Atheists of lemmy, what is your coping strategy when things goes downhill?

I am at an accepting stage that not everything that happens in your life is in your control. When things goes really bad and you dont have much control on it, I would assume a person who believes in god or religious figures has their belief system as a coping mechanism. For example praying to the god and so on.

I passed that stage where you believe a single entity has a complete control of each and everything happens in this entire universe. So falling back to god and thinking it is all according to the plan and he will find out some solution is not really an option for me. At the sametime I also acknowlede that there are some gray areas where science can’t provide a logical explanation so as to why this is happening to some of the life events.

So to atheists of lemmy, how do you cope up with shits that happens in your life that you can’t explain logically and you really don’t have much control?

sub_ubi,

I rely on the bonds I’ve built with other people

hperrin,

When things go poorly for me, I just remember that everything is temporary. At some point in the future, it’ll be better.

GregoryTheGreat,

I talk about it to friends and family. Most things have happened to people you already know.

morphballganon,

We atheists are quite capable of talking to imaginary friends too. We just have no delusions that they’re real.

Rhynoplaz,

I know I’ve asked for more than a few things to please work out. Couldn’t tell you who I was asking though.

sigmaklimgrindset,

So true, when things get tough I kneel in front of my poster of Sephiroth and mumble incoherently about the Lifestream.

Works as well as when I used to pray tbh.

Dick_Justice,
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I accept the fact that I don’t understand everything, and I get high.

lvxferre,
@lvxferre@lemmy.ml avatar

I’m not a control freak, I know that most things in life are outside my control, and I’m generally fine with it. And when those things outside my control are bad for me, I just… accept them while doing whatever I can to make them less bad?

Two people here mentioned media and booze. For me they’re refreshment; they distract me from the problem that I can’t solve, but they won’t help directly. (Sometimes you do need a refreshment.) Same deal with cooking or talking with my pets.

Chee_Koala,

Ride the wave of chaos on your surfboard of acceptance and enjoy the ride, it’s all we’ve got.

benignintervention,

The only time I truly feel alive

Im_old,

What do you mean by “cope”? How do I explain it? Either shit happens because of bad luck (e.g. A bird shits on me) or because someone did something wrong (e.g. Somebody got distracted while driving and broke my side mirror). It’s not supernatural entity, it’s just statistical probability.

How do I cope mentally? Tv, videogames, a beer o two and a nice meal. Talk to my wife. Remember to play with my kids.

kibiz0r,

Music, games, booze.

Apollo2323,

Look at Stoicism. It is a very interesting philosophy from the Greeks , you can learn more here : youtu.be/EFkyxzJtiv4?si=ZQSdcIz58lnfl-Og

Dressedlikeapenguin,

This is the best secular world view I’ve found. Since leaving religious thinking behind, I wondered abit between nihilism and the world is what you make it. The Dichotomy of Control really resonated with me. Funny enough, I started rereading Epictetus’ Enchiridion The book, How to be a Stoic by Massimo Pigliucci is good to. I found it more accessible. Here is a video with him youtu.be/qjz5a8X9LjU?si=0OsptyOS7MvHiYw0

sub_ubi,

Looks like the stoics found a life raft from reddit

Apollo2323,

Sorry English is not my first language, what you mean by life raft? Like you mean stoics found a way out of Reddit?

lolan,

Thank you!! It is really an intersting perspective. I will research more in this.

willya,
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Music, poetry, booze.

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