May help to not worry about your gender and instead focus on what things you want or don't want. Do you want HRT? Do you want to change things about your presentation (such as clothing) or suspect you might (in which case, try it out in private). Do you want to change your pronouns or name? If you could magically change your genitals (without the option of going back), would you? Would you be willing to go through surgery for it?
You don't need to answer yes to any of those to be trans, but it might be easier to focus on concrete things like those than the nebulous thing of "what is my gender?"
When people do this it’s important to say something to them about it to send the message that what they did is not acceptable, otherwise it sends the message that “corrective misgendering” is acceptable or accepted when it isn’t.
I am personally not in a postilion to correct people right now as I am still using my dead name with some people… in the future though I would LOVE to just say “no need to apologize, you got it right the first time.” Keeping in mind that for those that are working retail, it is probably best to politely correct whenever possible.
Now just out right aggressive shit like when I heard some guy behind my back say something along the lines of…
(was going to leave a very upsetting example here but decided to spare you the example, but let’s just say that while I am boymode-ing often it is obvious to many that I am either trans or queer based on my appearance)
…as I was still working I just turned around and while my voice and words were nothing but polite… I am sure my expression did the trick because the dude shut up fast.
(I hate my body (my height being one thing I wish I could change), but in situations like that, an upset expression from a 6’2" person is somewhat more affective)
an upset expression from a 6’2" person is somewhat more affective
I giggled (and I’m sorry you hate your body, I understand your feelings, can’t do much about it except offering you hugs ♥️)! I doubt that would work for me as I’m literally the opposite of a strong person sooo nobody would get scared lol 😂
I am personally not in a postilion to correct people right now as I am still using my dead name with some people…
I’m quite different since I’ve always been quite the rebellious enby myself and I’m pretty quick to call most people out when it comes to crap like this. Though I actually didn’t change my name since I quite like my name (Julian).
Spicy version: “Wow thanks for deliberately misgendering me while trying to seem polite about it” *with as much sarcasm as I can muster
Both of these are equally justified in my situation being that I do wear pronouns, and I am quite obviously an androgynous enby. So in that manner this type of thing would very much be intentional.
It’s not that, it is when someone (correctively misgenders) as in they got the right gender and then when they catch a hint you might be trans or see something that points to your AGAB they switch it up and miss gender you. That is what the OP is about and I think this is what the comment was also referring to aswell.
The OP is based on the common occurrence of this for MTF individuals, especially those that have grown out our hair… while someone may gender us correctly from behind, they sometimes (correctively misgender) when you turn around. This can be done with the best intentions in mind, like they thought they misgendered a guy as a girl, so they apologize despite the fact that the apology is in fact an insult at that point.
I remember the first time someone called me miss in public I felt amazing, the second time it happened it crashed when they apologized and said sir. Instead of getting off work that day giddy because I was called miss, I spent the rest of the night disgusted trying to deduce what features made them question their first thought.
They didn’t do that though, they correctly gendered the person then misgendered them AKA corrective misgendering, it’s a transphobic tactic to make it seem like you’re trying to be nice but you’re actually being hurtful and invalidating.
I’ve also had one of the best days of my life! I met other transgender young people and our respective parents and we spent a lot of time together sharing experiences and love and got to know each other better!
It was a lovely experience and I managed to cuddle with everyone (cuddling is my love language) and so I’m very happy and satisfied!
you could say that I’m living an emotional rollercoaster these days: I have supporting people around me and that makes things easier ♥️
Wish this was my experience, just reading silly haha funny egg memes as a “cis male” until I started to understand why I relate It is praxis to make the absolute funniest egg memes possible. Increase the surface area of the net to catch all reppers, closeted, and confused so they can put 2 and 2 together.
It would be nice if it were this easy for everyone! It wasn’t even that easy for me, truth be told. Not pictured are the years I spent in denial thinking things like “every guy wants to be a cute girl” or similar that are very eggy in hindsight. If it wasn’t for lemmy I’d probably have taken another few years to crack because I filtered egg_irl on reddit years ago probably for some reason like “well these are relatable but I’m not trans so it’s not really for me” lol.
It is one of those “stop doing x” memes that are usually some blend of tongue-in-cheek and outright surrealism, and they always end in “they played us for absolute fools”. Here is an older example of the meme:
Or if thats not the part that confused you, binary genders would be just two genders with no variations or differences in the gender of any two men, or any two women. It is a perspective that is antithetical to progressive/modern understanding of gender in culture, and the trans community generally opposes it. Trans communities usually prefer the idea of a gender spectrum, where masculine and feminine are the opposite ends of a gradient, but even that can recieve criticism for excluding Agender people.
Partitioning our entire population on the basis of the role its members could potentially play in reproduction makes no sense at all to me, but apparently I’m the strange one for pointing that out?
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