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independentpen

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Writer. Artist. Folklorist. Creative services strategist. Probably definitely autistic. In Corvallis, Oregon.

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axnxcamr, to actuallyautistic
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@Tooden

Double "el" isn't silent, it's pronounced a little like a "y".

"File" in Fr is pronounced like "fill" in En, but "fille" would be something like... huh... well, I don't know any words in English that has an ending like that.

That would be like the "fi-" sound of "fill" with a "-y" sound... like in "papa-y-a".

I'll stay it IT... I'm a pretty poor linguist. 🤣

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@axnxcamr @Tooden @yourautisticlife @wakame @rrogers @EternalOutsider @ginsterbusch @autism101 @actuallyautistic "File" would be pronounced "feeel(uh)" with a really hard ee sound and the whisper of a schwa at the end. "Fille" would be "feeeyyy(uh)."

autism101, to actuallyautistic

Some autistic people find making phone calls extremely stressful and unpleasant and will avoid them at all costs.

Please don’t try and force your communication preferences on others.

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@JeroenRombouts
I agree that assuming default rules is fraught, and not the way forward. It's better to cultivate an attitude of willingness to understand and adapt as needed. No defaults, just good faith willingness to flex, because no one can predict what will or won't work for everyone. To me this is a neurodiversity principle
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@rayslava
I don't consider it rude, just a different norm. I also don't consider it rude of me to not pick up and instead to reply by text or email, or not reply at all. I don't fault people for engaging how they want [and/ but/ because] I reserve the right to decide how I'm going to engage
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@JewleZi
You said you're asking but it doesn't seem like you're listening. I'm autistic and I find the phone uncomfortable but I can use it fine. Others however can't use it at all, or can't use it without major problems. This may be hard to believe if you haven't experienced it; disabilities that are "invisible" can be hard to understand from the outside. So, people on this thread are asking you to hold space for what you can't see
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@actuallyautistic How do you feel about these? https://zirk.us/@sbarolo/109384456791661494

I was born and raised feminine but when I read about sealioning or mansplaining I both know what they're talking about, and also feel like these things can be indistinguishable from coming from a genuine friendly place and I'm hoping someone who is better at words than me can explain why I feel like this is connected to autism.

independentpen,
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@bike @markusl @marytzu @homelessjun @actuallyautistic Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski is a fantastic take on sex and women and it turns a lot of the conventional wisdom on its head

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Dear academics,
Sorry if this is a dumb question, but is there any reliable way to search specifically for a literature review?
Like suppose I don't want to become an expert on the psychology of moral learning, but I do want to have a sense of the general literature and positions in that literature. I find myself on Google Scholar sorting through hundreds of articles, and it feels extremely inefficient. Is there a better way?

#academia #research #academicchatter #socialscience #philosophy @academicchatter

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@pjw
In history there are articles titled "state of the field" that exist for exactly this reason, so if you're looking for history you can search for that plus the topic. I don't know if similar genres exist in other fields
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@theautisticcoach
I'd be surprised if you did receive apologies from trolls. I'm sorry they were grilling you like that, arbitrarily and in response to you doing a good thing
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@housepanther
Oh thank you for asking. I'm not sure lately - I know I'm safe but feel at risk, I believe in myself but feel broken. Home is hard for me to assess but I think it goes back & forth
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@housepanther
Mostly I think it has to do with masking. Self-disguise doesn't feel great, but the cost of being authentic is often too steep
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@housepanther
I guess you could say it's the risk of vulnerability
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@theautisticcoach
"I've known you for 20 years and I don't think you're autistic." - a clinician who doesn't "know" me at all
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@theautisticcoach
(My response was to spend the next 18 months self dxing)
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hosford42, to actuallyautistic
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I'm . The sound of the train blowing its horn as it passes my house makes me cover my ears in pain. But the throbbing bass of the engine that causes a deep pressure in my chest from the vibration makes me feel happy.

When I was a kid, I used to crank up the bass of my parents' stereo and sit directly against the woofer to feel that pressure. They would always yell at me to turn it down. I've always loved that feeling.


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@hosford42
Oh man I feel mine so much and often wonder how many people do or don't. I can control it to some extent too. Last time I was in the hospital I was showing my partner how low I could get it and he was like, okay but stop no lower please 😂
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@hosford42
Wow I never thought about eyes! Can you describe what you sense?
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@sentient_water
"We may have one!" Lol 🤣
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@markusl
There are many legit self-assessment tools at embraceautism.com (including ADHD as well as autism)
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@morpheo
I love this
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@dpnash
Days before I gave birth to my second child my vision was alternating between red and green. You know how if you cover one eye you see a green tint, and the other eye, a red one? Both my eyes were open but they were taking turns and it was intense. My care provider didn't know what I was talking about
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gkbhambra, to sociology
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Brilliant article by Alka Raman demonstrating that it was 'recognition of British spinners' lack of adequate spinning skills [that] motivated the move to mechanization, in order to match the quality of cotton products created & perfected over centuries by anonymous & highly skilled Indian artisans'

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@gkbhambra
Whoah
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@JeremyMallin
I think it's about feeling simplistic or obvious. Like if something is already being expressed it would be redundant to keep saying it, so the name would have more value if it were adding some other dimension
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@AutisticAdam
Here's one from today. I'm lying in the shade at a festival when a group of teens sits right next to me. I'm hearing their whole convo and I find myself marveling at how they talk: tone of voice, what they choose to say, how it's flowing, every detail: as if I'm studying for a test that I will not pass on a topic I like but will never understand
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@Ferles
I'm realizing I don't feel safe to express joy
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@Ferles I'm reminded suddenly of old-timey books in which people would hop about or cut a caper when they were happy. I wonder if this is one of those things where, if the culture were willing to allow it, everyone would win. Maybe it would be nice for everyone to be able to jump for joy, whether they were autistically stimming or not @Claire @Autistrain @actuallyautistic

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Alt text isn't just helpful for the sight-impaired. By reading alt text I can identify what the OP is calling attention to in the pic, helping me get the joke or social commentary that would otherwise be illegible to me. (Without this I'm like, I see a thousand details and I don't know which one matters to you.)

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@lizzard
I make rules about spaces, ie this is a quiet room and that is a play room; or play upstairs quiet downstairs; or inside v outside. We have family meetings where we problem solve each person's needs together. Even small kids can do this if you teach them how. When things misfire, we iterate together
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@ar_collins
The trouble is that when you apply your systems mind to tap deep predictive insight about human behavior, people will (a) not believe you and (b) tell you you're overthinking it. Welcome, prophet Cassandra!
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@ar_collins Interesting, I don't think I've ever read him but now I think I probably should @cadenza @actuallyautistic

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@lizzard
Where can it be watched?
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I'm thinking about divesting from Google products, including Gmail. If indeed it's scraping my intellectual property to train AI, that's a dealbreaker for me. ::while deleting everything from my Google Drive::

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New for the new folks! I . I'm a and a . I'm an . I've consulted in and for 15 years. I just got a masters in and because that's what I'd like to focus on, moving forward. You can find my on patreon.com/independentpen, along with lots of other stuff – public talks that I give at conferences and such, and some of my fiction read aloud, and my .

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Hello! . I'm several things.

A creative services consultant (, copywriting, ). A folklorist and historian (MA 2022). A lifelong writer and artist (fiction, drawing, songwriting). A founder of . A neurodivergent, nonbinary, probably-definitely weirdo.

I post , & on Patreon, essays on & on my website, on Research Gate, and whatever I feel like right here.

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