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Now we know who many of them are. Never trust them.

This is how I feel about people wearing swastikas and such. It’s a handy “warning label”. It’s like a blinking sign over their head that says DO NOT ENGAGE, BUT KEEP AN EYE ON ME.

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I’m a white, cis, heterosexual American male. I’m supposed to be privileged in every way, feel endlessly guilty over things I cannot control and try not to perpetuate, and never, ever dare suggest any kind of dissatisfaction with my situation.

I wouldn’t know how to express my feelings the way the author has. I’d feel like a misogynistic neckbeard, callous racist, or ungrateful whiner. If, somehow, I didn’t feel these things, someone would quickly, loudly, and condescendingly remind me that I should. They’d then be applauded for putting me in my place.

I can’t thank the author enough for writing this article.

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People who share some of my characteristics have historically done, and are currently doing, absolutely horrible things. Empathy with the victims isn’t enough for some. I’m part of the problem simply by being born, until I prove otherwise.

I can’t blame people who feel some suspicion and resentment, either. It’s justified.

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You’re completely right. It doesn’t serve anyone, but the feeling is there anyway. I have a history of feeling guilty about stuff that’s not my fault.

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No, it isn’t helpful. Part of that guilt comes from not being able to do enough. Yeah, I try to learn as much as possible, but that only goes so far. I’m not rich. I’m not powerful. There’s so much injustice that I want to change, but can’t.

I know logically that guilt is useless, but the feeling persists.

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What I’m saying is confusing and irrational. I appreciate that you’re trying to understand.

I know that what I feel isn’t healthy or productive. It doesn’t make sense, but it sticks with me.

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Yup. Exasperating, I know. It isn’t reasonable or healthy, but I feel that way anyway.

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Maybe or maybe not the specific example of moving out of the way, but as for general awareness consideration? Absolutely.

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Not quite. To me, it’s more like “men don’t even have the option of building relationships like women do, and that’s not healthy. Society is broken.”

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I don’t see this as an intrusion. I see it as a relevant, valuable perspective. Thank you!

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Fortunately, it’s not anger in my case. It’s “just” poor self esteem and a tendency to feel guilt for things that I know (rationally, at least) aren’t my fault.

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I was talking about the overall tone of the article. It didn’t feel like an attack or judgement.

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This may not be a juicy story, but anything that sucks for the Russian government makes me happy.

Moon rocket blasts off, carrying Russia’s hope of first successful lunar landing since 1976 (www.theguardian.com)

The Luna-25 mission will seek to land near the south pole of the moon, collecting geological samples from the area, and sending back data for signs of water or its building blocks, which could raise the possibility of a future human colony on the moon.

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The vast majority of the time, I’m in favor of science. Under Russia’s current conditions, though, it’s just stupid. It’s nothing but an ego boost for Putin.

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You know, that occurred to me hours after posting. Most of the money had already been spent before the war even started. It would be even dumber to just let it sit in a hangar and fall apart, like that knockoff space shuttle that they made.

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Exploring the moon is making a comeback, baby!

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Had to look up “vicuña” to see what it was. Looking at the picture on Wikipedia, I think I had just lumped them in with llamas. Thanks! I learned something today!

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A new book reveals that numerous atrocities that the United States had alleged to have been committed by its foes never happened to begin with.

Reveals? Seriously?

The hoax built around Tiananmen Square was a blueprint for US media campaigns aimed at showing the Chinese government in a bad light, as Washington went on to accuse Beijing of perpetrating a genocide against the Uyghur people in Xinjiang province.

Oh, please.

Keep your tankie apologist shit to yourself. Thanks.

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“Journalists” who take money from these people don’t deserve that kind of respect. I’m not going to invest my time “checking sources” on propaganda, and expose myself to even more lies in the process.

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“If you object to me treating you like shit, you’re violating my constitutionally protected right of religious freedom. That’s offensive. I’m suing you.”

Mississippi Supreme Court won't remove Favre from lawsuit over misspent welfare money (apnews.com)

JACKSON, Miss. (AP) — The Mississippi Supreme Court says it will not remove NFL Hall of Famer Brett Favre as a defendant in a civil lawsuit that seeks to recover millions of dollars of misspent welfare money meant to help some of the poorest people in the United States.

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State attorneys wrote in March that Favre’s attorneys had given the court “a long press release” rather than legal arguments in trying to get him out of the lawsuit.

I love it when judges call people on their bullshit.

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Dammit. You’re right. My reading skills weren’t totally on the ball there.

Well, I still enjoy it when judges see right through the antics of cocky lawyers.

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Things on the internet may live forever, but people have short memories. Just post a few more funny memes like this one, and it’s all good.

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Responses from those users are more likely to pendantic, overly argumentative, and unhelpful.

I’ve noticed a small uptick in responses like that (which, admittedly, may just be confirmation bias).

I think it might be due to the large influx of reddit refugees (full disclosure: I’m one, too). It takes a while to get used to the fact that the “atmosphere” of fediverse instances is different. It takes time for people to realize that this isn’t a toxic environment that encourages assholes. They’ll just keep on being hyper-defensive, confrontational, and/or deliberate misinterpreters of things while they focus on irrelevant points. After all, that was the norm on reddit for years.

Good users grow out of that. Unfortunately, some users just don’t want to. We have to take the bad with the good, though. Defederating completely would make Beehaw much less interesting and fun. The community just isn’t big enough by itself.

TL;DR: Yes, Beehaw benefits from federation. Federation has its drawbacks, but they are massively outweighed by the advantages.

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Good addition, and also a good example, because that was so common I didn’t even recognize it as a problem. I’m still unlearning a lot.

If a post/comment is sufficiently stupid, the stupidity is obvious and speaks for itself. I leave it alone. Of course, bigotry and hate speech can’t be tolerated and should be called out (plus reported, because Nazis and bigots can kiss my ass), but otherwise, I just ignore it and move on. In most cases, I think we help quite a bit by setting the tone and not arguing. As people see that negativity isn’t the norm, they’ll gradually change.

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Irrelevant comment: there’s an insurance commercial (or something) where one of the outfits she wears is her circus ringmaster getup, top hat and all. That’s my favorite. It’s silly, but somehow she makes it work.

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“Panopticon” is now my Word of the Day.

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I think the main issue is the tone with which an idea is presented, not always the idea itself. I’m open to many viewpoints; in fact, that’s how I learn and understand best. I don’t only want to listen to people who already think like I do.

Some things can’t be compromised on, though. In my opinion, US conservatives have become blatantly bigoted, sexist, and fascist. In the past, one could give them the benefit of the doubt, but they’re not even trying to hide it anymore. I don’t care how they “present” their ideas. When someone tries to explain why tacitly supporting bigotry is okay, it doesn’t matter how eloquently they make their point. They are actively opposed to tolerance, and therefore don’t deserve it.

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Yeah, we can. I came across a study on the role of nonverbal cues in communication. We rely on them much more than you’d expect. It’s not surprising that misunderstandings happen so often when we’ve only got text to go on.

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Don’t worry so much about being novel, then. Even a mere sentence of agreement or encouragement is nice for people to see - as long as it’s more thoughtful than just responding with “this”.

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I’d like to bring back the market environment that made Radio Shack profitable - when the “right to repair” was a given, and not something that needed to be fought for in court.

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“Hey, baby, the prime minister is telling us to have kids. That’s got me pretty horny. No, he’s not making any significant changes to help take the edge off that massive expense and responsibility, but who cares? I’ll put his speech on loop and turn it up. Let’s fuck.”

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Not sure if the person who made this poster was being pedantic, or if it was intended to make people think, and realize that it could happen to anyone.

HappyMeatbag,
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Favorite line: “This guy fuckin’ rules.”

Runner up: “If I knew you were this bad at hiding, I wouldn’t have hired you.”

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Somehow, Vaught remains a Musk fan.

…and just like that, all my sympathy vanished.

HappyMeatbag,
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I also feel like I’m sniffing a hot dog.

HappyMeatbag,
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The “teenagers pining for anarchy” bit had me laughing. Teenagers may say they want anarchy, but they don’t want REAL anarchy. They’re just tired of adults telling them what to do. Teenagers aren’t stupid, either. They should know the difference, and I bet a lot of them do.

Considering how awful people can be, I don’t want real anarchy, either, but at least I’m not some edgelord who pretends he does. Squabblr doesn’t sound like a community I could stomach for long. Noping out probably saved your sanity.

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Scumbag checking in.

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The “self righteous vegan” stereotype is, in some cases, real. It only takes one encounter to start generalizing - and sometimes not even that. People really don’t like feeling morally inferior.

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What amuses me is that there are people who will take it seriously, and either feel attacked or justified.

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Apparently I’m dumb. I need someone to explain the joke to me.

HappyMeatbag,
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Ohhhh! I knew she was Nurse Chapel, the computer, and Lwaxana, but not that she was also Number One. Thanks!

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This is why I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I’d rather look naive than make uptight assumptions. Plus, I’m a reddit refugee, and I’ve HAD IT with pedants and the rampant holier-than-thou crap.

Maybe later... how about never, you fucks?

It is endlessly frustrating that companies have universally decided that they won’t let people say “no” to stuff, ever. There are no longer options to reject stupid-ass new “features”, only postponement until next time you open the app/website/program. They’ll continue pestering you for the rest of your life. I...

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No, YouTube. NO. I will NEVER, EVER want YouTube Premium. Stop asking me about it every fucking time I watch a video.

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Most definitely. Just as pointing out unwarranted accusations of antisemitism can sound like victim blaming, and saying that the Israeli government likes it that way can make you come off as a hateful, insensitive jerk.

Various world politicians “wrap themselves in the flag” all the time. Israeli politicians do the same thing, but they’ve done an especially good job of weaving religion and patriotism together.

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Nah. You’re participating in conversations, or potentially starting one.

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