It was inevitable after their atrocious behavior. It sounds horrible to be caught in such a crossfire as an instance admin. Especially because they used their queerness as a weapon to paint us as the bad ones for splitting the community. A painful reminder that not all queer people are necessarily good people.
Thank you for dealing with this situation and making this instance a safer place.
This is actually one of the main reasons I had for coming out as aro/ace. Not necessarily only grandchildren, but also remarks about getting a girlfriend etc. Coming out had the intended effect though, it has effectively stopped these remarks from occurring.
Yeah that sucks. I’ve realized that I’m overall quite privileged with my surroundings. I had expected some people to be annoying about it, but it all went smoothly. Sadly that’s not the normal way that coming out as ace or aro will go, mos people will be met with some people who don’t understand it or who actively hate it.
I try to be quite outwardly aro/ace and queer in order to take the bullet for others (as much as I can handle ofc).
I think one think I loved about reddit's #aaaaaaacccccccce subreddit was how inclusive it was. No matter what part of the #LGBTQ spectrum you were, your posts were often well recieved by everyone there. I hope to continue that on #kbin's aaaaaaacccccccce community
Hopefully that does remain the same yeah. I think we’ll be fine though. Most ace or aro people will probably be inclusive because they understand what it’s like to not be (fully) straight. At least to me this made it a lot easier to also understand the struggles of other LGBT+ people.
I also hope that we can shake the “pendulum effect” that the subreddit had. Where there seemed to be a constant cycle of “subreddit is mostly sex-repulsed memes -> sex-neutral and favourable people feel left out and get annoyed -> subreddit is mostly sex-neutral or favourable memes -> sex repulsed and averse people feel left out and get annoyed -> subreddit is mostly sex-repulsed memes” .
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This is a common meme that’s not meant to be taken seriously. I don’t think OP is trying to literally spread that message. Someone else posted this example further down in the thread:
I was kinda hoping to figure this stuff out before non-binary day, so it would be a day of celebration. But honestly I still don’t really understand what I feel like. I’m AMAB. For years I’ve felt like my perfect “me”, if life had a character creator, would be a neutral or more AFAB body (without boobs) and a more masc clothing style. I was generally at peace with everything though, thinking “nobody looks exactly how they want to look like”. However, a bit over a year ago I started exploring more of my feminine side and honestly it’s thrown everything into chaos. Painting my nails, shaving all body hair, (privately) wearing feminine clothes. Many days I come back to the feeling that I wish that I was AFAB. But still idk what I’d present like if that were the case.
One day I’ll damn it all and decide that I have no issue with being male, the next day I desperately wish I was a girl (and I’ll fantasize about being one), and the next day I decide that I must be non-binary. It’s quite chaotic and I’m kinda confused about it all. I never used to feel like this. For now my conclusion is that it’s fine to explore it all, there’s no rush to get it right. I’m probably “at least” NB, and maybe even completely a trans woman. But as long as I’m happy and just learning a bit more about myself every month, it’s not big deal.
I tried coming out at 18. It didn’t go so well. I told my best friend… who then never spoke to me again. It was embarrassing, we were doing the same training scheme and would bump into each other. He completely ignored me....
Had no real issues coming out as aro/ace. That being said, I’ve never really mentioned it at work and I’m also a bit cautious of doing so. The atmosphere there isn’t necessarily anti-lgbt, but also definitely not very pro-lgbt. But I’m out to friends and parents and had no issues there
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Admin update - Hexbear
This is an admin post, intended for blahaj lemmy users. Top level posts from members of other instances will be removed....
Increasing the frequency of asking does not raise the likelihood of it happening
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Happy International Non-Binary People's Day
Are you non-binary as well? What does non-binary mean to you? Do you have anything you’d like to share with the community?
How was coming out for you?
I tried coming out at 18. It didn’t go so well. I told my best friend… who then never spoke to me again. It was embarrassing, we were doing the same training scheme and would bump into each other. He completely ignored me....