I was so worried about the test showing that I wasn’t ADHD but instead a lazy pos. Turns out I do have ADHD and my mom was right. Owe her an apology and working on the best way to do that (I’m thinking a coffee date)...
Welcome to the club! I got mine a bit over two weeks ago. Even though I suspected it’s been a strange time since for me trying to accept this as real. As you said though, knowing is a relief and now we have an idea on what is going on and what to do about it. I wish you luck in your healing. Take it one step at a time, and take care of yourself. It is going to be a journey but you can do it.
Yes! Omg…people ask me what they think is a simple question about said hobby completely unaware of the absolute storm that is about to be unleashed upon them. For example, someone asks me a simple how do you keep this plant alive…well you now are going to learn where it is native too, what the climate is like, it’s life cycle and blooming characteristics, its evolution and taxonomy, pollinators and oh don’t forget about the diseases and pests it gets and oh! Let’s talk about soil chemistry…and mushrooms! Fungus are fascinating and network with plants…anyways, you get the idea. And suddenly they are trying to exit the conversation, and im like wait nooo, i have more. 😆
my friend has seen me do this to so many people and she just sits there with an amused look when she knows it’s about to happen. So glad someone gets entertainment out of it.
God I wanna make so much art (drawing/painting/wood carving/crochet/build things/etc), make comics, learn languages, learn how to deep clean and power wash, garden, make clothes, make fursuits, travel, hike, forage, make youtube videos, go urban exploring, go ghost hunting, animate, preserve animal skeletons and insects, etc...
I feel this in my soul. I have all these hobbies I want to do, and I keep finding more and I keep buying stuff for said hobbies but barely actually manage to do any of them. Same reason I have never been able to decide on a career…to many things I want to do. I genuinely want to do these things, I have officially overwhelmed myself I think. So instead I sit here and waste time on my phone.
Pizza for breakfast, skipped lunch and now my husband is making fajitas for dinner. I am thankful he feeds me. Lol. If not for him I would probably forget to eat half the time and then wonder why I feel like crap. Or I would live off chips and beef Jerky or something dumb like that.
Used weed for the past 20ish years to make my damned brain shut up and for sleep issues. I quit about 4 months ago after the realization that I might have adhd. Wanted to see if things got better after stopping. They really didn’t. I had no clue that this could be the source of my issues until recently so now I’m over here waiting for an appointment. Self medication and drug/alcohol use is apparently really common with undiagnosed adhd. But damned do I miss it. The first couple weeks where rough, and i do feel like I was having some withdrawal effects from quitting despite people saying it’s not addictive. It was literally giving me easy dopamine so your comment makes alot of sense.
I hear you on the meds. I’m not sure I’m to enthused about those but people keep saying they help so I don’t know. I also know I need to change my behavioral habits I’ve developed over the years but it’s not easy. Just going to go with whatever the psychiatrist says and gk from there. I’m just so tired of my own crap at this point. And yeah, weed made it easier to just be. And I don’t think you have to take medication if you don’t want too. Don’t think they will force it on you.
I am not diagnosed but have good reason to suspect I have adhd so I am in the process of trying to get a diagnosis. This is kind of it for me too. My brain never shuts up. Weed slowed my mind down and of course made me feel good like you said. I actually had moments if i didnt overdo it where it gave me motivation to actually do something with myself. Fine line though on the amount, kind of needed to microdose for that affect. Otherwise it just numbed me to my own issues and kind of made me not care. Only reason I quit is because my problems i wasn’t dealing with started to catch up with me and I hit a really bad depressive state that kind of scared me after literally everything was crashing in on me. Maybe eventually I will use it recreational again but for now I’m staying away and trying to get real help.
Hate that this has to be a worry. Makes it harder for people that actually need help to get help. If I was drug seeking there are easier options than going for a freaking adhd assessment. Oh well, try not to stress over it, and I know it’s hard not too but you can always go to another Dr. Just makes it a pain in the ass. Good luck of you do decide to go through with it.
Haha! I had someone tell me their name a few weeks ago. Kinda sounded like coffee so his name is now coffee. Can’t for the life of me remember his actual name and I’ve asked numerous times. I usually just hope that I don’t get in a situation where I need to know their name. Fun times. At least we can laugh about it.
All the freaking time. Like my brain is like “hey! I’m going to talk! I like talking!” And then suddenly turns on itself and is all “what where you thinking dumbass!? You are just going to make an idiot of yourself again” So then I delete my comment and scroll on. Trying to be better on lemmy so here is my comment.
For those of you who weren’t diagnosed until adulthood (I’m in my late 40s), what was the diagnosis process like? Are you just given a written test, or does someone evaluate you more thoroughly? Do they try to understand your symptoms, or is it more of a checklist? If anyone has personal stories they’d be willing to share,...
Not op bit just wanted to thank you all for your responses. I have a Dr appointment in a couple weeks and want to ask them about an assessment. Likely just going to ask for a referral but want to be prepared. Kinda stressing but reading your experiences has helped a bit. So once again thank you. Been putting this off for way too long.
I have been on the edge with twitter and reddit for a while and I have finally deleted my accounts that I have had for a very long time there. They are no longer the places I used to know, even more so with twitter. I am ready for my new time here and on mastodon....
Welcome! I moved to lemmy the Sunday before the blackout and haven’t looked back. I did go back finally on June 30 and deleted my account. There may not be as much content now but that will come in time as we all hopefully try and contribute. I was mostly a lurker on reddit myself, only started commenting more within the past year so will try to be better here. I am quite enjoying my time here and I hope you do as well.
So I want to just add my story to this as I’m currently going through this myself. At least I think I am. I am not diagnosed as of yet but I have an appointment to get things started towards that in a couple weeks. Going to share this anyways.
Anyways, I’m turning 43 this week and the past six months to a year have been super rough for me. I mean, I’ve always had issues but its gotten really bad. I almost got fired this past fall but for some reason my boss wanted to give me another chance. It all started going downhill when my coworker quit and I picked up the slack and took on more work. My boss pulled me aside and we had a meeting and she listed numerous issues she saw I was having. I had caused several minor accidents(i have to drive between accounts), major focus issues, she kept having to repeat herself constantly, running late and rushing and not giving myself enough time tondo mu work, interrupting her all the time, trouble remembering things(she writes stuff down for me now), skipping accounts, timecard mistakes constantly, just a whole cluster of wtf. My home life and marriage was suffering too but I won’t even start on those. All in all u was not having a good time.
I was just feeling awful about it and like I failure, my job is not hard at least it shouldnt be. I went home and started looking up specifically the problems I was having. Low and behold every single one kept coming up as adhd symptoms. I remember sitting there thinking to myself like wait what? And then started thinking about my past and it suddenly kinda made sense there too. so I did a bunch of reading.
At that point I found an article on menopause and adhd and that was enlightening. I realized that even though I’m still regular with my cycle and stuff it could be starting and would make sense why suddenly things are even more difficult. I got through the Xmas season okay, kinda put thst stuff out of my mind and focused on trying to not make a mess out of work but come January I dropped into a state of depression like I had never experienced before. Not even when I got kicked out of college i, not even when I was pretty much homeless and couch surfing at my friends. I have anxiety issues but I’m not normally depressed like that.
I was a zombie, I managed to get myself to work and back but that’s about it. I was just numb and yes I was at the point I wanted to end myself. After about a month of this I came to the realization that I needed help. I finally talked to my husband about it and I got clean off of any substances I was using at the time to try and cope. Started doing more reading and found this group and a menopause group. I have a doctors appointment in a couple weeks and I’m going to see what my options are and if they can give me a referral for testing. I also have an appointment with a gynecologist for the women’s stuff thst same week. I’m stressed but it will be good to know what is going on.
This got really long winded and I’m sorry about that. If you got through this thank you for reading. Hopefully I will have answers soon.
Thank you for your kind words and writing out such a detailed response. I really do appreciate it. It has been so helpful to be part of this group and your post was very informative and helpful. I am going to try to see a psychiatrist and honestly am open to whatever they think can help. I want to do therapy to I think. I have a lot of years to work through. Also want to look into hormones but it might be to early for that. I’ll see what they say. Also, your comment on the lip-smacking made me laugh, I’ve started fights over my husband chewing. Lol. 😳 anyways, thanks once again.
Ok, so it is sort of a known part of ADHD that we tend to talk a lot or our typed responses seem to be longer and involve a lot of breaks and punctuation (or whatever these are called). We do this to be clearer in communication. We do this to elaborate. And often for neurotypicals it becomes a point of frustration....
Ahaha. As a Canadian now living in America I am laughing over your intro to your comment. I am working on this myself because I often get caught up in this I’m sorry narrative myself. I don’t k kw why I do it. Perhaps my whole life of constant feeling I need to apologize for my own behavior. Who knows. But I’m getting better and trying to at least change the narrative of my words to be more appropriate to the situation.
I’m so happy. With all the reddit stuff it’s been kinda stressful. I use reddit for dopamine fixes but also a lot to find answers to questions. But I found only in the past year the ADHD women community and felt supported and at home....
I followed another group over here that shut down the subreddit for good so was happy to see the butterfly pop up when I was searching for communities. I hadn’t done too much posting yet as i only found this group at the beginning of the year but its nice to have people that understand to talk too.
I also found this group on discord so that was cool. Anyways, happy to be here as I’m done with reddit. See how lemmy goes.
Im official
I was so worried about the test showing that I wasn’t ADHD but instead a lazy pos. Turns out I do have ADHD and my mom was right. Owe her an apology and working on the best way to do that (I’m thinking a coffee date)...
The journey will be long and arduous (lemmy.world)
So many project ideas yet so little energy
God I wanna make so much art (drawing/painting/wood carving/crochet/build things/etc), make comics, learn languages, learn how to deep clean and power wash, garden, make clothes, make fursuits, travel, hike, forage, make youtube videos, go urban exploring, go ghost hunting, animate, preserve animal skeletons and insects, etc...
What did we eat today kids? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
I started out real good, but dinner is popcorn, diet coke and peanut butter mnms
Stoner (i.imgur.com)
But if I do pay attention, I’ll just forget it anyway… (i.imgur.com)
I always end up anxious about if people will like what I’m saying. (lemmy.world)
Adult ADHD Diagnosis - what is the process like?
For those of you who weren’t diagnosed until adulthood (I’m in my late 40s), what was the diagnosis process like? Are you just given a written test, or does someone evaluate you more thoroughly? Do they try to understand your symptoms, or is it more of a checklist? If anyone has personal stories they’d be willing to share,...
Done with Twitter and Reddit
I have been on the edge with twitter and reddit for a while and I have finally deleted my accounts that I have had for a very long time there. They are no longer the places I used to know, even more so with twitter. I am ready for my new time here and on mastodon....
How did Lemmy.world become more popular than Lemmy.ml?
I don’t understand how Lemmy.world developers managed to surpass both Lemmy.ml and Beehaw.org instances in user activity.
Let's talk about ADHD and hormones.
I would like to hear from everyone, not just those going through what I’m currently dealing with, which is perimenopause....
Boost for Lemmy is happening! (lemmy.world)
"I'm sorry" as Social/Linguistic Lubricants
Ok, so it is sort of a known part of ADHD that we tend to talk a lot or our typed responses seem to be longer and involve a lot of breaks and punctuation (or whatever these are called). We do this to be clearer in communication. We do this to elaborate. And often for neurotypicals it becomes a point of frustration....
finally found the community
I’m so happy. With all the reddit stuff it’s been kinda stressful. I use reddit for dopamine fixes but also a lot to find answers to questions. But I found only in the past year the ADHD women community and felt supported and at home....