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Sweet, I’ve been building a goth workout playlist for months and you had a bunch of songs I’d forgotten, thanks! I’m a big fan of goth music so I really appreciate the post. Welcome to the community 🦇

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Here ya go! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/199SIHv2FmcKyrCpqLMifT

sweetviolentblush,
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I thought that too

sweetviolentblush,
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rule #2 friend

sweetviolentblush,
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In the wrong place? lol this is my community. You’re banned. Enjoy.

sweetviolentblush,
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nice find!

sweetviolentblush, (edited )
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My partner’s name is also the name of a very famous (mostly to boomers) multi-grammy award winner. He works in finance and he’s gotten the Michael Bolton experience many, many, multiple times. He says its always super awkward, with really bad jokes or people thinking they’re being clever with quips like Are you related or Do you have a new album coming out? hurr durr. But he’s also never experienced anyone under 50 noticing his name, so its slowly happening less often

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!boostforlemmy

sweetviolentblush, (edited )
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If you want to be upset about children getting gender surgeries, then rage at circumcisions and forced gender reassignment for intersex infants, because no one is giving transgender children gender surgery or hormone treatments. The only thing kids may receive (within the us and canada, I’m not sure about other countries) is puberty blockers, which are safe and reversible simply by stopping their usage.
healthline.com/…/are-puberty-blockers-reversible

Drag storytime is not sexual at all, don’t fall for that lie. There are many different types of drag shows; storytime and adult burlesque are miles apart in differences.

sweetviolentblush,
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I was plenty nice. If you had to constantly defend your existence, you might get a little touchy about it too. You do not have the right to tell me how to react to that… are trans people not allowed a bit of frustration when we have to deal with this 24/7? I do not owe anyone pleasantries when they’re pushing propaganda, and whether they meant to or not is irrelevant when the outcome is the same- propaganda being pushed. You’re welcome for the link, but please stop telling trans people how they should act, yeah?

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Trans folks do not owe you kindness as payment for existence. Do not respond, I’ll be blocking you cause you’re still trying to tell me how I should act in the face of anti-trans propaganda, which is pretty fucked up.

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It’s not my playlist and we don’t do this here. rule 1, “no picking on, mocking or complaining about anyones playlist”

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It’s all good 😊

sweetviolentblush,
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Great movie, if anyone hasn’t seen it yet and your feeling a bit piratey: https://bflix.io/movie/harold-and-maude-7jy5j/1-1

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Thats a great one, saw it again a few years ago and it holds up pretty well

sweetviolentblush, (edited )
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That’s not a solution though, it sounds more like making men’s mental health a problem for their wives to deal with.

sweetviolentblush,
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Yeah you definitely shouldn’t ring up pine nuts as de-shelled sunflower seeds, or use the scan-one add-three to your bag technique at self-checkout 👀

sweetviolentblush,
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I tried getting back into tumblr. Then a few weeks ago they just shittified their ugly clunky browser interface so badly I left again. I wish there was a fine arts reblogging substitute. Having a feed full of art was my anti-anxiety fix for years

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Intersex people are individuals born with any of several sex characteristics including chromosome patterns, gonads, or genitals that do not fit the binary. Intersex folks are not inherently trans; but many were put through gender reassignment surgery post-birth and usually without their permission, so some do in fact, feel they are trans.

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Heres a decent timeline of trans history. If you hate wikipedia, there’s the citations at the bottom to browse through. en.wikipedia.org/…/Timeline_of_transgender_histor…

But spoiler alert: transgender people, intersex, non-binary and other genders have been around probably as long as we’ve existed. As far as recorded history, I’m gonna drop a fuckton of info below if anyone is curious about human history outside the gender binary.

A few archeological finds & early historical texts:

  1. (7,000 BCE-1700 BCE) Among the sexual depictions in Neolithic and Bronze Age drawings and figurines from the Mediterranean are, as one author describes it, a “third sex” human figure having female breasts and male genitals or without distinguishing sex characteristics. (The Archaeology of Mediterranean Prehistory by Emma Blake, A. Bernard Knapp)
  2. (1st century) earliest mention of transgender/gender non-conforming people: Philo of Alexandria and Marcus Manilius provided descriptions of transgender people during the early Roman Empire books.google.com
  3. probable transgender remains from between 2900-2500BC in Prague article on pinknews.com
  4. the remains of a person with Klinefelter syndrome (intersex), circa 1050-1300 in Hattula, Finland article on phys.org
  5. Kalonymus ben Kalonymus ben Meir (1286-1328) wrote a poem lamenting being born a boy, referring to their (possibly her) genitalia as a “defect” wikipedia.org

A list of the 10 earliest recorded gender-affirming surgeries:

  1. Karl M. Baer (1885-1956) born intersex, assigned female, came out as male in 1904; surgery in 1906
  2. Dora Richter (1892-?) first surgery was 1922, second was 1931
  3. Lili Elbe (1882-1931) transitioned in 1930, and was the first known recipient of a uterus transplant in attempt to achieve pregnancy; she died due to complications
  4. Laurence Michael Dillon (1915-1962) had surgery in 1946 and was an early user of testosterone therapy, starting in 1939
  5. Roberta Elizabeth Marshall Cowell (1918-2011) underwent gender-affirming surgery in 1948 and lived to be 93
  6. Christine Jorgensen (1926-1989) began sex reassignment surgeries in 1952
  7. Charlotte Frances McLeod (1925-2007) struggled with American doctors; she wanted surgery but they wanted to change her gender identity instead which sent her into a deep depression; was quoted as saying “I was miserable and I wanted to die” before moving to Denmark to have her surgeries around 1953-1954. She lived to be 82.
  8. Rina Natan (1923-1979) earliest known individual to undergo gender-affirming surgery in Israel; it was finally granted to her in 1956, after being denied multiple times and attempting the surgery on herself
  9. April Ashley (1935-2021) English model and activist who was outed without her consent; it’s believed her surgery occurred around 1960
  10. Maryam Khatoon Molkara (1950-2012) first publicized Iranian citizen to receive gender-affirming surgeries (first surgery unknown; probably after 1980) In the 1980s she secured a religious decree from conservative Iran’s highest authority to officially allow reassignment surgery for herself and for other trans people in her country

Many cultures around the world have recognized more than two genders:

  1. In India (Hijras or Kinnar; since 1226 at least)
  2. Pre-Islamic Arabia (Khanith and Mukhannath; as early as the Rashidun era 632 - 661)
  3. Cambodia, Laos and mostly Thailand (Kathoey; since at least 1296)
  4. Albanian society, Kosovo and Montenegro (Burrnesha; documented in 1800s but can be traced back to the 1400s)
  5. the Bugis of Sulawesi recognize five genders (Makkunrai, Oroané, Bissu, Calabai, and Calalai)
  6. Southern Mexico/Zapotec culture (Muxe)
  7. the Philippines (Bakla; prior to the Spanish colonial period)
  8. Italy (Femminiello; since at least 1740/1760, see: Il femminiello, painted by Giuseppe Bonito)
  9. Japan (in writings since at least the Edo Period)
  10. the Diné aka. Navajo (Nádleehi)
  11. the Zuni (Lhamana)
  12. many various indigenous american tribes (the Two Spirited)
  13. Igbo people of Nigeria (documented in the 15th century)
  14. pre-colonial Inca civilization in Peru (Quariwarmi)
  15. Native Hawaiian and Tahitian (Māhū; pre-colonial, but first published mention in 1789)
16) the Itelmens of Siberia (Koekchuch; first recorded in the late 18th century)
There’s so much more, but I’m tired now lol. Hopefully I made my point, which is we have a fuckton of lgbt+ history that no one knows about cause it’s not taught. It doesn’t help that the anti-lgbt+ propaganda likes to postulate that this is all some new-fangled fad, which it is clearly not. It’s our history.
sweetviolentblush,
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I’m not sure I understand. Where did I say historically intersex bodies mean they’re trans? …are you talking about the grave found in Suontaka, Hattula in Finland? Because they did DNA testing and discovered the deceased had Klinefelter syndrome, which to very crudely summarize (and I apologize if I say this incorrectly) is someone mostly male-presenting with an additional copy of the X chromosome; so XXY instead of XY chromosomes. The deceased was dressed in female clothing of the time, and in the grave they found jewelry attributed to women in that time as well. That’s why they theorize the individual might have been trans as well.

sweetviolentblush,
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Well part of your problem is your comparing a time where we barely had rights let alone a language for ourselves up against a modern trans reality. All of the gender-affirming surgeries I listed were done by adults at their own behest. Also, this is a history rundown where I mostly focused on trans individuals, not intersex individuals, BUT, historically, most exceptions to the gender binary were all thrown together into single categories back then. In hindsight, sure, a lot of these cultural third gender classifications sound confusing, inaccurate, and too broad a category for our present understanding. But they were working with what knowledge they had at the time

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Well it matters to some of us, a lot actually. I spent most of my youth in self-loathing, thinking there was something wrong with me because I learned nothing in school about gender and sexuality other than the binary. The relief at not only finally understanding myself but that others have felt the same way is indescribable. LGBT+ history is human history. And when people are screaming that I shouldn’t exist and that “trans is a fad” or “a modern lifestyle choice”, well, now I have the knowledge that throughout a lot of our history many cultures realized, without the aid of science or politicians or history books or leftists, that sex and gender are not a binary.

sweetviolentblush, (edited )
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… history has little bearing on modern knowledge? Are you trolling me right now? Who says “history has no bearing” and actually means it. It took us this long to have a modern notion of sex and gender, because we’ve been trying to have an understanding of it for thousands of years. Take a wild, homophobic stab in the dark as to why it took this long.

Actually, seeing all your other replies in here I’m thinking this is too much trolling to be a real conversation. I’m going to go cause I really don’t think you’re asking in good faith at this point.

sweetviolentblush,
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ha true

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flintstones reference? daaaaamn 😎

sweetviolentblush,
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Yeah I like this idea, I’m thinking of making my own

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