhaul to be able to get to the same point, and only after we did so could they start to build trust with the public again.
Same! I was a long time Reddit user and decided to leave after the whole spez thing. I'm hoping to build up some of the same communities that I really loved. The apps will also make a huge difference imo
The man who pleaded guilty to setting a Planned Parenthood location on fire in Peoria, Ill., was sentenced to 10 years in prison Tuesday. Tyler Massengill pleaded guilty to burning the office in Fe…
Making abortion illegal (or burning down centers where they happen) doesn't stop abortions. It just makes it significantly more dangerous for women with BOTH wanted and unwanted pregnancies.
Planned Parenthood provides a significant number of other services in addition to abortion that are geared towards sexual health and women's health. Some of this care wouldn't be accessible to the patients without a PP.
Burning down a Planned Parenthood doesn't stop abortions. See point 1
Yeah I'm really not sure how you get "abortion = commodification of human life". If we're going there, it's the women forced to carry dead babies and schoolgirls giving birth in toilets who are being commodified.
When customers began experimenting with entering a wider range of household shopping list items into the app, however, it began to make even less appealing recommendations. One recipe it dubbed “aromatic water mix” would create chlorine gas. The bot recommends the recipe as “the perfect nonalcoholic beverage to quench your thirst and refresh your senses”.
“Serve chilled and enjoy the refreshing fragrance,” it says
New Zealand political commentator Liam Hehir posted the “recipe” to Twitter, prompting other New Zealanders to experiment and share their results to social media. Recommendations included a bleach “fresh breath” mocktail, ant-poison and glue sandwiches, “bleach-infused rice surprise” and “methanol bliss” – a kind of turpentine-flavoured french toast.
Sci-fi and horror have historically focused on White protagonists and their experiences, leaving Black audiences disregarded by the mainstream. But Black fans of those genres have been here all along.
As a white person I'm super happy and supportive for the increased diversity. Not to mention how some of the best sci fi stories I've watched lately have been black! This can only improve sci fi
The inventions are cool, too bad the video sucks. It doesn't really give us any information at all on the inventions that it's about except for what they're called
Something Unexpectedly Cool Happens When You Use Banana Peel as an Ingredient (www.sciencealert.com)
Opinion | Why Aren’t More People Getting Married? Ask Women What Dating Is Like. (www.nytimes.com)
Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.
A Close Look at Some Key Evidence in the Gaza Hospital Blast (www.nytimes.com)
Now freed, an Israeli hostage describes the 'hell' of harrowing Hamas attack and terrifying capture (apnews.com)
Eighty-five year-old Yocheved Lifschitz spoke of a “hell that we never knew before and never thought we would experience” as she described the harrowing assault on her kibbutz by Hamas militants and the terror of being taken hostage into the Gaza Strip.
Wil looks like he's already mentally planning their life together (lemmy.world)
New policy requires Chinese influencers to display their personal information on Weibo (globalvoices.org)
The massive Chinese social media network Sina Weibo informed its platform’s most popular users last week that they must display their real identities, including names, gender, IP locations, as well as professional and educational background, on their account page starting at the end of October....
Ensign Rivers has had enough. (lemmy.world)
Goodbye Youtube and thanks for all the fish (infosec.pub)
Youtube let the other shoe drop in their end-stage enshittification this week. Last month, they required you to turn on Youtube History to view the feed of youtube videos recommendations. That seems reasonable, so I did it. But I delete my history every 1 week instead of every 3 months. So they don’t get much from my choices....
A revelation about trees is messing with climate calculations (arstechnica.com)
Scientists are learning more about “sesquiterpenes" vapors made from trees.
Sorry, Philip: Young Canadians' unhappiness is older generations' fault (www.stoppopulationdecline.org)
"That's a bold move, Cotton" - Reddit to begin paying people for popular posts (www.bbc.com)
The social media site will split revenue with contributors who are awarded "gold" by other users.
US Copyright Office denies protection for another AI-created image (www.reuters.com)
The U.S. Copyright Office has again rejected copyright protection for art created using artificial intelligence, denying a request by artist Jason M. Allen for a copyright covering an award-winning image he created with the generative AI system Midjourney.
[News] "Write a Check for $11,000. She Was 26, She Had Limited Value." SPD Officer Jokes with Police Union Leader About Killing of Pedestrian by Fellow Cop - PubliCola (publicola.com)
In a conversation with Mike Solan, the head of the Seattle Police Officers’ Guild, Seattle Police Department officer and SPOG vice president Daniel Auderer minimized the killing of 23-year-old student Jaahnavi Kandula by police officer Kevin Dave and joked that she had “limited value” as a “regular person” who was only...
Food Can Be Literally Addictive, New Evidence Suggests (12ft.io)
Highly processed foods resemble drugs of misuse in a number of disturbing ways
The holy trinity of DS9 (startrek.website)
How are you using or hoping to use kbin? (kbin.social)
With Twitter and Reddit the way that they are, many people are turning to federated servers as their online home, kbin among them....
Lesbians being anti-trans is a lesbophobic trope (www.gaytimes.co.uk)
France to ban female students from wearing abayas in state schools (www.bbc.com)
The education minister says female Muslim students will not be allowed to wear the loose-fitting robe.
Lwaxana is both the reason I'm glad I'm gay and the reason I'm sad I'm gay (startrek.website)
Troi in the background smiling in the bottom panel just makes it so much better....
Man who set fire to Planned Parenthood sentenced to 10 years in prison (thehill.com)
The man who pleaded guilty to setting a Planned Parenthood location on fire in Peoria, Ill., was sentenced to 10 years in prison Tuesday. Tyler Massengill pleaded guilty to burning the office in Fe…
Was Elon Musk Full Of Sh*t About Free Speech??? (www.youtube.com)
AI summary:...
Supermarket AI meal planner app suggests recipe that would create chlorine gas (www.theguardian.com)
Pak ‘n’ Save’s Savey Meal-bot cheerfully created unappealing recipes when customers experimented with non-grocery household items
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From /r/scifi but it's hilarious: "So I heard someone refer to Elon Musk as "real-life Tony Stark." (preview.redd.it)
I don't know if they were joking or not, but it got me thinking about more accurate fictional analogues. I present: Jean-Baptiste Emanuel Musk.
Black characters and stories are finally in the sci-fi and horror spotlight. It’s been a long time coming for fans (www.cnn.com)
Sci-fi and horror have historically focused on White protagonists and their experiences, leaving Black audiences disregarded by the mainstream. But Black fans of those genres have been here all along.
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Twitter’s Rebrand To X Could Be a Trademark Nightmare Thanks To Microsoft (themessenger.com)