Have you ever been sexually attracted to someone you found repulsive?

It happened to me recently at work. I don’t even find her physically attractive, and her personality is not what I’m into at all. But I was still somehow attracted to her - and she also was to me. She didn’t like me, and I certainly am not the kind of man she goes for. It’s like we had a strong connection in one area beneath the subconscious or something, but every other area was completely incompatible. Aggressively so.

Anyone else have anything similar?

suckaduck,
@suckaduck@feddit.nl avatar

If you’re both thirsty and not held back by committed relationships you might as well tap each other. I certainly would and have. Ooga booga sex.

regalia,

That’s why you call some people bangable, but not wifey.

manapropos,

There’s this chick at my gym. She has an amazing body, nice face and everything. I’m taken so it’s whatever, I’m not thirsting over her, but she’s noticeable.

Anyways, one day I’m working out and I hear her talking to someone else. Her voice is so deep and raspy I did a double take to make sure it was her. Instant ICK but I’d still hit it with earplugs

spitz,
@spitz@lemmy.ml avatar

Haha I had a similar experience with an Asian lady several years ago. I was lost and asked her for directions into town. She had the prettiest face, and a dainty little physique. She answered me in a sweet manner… then turned around to her family… and screeched in a loud, twangy, pitchy yelling voice. It completely changed how attractive I found her, but I thought a similar thing about earplugs.

triclops6,

Hate fuck

russjr08,
@russjr08@outpost.zeuslink.net avatar

Yes. I’m pretty sure its by the same virtue behind “The heart wants what the heart wants” (as in, same underlying concept). There are plenty of times where my conscious and subconscious disagree on what I “want”.

However, it only takes going down the road of “Well what if its not as bad as I think…” a couple of times to solidify the idea that, yes, it can absolutely be as bad as you think…

NENathaniel,
@NENathaniel@lemmy.ca avatar

I find lots of physically hot people are quite arrogant cause they always have people chasing after them

AttackBunny,

Typically, for me, it’s been a situation where the guy was really physically attractive, but a an absolutely horrible person.

Schlemmy,

Yes, I’ve been with a girl like that for 2 years. My friends told me that I could get better looking women and found 8t strange I hooked up with her but my god, she got me going. Also, she was a nymphomaniac. That’s the main reason we broke up. Having sex twice a day takes the fun out of it if you’re not a sex addict. I encountered her a few weeks ago. She gained a lot of weight but I still wanted to screw her badly. It’s totally weird.

spitz,
@spitz@lemmy.ml avatar

We are indeed a bizarre species.

random_character_a,
@random_character_a@lemmy.world avatar

let me guess, neither of you use strong parfumes, so you bodies get to tell each other you’d be a good genetic mix.

Schlemmy,

She does use a strong perfume. But it has been the same for about 20 years.

axont,

I don’t have a lot of experience with dating and I’m kind of a loner, so I’ve had a problem over the past decade of jumping at whoever expresses interest in me. It’s a bad habit. The last two people I dated ended up being deep transphobes, both laughed when I told them I’m non-binary. With the last one, we had already been on like 3 dates or so and had gotten a little intimate, so that really made me ashamed of myself.

The last person revealed themselves to be a Raëlian too, the UFO cult. A lot of other conspiracy theory junk bouncing around their brain too. They must have known all of this stuff would turn me away, because none of it came out until I had known them for two months and we’d already considered ourselves close. Advice for the future: Ask anyone you’re gonna date important questions about their view of the world before doing anything further, it’ll save time. Figure out their religion, politics, stance on trans/gay people, everything, because for me it was a little devastating. I thought I had finally found someone. Oh well.

Droechai,

First date questions:

Do you believe in the moon?

Would you describe the world as a sphere, a disc or a construct created by the elders of Zion designed to keep people distracted from something else?

Hmm, maybe it’s third date questions, together with questions regarding family goals and values and where they want to be in five years time?

axont,

at first I thought you said elders of Zeon and I imagined accidentally dating Char Aznable in disguise

but yeah I’m gonna have to start asking basic questions about the moon landing, validity of trans people, and even if humans evolved from earlier primates

scorpious,

Pheromones

pH3ra,
@pH3ra@lemmy.ml avatar

That’s the reason I quit drinking

BackOnMyBS,
@BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world avatar

I have that problem with Lauren Boebert. I find her repulsive. To me, she’s a terrible person. But, I bet she’s wild in bed, and I would totally hook up with her disgusting ass if the right opportunity came up.

✋🏳️‍🌈ACCEPTANCE🏳️‍🌈🤚

CmdrShepard,

Could be worse and be Marjorie Taylor Greene. I think with Boebert, it’s the glasses that do it just like with Sarah Palin a little over a decade ago.

eek2121,

Yes. 2 decades ago I met someone I wasn’t attracted to physically, and we had no common interests at all. However she was quite independent and just a smidge dominant and she had one goal: she wanted to sleep with me. That alone lead us down a brief fling which ended with a one night stand. The night was sleepless and enjoyable, but we split up after.

I don’t regret it.

I still occasionally talk to her (as a friend).

zerbey,

Of course, being good looking doesn’t make you a good person. Plenty of beautiful assholes out there.

spitz,
@spitz@lemmy.ml avatar

She’s not even good looking, though. I mean she’s not repulsively hideous to look at, certainly not beautiful.

Colour_me_triggered,

Disgusted spiteful sex is one of the best types of sex.

spitz,
@spitz@lemmy.ml avatar

I missed out. Damn.

Colour_me_triggered,

Go split her in two like a piece of balsa wood, young padawan!

spitz,
@spitz@lemmy.ml avatar

Actually, one of my exes really liked a song called Fuck Me Like You Hate Me. She was also quite hatable. It added some spice in the bedroom, but a high price was paid. I’m not really interested in revisiting that…

russjr08,
@russjr08@outpost.zeuslink.net avatar

By Seether? I take it? It’s one of my favorites by them, its got a good beat to it lol

spitz,
@spitz@lemmy.ml avatar

Yes, that’s the one. I prefer their cover of Careless Whisper, personally. That song also has a very strong her-to-me vibe.

cobra89,

Is this a John Oliver quote? Lol

Colour_me_triggered,

It does sound like one, now that I think about it.

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