amethyst

amethyst, 6 months ago

This is a weird grey area for me. I see it as a silly episode where bender does some reprehensible shit, sort of learns his lesson but than continues being a shitty person.

That episode really bothered me – decades before I realized I was trans it was my least favorite episode of the entire run. It just came off as too mean spirited, and relied too heavily on the man-in-a-dress “joke”.

amethyst, 8 months ago

I mentioned this in another recent thread, but I spent a lot of time looking through reddit threads where transgirls talked about body hair.

What I thought was interesting is that:

• while you do get a lot of responses that say it only somewhat reduces body hair
• there were several folk who said it eventually did pretty much stop growth in many places (especially the torso), but that it took 3-4 years.
• One thing generally agreed on was that no matter what, hair on the legs/forearms will stick around; that’s typical for cis women as well. (There’s a lot of variability where cis women will have noticeable hair, but almost always on the legs/forearms.)

In online spaces you’ll generally see a lot more folk in the 0-2yrs range of HRT (because they’re newer and have more things they want to talk about.) So my guess is that the long term reduction in body hair is larger than you’d think just skimming threads like this one.

I’m at a bit more than 2 years, and it definitely has reduced a lot on my chest/shoulders/back/butt/upper arms, but I still have to shave occasionally (especially chest/butt). For now I’m content to see if the rest goes away on its own.

amethyst, 9 months ago

Will I be able to go more than one day without shaving my body hair without looking at my chest and arms in disgust?

I’ve previously been curious about this, and I waded through a lot of reddit threads looking at all the anecdotal answers.

A pretty fair number of folk said they eventually saw a large reduction in body hair on the torso especially, but that it took 3-4 years.

You’ll also see a lot of folk on 2 years of HRT saying it gives only a little bit of reduction.

Hard to draw a strong conclusion here, but it seems hopeful! (I’m two years in and see some reduction, but I still have plenty of hair. Pretty sure it grows back much more slowly now, but since I didn’t shave my body pre-HRT it’s kind of hard to tell.)

amethyst, 9 months ago (edited 9 months ago)

What I’m pretty sure is the creator’s name is watermarked in the top left – “Sangled”.

That let me find this post: www.deviantart.com/…/I-Made-a-Picrew-805976802

It says it was made private, but that you can still access it via this link: picrew.me/ja/secret_image_maker/GWQo0ayzr7bd5eKF. (I checked and it has the sunglasses and lips from your pic, so presumably it’s the right one!)

amethyst, 9 months ago

You might want to start by looking at common last names for a region you identify with.

e.g. here’s a list of common surnames in England/Wales (Picked because I’m British myself)

If I had to pick from that particular list, I might go with:

• Valentine Yates
• Valentine May
• Valentine Frost

(also several borderline puns such as Valentine Hart, Valentine Rose, Valentine Day)

e: Oh also, I honestly didn’t think my full name flowed very well initially. But I got used to it over time!

amethyst, 10 months ago (edited 10 months ago)

This doesn’t seem to be normal, but I found laser maybe two order of magnitude more painful than electrolysis

From reading other’s accounts, I find laser more painful than typical, and electro less painful. I once even came close to falling asleep during an electrolysis session.

I had a mix of dark+white hair when I started. Laser did get a bit more bearable over time, but I think that’s just because there was almost no dark hair left to zap.

Other than the pain, laser was better on most other dimenions (My skin recovered faster, the sessions are shorter and less often, you don’t have to skip shaving for a couple of days, etc.)

amethyst, 10 months ago

I guess I’m kind of confused – by “on here” do you mean in this community, on blahaj.zone, or just on lemmy in general?

(I have not run into transphobia in any of those places, but I stick to a pretty small set of communities)

amethyst, 11 months ago

They’ve said they’re paying out of pocket, though the only stat I’ve seen is that it’s “significantly” more than $20 a month (which… could be basically anything lol.)

There’s a thread here with that info: lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/1106021

amethyst, 11 months ago

r/egg_irl had pretty strong rules about that too – probably because you also have to deal with people uploading photos of others, and its way easier (given the focus of the place) to just ban them completely.

amethyst, 11 months ago

From what little I’ve looked into, it matters how much you keep down there if you later want a vaginoplasty (because it changes what they have to work with.)

amethyst, 11 months ago

What sometimes helped me with these things is to visualize doing them first – to kind of run through what’s going to happen in your head. You could even kind of write out a short script of what you’re going to say, and practice it in your head!

Also, don’t stress it too much if you back out a few times. I think I even got as far as starting to dial the number once before getting too anxious and abandoning it once. Because it’s something you want to do, you just have to keep trying and eventually you’ll be ok! :)

amethyst, 11 months ago

I had kind of the opposite effect – when I first switched to injections I was getting super-sleepy at the end of every 7 day cycle.

After talking to my doctor we switched to taking it every 5 days and it’s been way better since then! So in my case upping the dose made me less sleepy.

amethyst, 11 months ago

That’s always been my take too.

A tip I got at some point was that if you feel smug/self-satisfied about posting something, it’s probably just better that you don’t. Trying to win internet points by owning bigots is not making the world better, and it certainly never made me happy either.

But you do want other, uninformed folks to be able to see how flawed the bigots arguments really are, and if you have the energy its worthwhile putting that out there.

amethyst, 11 months ago

For me, what helped initially was not to focus on whether I was trans or not, but on specific questions like whether I wanted to start HRT.

Because when I read the list of changes it caused, none of them seemed bad, and many seemed really desirable!

That helped reduce my dilemma from a complicated question of "identity" ("Am I trans? Am I nonbinary?" etc), to a more specific choice I could proceed with.

amethyst, 1 year ago

less painful,

I actually found laser way, waaaay more painful – and that was with more than half my hairs turned white already. Electro was just a bunch of tiny pokes, while laser felt like someone repeatedly punching me in the face.

That said, I’d still choose laser over electro if I could have, since it’s just easier/less hassle. (Quicker results, fewer treatments, my skin seemed to heal from it faster, etc).