Men, how well do you know your best male friends?

I keep seeing men online (Reddit, Instagram, TikTok) saying how they don’t know personal details about their male friends of several years. It is mostly said in a proud context, or in disbelief when a woman talks about it.

I’m talking about knowing someone for years and not knowing what they do for work specifically, their relationship status/major issues, their life goals, their family situation, birthdays, and stuff like that.

For context, I am a man in my 20s. I have a close friend group of around 10 people. We all know each other very well. We have a group chat, and meet at least once a week (obviously some people can’t always make it). We know a lot of details about each other, so this idea of being close friends with someone and not knowing personal stuff about each other seems foreign and weird to me.

Does it actually happen, or just internet hyperbole?

PsychedSy,

I know my friends well and give them hugs and kiss them on the cheek when I see them.

theKalash,

That’s why I could never be friends with a Frenchman.

PsychedSy,

Eh. If someone’s not comfortable with it that’s cool. It’s my default though. I want my friends to know how much I love them.

Ejh3k,

I stood up in my best friend’s wedding, and he took the photos at mine. I went in and covered for him when his wife started labor for their first child. I bailed him out of jail when we had a particularly wild night of drinking. We often have the same or very similar daily driver vehicles. I wrote him letters and post cards nearly every day when he was in basic training, and they were such a hit with his group, he asked me to write them all a letter. I’ve known him 18 years, could not with confidence tell you his age.

SeeJayEmm,
@SeeJayEmm@lemmy.procrastinati.org avatar

Hahahaha. I’m close to my best friend of almost 30 years. We know a lot about each other but I never can remember his age. I know he’s younger than me but is it 1 year? 2? shrug

GiddyGap,

You guys have friends?

AceFuzzLord,

I cannot say I know much about him anymore since I haven’t seen him since highschool. No idea what he’s doing or anything of the sort and in a way it’s kinda sad. I don’t even know if I can reconnect with him and if it would even work out between us.

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