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dramypsyd

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Psychologist, writer, author, speaker. I’m licensed in a few states and living in South Dakota. Or 12 pigeons in a trench coat. I hope you like memes and cat pictures. #ActuallyAutistic, #ActuallyADHD. She/her
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18+ KitMuse, to actuallyautistic
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Something I've love to dive deeper into is how many AFAB or genderqueer individuals have been dx'd with Borderline Personality Disorder rather than Autism due to their past trauma?

Yes, I know they overlap. I've done the research including getting out my "Abnormal Psych" textbook.

But I also have some personal theories and I'm curious to hear from other self dx'd autistics misdiagnosed by mental healthcare. TY

@actuallyautistic

18+ dramypsyd,
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@KitMuse @actuallyautistic This happens so much! I was never dx’ed with a PD but as a psychologist who does autism evals I encounter a lot of this misdiagnosis

18+ dramypsyd,
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@KitMuse @actuallyautistic I insist on continuing to have hope because otherwise the despair would burn me out but damn the let-downs are exhausting 💜

dramypsyd, to actuallyautistic
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Any books on autism by autistic authors with higher support needs? Or blogs? We tend to center lower support needs voices and I want to make a point of using my position to elevate those who don’t get heard as much as I do 💜

@actuallyautistic

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@mepurfield @actuallyautistic Yes thank you!

alexisbushnell, to actuallyautistic
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Looking for ideas for basically anything that will pay me (employed or freelance) that doesn't require me to deal with people, I can do from home and that I can do in my own time (i.e. don't need me to be working specific hours).

I'm getting deeper and deeper into burnout (and debt) just trying to survive.

@actuallyautistic

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@alexisbushnell @actuallyautistic I don't know your sensory needs, but when in a similar situation I used to do transcribing for Rev. I didn't need to talk to anyone directly and could work when I felt like it. The pay was not fantastic, and it can be a bad fit for those with auditory processing issues. But maybe an option? 💜

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@alexisbushnell @actuallyautistic Ah shoot! I hope you are able to find something that's a better fit.

dramypsyd, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

ISO neurodiversity-affirming resources on autism based in New Zealand - can anyone help?

dramypsyd, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

Time sensitive ask for an article! Need to submit Monday. Feel free to share here or through my contact form https://resiliencymentalhealth.com/contact/

  1. Name/pronouns I should use for you?
  2. What’s your experience dating as an autistic person?
  3. If an allistic person is dating an autistic person, what should they know and how can they support their partner?

Thank you!

dramypsyd,
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@nddev @actuallyautistic This is very helpful thank you!

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@nddev @actuallyautistic Sorry just confirming, is it ok to refer to your wife as Helen in the piece?

dramypsyd,
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@nddev @actuallyautistic That’s ok! I got enough responses for what I need. I appreciate it!

dramypsyd,
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@nddev @actuallyautistic I love this 💜

PurpleStephyr, to actuallyautistic
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6 hour ASD assessment tomorrow (with a 1 hour break for lunch). Hoping it goes well, feeling kind of nervous.

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd,
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@PurpleStephyr @beatrice @actuallyautistic That is intense!! Mine are shorter typically but I don’t do cognitive testing unless it’s requested which saves a lot of time. I hope it goes smoothly for you! 💜

AutisticAdam, to actuallyautistic
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Autistic me:

Loves books but does not have the mental stamina to sit and read a book from start to finish for hours on end. So instead consumes short-form content online for hours and hours.

Yeah because this makes sense...

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd,
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@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic Same reason I can't watch a movie but I can stream episodes of a television show for eight hours straight!

dramypsyd, to actuallyautistic
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As I’ve learned to unmask and be my authentic self, some people like me less, but I like me more. I think it was a worthwhile trade off.

@actuallyautistic

dramypsyd,
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@Julie @actuallyautistic I’m still figuring it out two years in

Dr_Obvious, to actuallyautistic German
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@actuallyautistic
I had an appointment today with my psychologist and we talked about some of my points that lead me to the believe I might be autistic. She sees strong indications for that too, but is not qualified to diagnose it.

She gave me the hint though that the local autism ambulance is more on the gatekeeper side of diagnosis. Because of my kid I will have contact with them anyway, but I am already worried that they might neglect my diagnosis and trigger my imposter feelings.

Bummer...

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@Dr_Obvious @CynAq @actuallyautistic My first evaluator said I’m not autistic because I’m employed and married - many who do these assessments are horrifyingly unqualified to speak about our community. Autistic brain has a need for certainty and accuracy, so it’s hard to be content with self identification even though it’s valid 💜

dramypsyd,
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@Dr_Obvious @CynAq @actuallyautistic This is exactly the issue with the system!! We're slowly inching in a better direction but it's nowhere near fast enough for me

dramypsyd,
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@Cassandra @Dr_Obvious @CynAq @actuallyautistic I love this idea!

26pglt, to actuallyadhd
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What would a checklist assessment for autism look like if it was based on how autistic people experience ourselves? This research team did a study to find out.

Interesting reading for all my #neurodivergent & #ActuallyAutistic pals. @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/full/10.1089/aut.2021.0099?utm_campaign=AUT+FP+October+17%2C+2023&utm_content=Article3-OA&utm_term=&utm_medium=email&utm_source=Adestra

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@26pglt @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd omg!! I need this

dramypsyd, to actuallyautistic
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Idea for my @actuallyautistic peers, what if we all got together and filed a class action lawsuit against the law firms who keep trying to sue Tylenol for "creating" us and forcing us upon the world. I think we have a valid claim for emotional distress.

dramypsyd, to actuallyautistic
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@vee @actuallyautistic No it’s about autistic masking now. It’s an autistic song. We have acquired it and the neurotypicals can’t have it back

moss, to random
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If you stopped masking, right now is a really good time to get back to it, if even only for a few months. Please.

dramypsyd,
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@nellie_m @moss @handmade_ghost @actuallyautistic I have had a lot of confusing conversations because someone says “masking traumatizes kids!” And I agree with them, thinking yes, let’s stop forcing autistic kids to mask! And then I realize they just don’t want to protect kids from COVID and we actually aren’t on the same page at all 🤦‍♀️

PsychTink, to autisticadvocacy

Autistic Burnout Bingo

@autisticadvocacy @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistics @audhd @neurodivergent

https://youtu.be/0THO5gteINk?si=cpoB560Cynf7fKjz

dramypsyd,
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@PsychTink @autisticadvocacy @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistics @audhd @neurodivergent ok filling this out now!!

eo, to actuallyautistic
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What happens when you are not allowed to do what calms you down?
@actuallyautistic

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@eo @actuallyautistic Ideally, get out of the situation. People are not entitled to access to you, and anyone who would bar you from self-regulating does not deserve your time, space, or energy. 💜

If you're comfortable being more specific, I can try to have better tips. But I am sorry you've had to deal with that because it is not ok.

eo, to random
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@markusl @andrewporter
If the next DSM does not refine and break down autism into more granular diagnoses, I will be disappointed. I think a huge part of the objective presentation of autism, and the subjective experience of autism, are due to CPTSD, anxiety, coping mechanisms, and generally: social dynamics that result from being different in this way. Currently, CPTSD isn't even in DSM 5, and living in an unsympathetic society is not factored out.

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@ndvirons @eo @markusl @andrewporter @actuallyautistic I love this!! And as an autistic psychologist I will drag my field into the neurodiversity-affirming space that uplifts actually autistic voices if it kills me

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@panduck @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic “Requiring assistance” is so vague and unhelpful though. Everyone, regardless of neurotype, requires assistance at some point for something. Plus there’s a lot I technically can do when I have to but it’s not healthy to force myself.

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@panduck @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic Ah yes, so like the folks who force themselves to work as it slowly kills them aren’t autistic because they pushed through. The system is so broken. I’m sorry 💜

dramypsyd, to random
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Stop demanding people out themselves. Some queer people have homophobic/transphobic relatives and it’s not safe for their sexual orientation or gender identity to get back to their family. Some queer people live in states where the government is actively trying to kill them. Some queer people simply don’t want to share that information with you.

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