There’s a top comment here being kind and welcoming but I’m concerned about overburdening the person with responses after many other people have answered.
Similarly, it’s difficult in discord servers to provide some comment of substance (sometimes a find a right moment, post, and disappear for months lol), and talking without substance feels weird.
Try playing some tf2 and chat with the others, and maybe someone will send you a friends request if you have a good vibe. Worked for me, actually met my bf of 3 years like that
Relatable… I’ve been in this situation for a long time
I’d suggest to try joining conversations regardless. I know it’s easier said than done, but I think it’s still worth at least trying. I’ve been in a server and I’ve said something every now and then… then a bit more often… eventually I did take part in a conversation… after a while again… and again… all of this took months and I still struggle with anxiety but along the way I made a few friends in that server. And I too didn’t think I would be able to actually do it
I get intimidated by the fact that usually these folks have established communities with regular known chatters with in jokes and whatnot and now some new weirdo is trying to come in
That’s why I’m so proud of the community I made on my server. I’ve heard from a lot of people that they just sorta… immediately felt included despite there being almost 200 people. I’ve also had people tell me that they don’t really feel like I’m some figure they need to watch out for, unlike a lot of server owners. It’s a nice thing to hear
I'm in at least a dozen of them, sometimes I start to talk with people there, but usually I don't. I need to be somehow reintroduced to online socialization, as after all my old circles either massively transformed or fell apart due to tankie infiltration, I even forgot that, and I'm quite autistic to begin with.
Back when I was into forums, being active and contributing usually turned into being accepted in the community. With these Discord's, I've been ignored and overlooked every time.
Being on the spectrum doesn't help... It's like you have to learn how to communicate all over again.
I hope this isn’t off topic, but I really like the fediverse I think. I don’t like the fact there’s no real “like button”? I assume this is something people appreciate about it, but I just want to show my appreciation/support/interest in a toot. I don’t want somebody to feel like they’re calling into the void.
Commenting despite having nothing to say doesn’t feel comfortable to me.
Well u do kinda have the upvote functionality, no? I’ll be honest… Seeing upvotes on some weird ass shitpost comment that I made does make me feel a little giddy inside hehe. So like… If u want to show appreciation, the upvote does work for me at least!
I don’t think I’ve come across a server without upvotes, though some disable downvotes. That said, the vote tally means less to me than someone saying “that’s neat, thanks for sharing!”, and that definitely adds to the vibe as well as the conversation. I encourage you to do that, to the level you’re comfortable with
I really want to get good at PUBG. Unfortunately, I don’t have friends who play the game (plus I don’t have much time either :( )
Do you have any subject you’re super interested in and could talk about for 2 hours with no prep?
Heck yeah!!! I could talk for hours about the perfect (ie., the closest to perfection) political system of governance and how it could be achieved and so on.
What are your thoughts on the Fediverse?
Is THE future of social media. However, it will have to evolve beyond the donation based model.
Fallout New Vegas, followed by GTA V. I really liked Baldur’s Gate 3 so far, but I’m probably going to play a lot more sporadically during the semester.
Do you have any subject you’re super interested in and could talk about for 2 hours with no prep?
Audio engineering, music, control theory, and math, specifically linear systems, integral transforms, and calculus in general.
What are your thoughts on the Fediverse?
We got a good thing going here. I’m a bit concerned about the Meta federation stuff, more so for microblogging services than the threadiverse, but I think we’ll tank it. I really hope that Peertube takes off.
What are your hobbies?
Guitar, audio mixing, audio programming 💀, video games, watching gaming videos, engaging with people on Lemmy, cooking, and reading math and physics textbooks.
Yeah I’m into weird shit, but not the fun kind of weird.
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