So I need some realtalk by Lemmie’s resident stoners and possibly medical professionals on the benefits and risks/harms of vaping cannabis refill things on the respiratory system (using a rechargeable vape pen/battery thingy at the lowest heat setting)....
Super excited for this. The existing community over at !horror has a pretty different vibe that something like /r/horror. I suspect this will be a lot closer to what I’m looking for.
Hello, Canadians of Lemmy! Down in the USA there is a lot of conflicting information regarding the efficacy of y’alls healthcare systems. Without revealing my personal bias, I was hoping for some anecdotes or summaries from those whom actually live there.
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There’s still a lot of low hanging development fruit. All that downtime the bigger instances have are largely the result of poorly optimized database interactions (with the exception of the DDoSing) and that works out to higher costs overall. It should not cost instance admins nearly as much as it does to host a sum total of 50k users. Not to mention, moderation tools are still basically nonexistent. There is progress on tweaking the algorithm to not completely bury anything but the largest communities, so that will probably significantly improve folks feeds.
Also there’s no point recruiting from Reddit anymore. I think we are better off establishing a wholly new slow growth phase pulling primarily from Mastodon. The userbase is huge by our standards and already understands federation. Not to mention Mastodon users tend to be far more active posters than Reddit users.
There is a lot of discussion happening in the background of our project here. We could not anticipate all of the challenges that we were going to face a few years ago. One of the reasons for this was because we had no idea what our choice of a platform would bring....
It’s a shame how much of Lemmy’s recent downturn appears to stem from slow and misprioritized development. At this point significant instances are dropping like flies and users are leaving in droves. I do not have high hopes for the future of this platform.
‘The researchers found that there was no “sweet spot” where a woman could position herself without being criticized. Women were either too young or too old, too attractive or not attractive enough, too educated or not educated enough. Introverted women were not seen as leaders and extroverted women were viewed as...
While I think you are touching on something important with the sense of martyrdom, I very much disagree with the idea that the violent aspects of patriarchal masculinity are somehow a result of that.
I think you’ve seriously misunderstood the author’s intentions. She’s calling for sympathy for men. Specifically she’s trying to explain the violent nature of patriarchal masculinity as a result of the gendered expectations we place on men and boys. Think about expectations to protect a female partner in a mugging or similarly confrontational situation. Those are the sort of experiences that she’s referencing. The argument then is that because we place these situational requirements on even the most violence-averse men, we should have greater empathy for the fact that men as a whole have internalized this notion of violence as necessity in a lot of situations. My reason for posting it here was primarily so that folks could discuss their own experiences with these sorts of harmful gendered expectations.
the author dismisses the assertion that most men aren’t violent by asserting that they are “programmed from birth” to be violent, and as such the fact that they haven’t been is no reason to not treat them as if they had been.
I think it is fairly clear that bell hooks is talking about external gendered expectations not any sort of biological essentialism.
As for the expectation of violence in media
I really don’t think it’s about media. Nor do I think the current state of on-screen violence is nearly as impactful to the adults of today. This sort of thing get’s ingrained during childhood and while of course individuals are always changing, childhood exposure while you are still building your model of the world is unique. The current state of affairs will tell us far more about tomorrow’s men than today’s.
All that said I don’t think you need to look to media to see this phenomena. If you’ve ever walked a female friend or partner home, you’ve probably experienced these pressures. You may have taken them in stride as many are happy to fit those gendered expectations (most folks are very much willing to dish out the good violence) but there is a real sense in which those expectations are both unfair and contributing to a larger sense of violence as a necessity. For so long as we are discussing the right kinds of violence for masculine individuals to enact we are making assumptions about the intrinsic violence of masculinity.
I think this is particularly important to overcome in the sphere of early education. Conservative women are massively over represented in early childhood education and I believe that this contributes significantly to the unnecessarily gendered expectations placed on young boys at an instrumental time in their development.
People here very rarely click through to videos (I’m working on that). In the future I recommend putting comedy or satire somewhere in the title so people don’t assume it’s an endorsement.
“Don’t Make It Your Project”: How to Support a Man Who is Struggling with Mental Health (verilymag.com)
Unpacking Rural Masculinity with Author Robert Maynor (dailyyonder.com)
[DISCUSSION] Weekly Discussion Wednesday - "This fear of maleness estranges men from every female in their lives to greater or lesser degrees, and men feel the loss."
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Why Are Women Freezing Their Eggs? Look to the Men. - "A new book explores the 'mating gap' and why women are struggling to find a male co-parent." (www.theatlantic.com)
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A single Father's experience with unsolicited attention (www.fatherly.com)
Realtalk on vaping cannabis vape refill thingies
So I need some realtalk by Lemmie’s resident stoners and possibly medical professionals on the benefits and risks/harms of vaping cannabis refill things on the respiratory system (using a rechargeable vape pen/battery thingy at the lowest heat setting)....
[VIDEO] Why Therapy Sucks For Men (17:38) (www.youtube.com)
Welcome to Horror Movies @ lemmy.film (lemmy.film)
cross-posted from: lemmy.film/post/1243382...
Hey, Canadians. How's your healthcare?
Hello, Canadians of Lemmy! Down in the USA there is a lot of conflicting information regarding the efficacy of y’alls healthcare systems. Without revealing my personal bias, I was hoping for some anecdotes or summaries from those whom actually live there.
"How can we make lemmy a safer place for women? Is it even possible to?" - literature.cafe (literature.cafe)
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In U.S. Military, Sexual Assault Against Men Is Vastly Underreported (theintercept.com)
Men want to be sexualized more. They should talk to women about that. (medium.com)
Teenage boys struggle to control gambling habits as link seen between betting and heavy drinking (www.independent.ie)
Wear pink but don’t cry - "Men under 25 are less likely than their elders to feel comfortable hugging another man or weeping in front of them. What happened?" (www.thetimes.co.uk)
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The Performance of Masculinity: Beyond Postures and Gestures - David N Johnson (davidnjohnson.com)
[DISCUSSION] Weekly Discussion Wednesday - How did your early schooling influence the development of your masculinity?
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‘There Was Definitely a Thumb on the Scale to Get Boys’ - Declining male enrollment has led many colleges to adopt an unofficial policy: affirmative action for men. (www.nytimes.com)
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Lemmy is losing users (programming.dev)
How can we make it more popular?
The Feminist in Cellblock Y (www.youtube.com)
From the video starting at 41:05:...
The Beehaw project is entering some significant challenges
There is a lot of discussion happening in the background of our project here. We could not anticipate all of the challenges that we were going to face a few years ago. One of the reasons for this was because we had no idea what our choice of a platform would bring....
30 Criticisms That Hold Women Leaders Back, According to New Research (www.sheknows.com)
‘The researchers found that there was no “sweet spot” where a woman could position herself without being criticized. Women were either too young or too old, too attractive or not attractive enough, too educated or not educated enough. Introverted women were not seen as leaders and extroverted women were viewed as...
Vulnerable young men, masculinity and extremism | The Strategist (www.aspistrategist.org.au)
[DISCUSSION] Weekly Discussion Wednesday - "Boys and men have been told from birth on to believe that at some point they must be violent, to prove that they are men"
This week’s prompt is:...
[VIDEO] The Emotional Objectification of Men (1:15:18) (www.youtube.com)
Gender bias deters men from healthcare, early education, and domestic career fields, study suggests (www.psypost.org)
How I went from Transphobe to Trans Ally - SquidTips (yt.artemislena.eu)
“I know what NOT to do, what should I actually DO?” — a short primer for being publicly charming as a dude (medium.com)
How financial trauma is affecting men (www.esquireme.com)
Bachelors twice as likely to die of heart failure than married men (archive.ph)
Original link: thetimes.co.uk/…/bachelors-twice-as-likely-to-die…
fixed cyberghost's "meme" (thelemmy.club)
Threads' New Terms & Conditions Affects the Fediverse (wedistribute.org)
Patients have better outcomes with female surgeons, studies find (www.theguardian.com)
Women write about their divorce experience. Why don’t more men? (aeon.co)
Here’s What I’ve Learned About Raising Boys in My 30 Years as a Child Psychologist (www.self.com)
“My Brother Is So Far Gone”: How Male Influencers Turned The Men In These People’s Lives Toxic (www.buzzfeednews.com)
Dr. Pordan Jeterson: Answering the Toughest Question of All (youtu.be)
As Teens Take to E-Bikes, Parents Ask: Is This Freedom or Danger? (www.nytimes.com)
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