Atheists of lemmy, what is your coping strategy when things goes downhill?

I am at an accepting stage that not everything that happens in your life is in your control. When things goes really bad and you dont have much control on it, I would assume a person who believes in god or religious figures has their belief system as a coping mechanism. For example praying to the god and so on.

I passed that stage where you believe a single entity has a complete control of each and everything happens in this entire universe. So falling back to god and thinking it is all according to the plan and he will find out some solution is not really an option for me. At the sametime I also acknowlede that there are some gray areas where science can’t provide a logical explanation so as to why this is happening to some of the life events.

So to atheists of lemmy, how do you cope up with shits that happens in your life that you can’t explain logically and you really don’t have much control?

uriel238,
@uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone avatar

For me, the existential struggle is coming to terms with my irrelevance (or our collective irrelevance – our civilization and species has some big challenges ahead in the next couple of centuries). It’s not that it’s a bad time to be a naturalist, but it’s just a bad time to be human and depend on a society that is supposed to continue without end.

That said, I’ve only acclimated to the idea that only oblivion and irrelevance await me. Living day to day is augmented by social and hedonistic comforts: I pet my cat and my dog. I take care of my wife. I play video games and limit how often I look at the world burning up.

We’ve encountered similar tropes in our apocalyptic fiction. Neo learns that his entire life was a dream, a construct in the matrix. I remind kids they really are in a YAF dystopia in which the education system is trying to mold them into interchangeable, disposable, replaceable soldiers and laborers to be inserted into billionaire vanity projects, used up and discarded, and their story is how they escape that paradigm.

That’s our story too.

Anti_Weeb_Penguin,

I go to the orange and black website and forget about everything

jadedwench,

😂 thank you for the laugh today kind human.

oshitwaddup,

Everything that happens is like water flowing down a river. I don’t get mad at gravity and the water for acting according to the laws of physics, why do that for other things? It’s much easier to accept it for what it is and try to move forward to the best of my ability

there’s more to the analogy/perspective but I don’t feel like putting it into words. Hopefully it’s helpful

spittingimage,
@spittingimage@lemmy.world avatar

I’ve always found it easier to accept that the universe is fundamentally random and today is my turn in the barrel than wonder why God did this to me.

LavaPlanet,

Radical acceptance. And then to follow, build a core of self supporting psychology structures to live by, which sounds complex, but it’s just things like

Emotional regulation tools. Distress tolerance. Self support concepts.

Let me know if you want me to expand on anything.

NotSpez,

This is really good advice.

Bytemeister,

Basically, do what you can, don’t do what you can’t. Shit happens, however you want to rationalize it, it still happens.

warlaan,

This is something I really don’t understand. Maybe you can explain it to me.

For me a “normal” day would be one where earth looks like the moon. The fact that we have all kinds of plants and animals is amazing and the fact that we have buildings, technology and culture is something to be very proud of, because every day that you don’t run around killing people or doing other horrible things is a day where you overcame your instincts and helped hold up culture. So to me every day, even one that you would deem “shit that happens in your life”, is absolutely amazing and something to be proud of.

But for someone who believes that there is a God a normal day would be one where everything works out great, and it would just be because God took care of it. A bad day would mean that for whatever reason this God decided to let you suffer. And this is supposed to make you feel good?

Isn’t it uplifting to say that you can’t explain why bad things happen to you? Do you really think it’s uplifting to think that bad things happen to you because an all powerful being decided that you deserved it?

SelfHigh5,

This will be over soon.

n0m4n,

I try to balance by adding joy to my life and others around me. Loving people, laughing, and a sense of humor about myself helps. Life has a random element. I also try to concentrate attention on the good and what I can control. I have an insatiable curiosity about everything, that keeps me busy, in the meantime.

We all have a limited time in this life, and at some point in the next two hundred years, are certain to recycle our atoms to nature.

RegalPotoo,
@RegalPotoo@lemmy.world avatar

Said the rich man to the poor man, and the poor man to the rich; “this too shall pass”

Presi300, (edited )
@Presi300@lemmy.world avatar

You’re the one in control of whether things go down or up the hill in your life, not some mystical entity. If shit goes downhill, you just have to deal with it, praying to the gods won’t fix your life or make you money, only you can do that… Nothing more to it, really.

That’s how I think about it, anyways…

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