As a non-binary person, I often get asked, upon stating my gender identity, this question: “Are you AMAB or AFAB?”, and quite frankly, I hate it, and I think it reeks of bad intentions. Now, I don’t think anyone who asks this is explicitly enbyphobic. There’s a good chance that they just simply might not understand, but...
My AGAB is important to me because the way I was raised has shaped my experiences and personality. Although I am transitioning, I identify more with the AFAB experience in certain ways, so there are certain things I feel more comfortable bonding over with AFAB people. I’m also new to transitioning, so I am very curious about others’ experiences.
I do respect the views of people who don’t want to identify at all with their AGAB, and it’s perfectly ok to say that you don’t want to share that information if people ask. I appreciate the tip to ask about hormones instead, and I’ll try to do that in the future in order to be more respectful.
There’s no universal experience, but it’s more like an umbrella term, a sort of fundamental experience that most can relate to. I personally don’t believe my experience to be wildly different from that of cis women, other than that I have also suffered from dysphoria. I typically identify even more closely with transmasc people. It is ok to disagree with me, but I do believe our upbringing and experiences shape our personalities, and that if I was socialized male from birth that I would have different experiences, thus a somewhat different personality.
Thanks to whoever made this place on lemmy! It has been an important and awesome resource on reddit and NDs are the first who should leave reddit immediately since the toxic leadership decisions. It’s wonderful to see that we now have a place here!
Non-Binary People and Assigned Sex at Birth
As a non-binary person, I often get asked, upon stating my gender identity, this question: “Are you AMAB or AFAB?”, and quite frankly, I hate it, and I think it reeks of bad intentions. Now, I don’t think anyone who asks this is explicitly enbyphobic. There’s a good chance that they just simply might not understand, but...
minor PSA: we have a Spirituality community now (beehaw.org)
this was made a few days ago when i was off but nobody announced it, so i guess i’m doing that now. the sidebar describes its purpose as follows:...
I just found this place! Thank you!
Thanks to whoever made this place on lemmy! It has been an important and awesome resource on reddit and NDs are the first who should leave reddit immediately since the toxic leadership decisions. It’s wonderful to see that we now have a place here!