johnnyprofane1

johnnyprofane1, 9 months ago to actuallyadhd

🌈 Hey #ActuallyAutistic fam!

Ever struggled being #neurodivergent in a neurotypical world?

I get it. That's why I offer all my content for FREE. But to keep it that way, I need your #help.

Click to learn how you can #support this space.👇
#AutisticJoy #ADHD #AuDHD
@actuallyautistic
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johnnyprofane1, 9 months ago to actuallyadhd

Dive into the archives! Surviving 7 decades of #autism has taught me a thing or two. New followers, old gems await you. 🎙️🌈

#ActuallyAutistic

#Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/note-to-a-younger-autistic-friend-episode-1/id1576867981?i=1000529090901

#Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/484CuGL28FE1tKxOrOWltT

Transcript & other platforms https://autisticaf.me/2021/06/28/note-to-a-

"These are my stories. Surviving 7 decades of #autism....that's a ton of #meltdowns... Survival strategies... you just may want to share."

#YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FvuvIRg98is

Also on any #Samsung TV, tablet, phone via #SamsungFree.

@actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ADHD #Neurodivergent

johnnyprofane1, 9 months ago to actuallyadhd

Art work for "Every Clock Is a Handgun Pointed at My Head"

On my autistic experience of time. It ain't the distanced traveled between 2 points...

But there is a fair amount of time dilation...

#ActuallyAutistic

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

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johnnyprofane1, 10 months ago to actuallyadhd

For the growing community of #Autistic folks & allies on #subStack...

"Calm Down!" Why is this the WORST Advice You Can Give an Autistic Person?

I now publish all my articles, podcasts & artwork on #subStack too. Hit subscribe... let's keep in touch.

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #AutisticAdults #AutisticAcceptance #Neurodivergent

https://open.substack.com/pub/johnnyprofaneknapp/p/calm-down-why-is-this-the-worst-advice?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

johnnyprofane1, 10 months ago to actuallyadhd

NEW PODCAST:

"Neurodivergent Kiss: #Autistic Fairytale... or Fabulous Marriage?"

Updated text, new images including, "Under a Surreal Sun."

First podcast in 6 months. If you enjoy my work, please share it up! More to come this week...

WIth links to audio podcast and captioned YouTube to aid audio processing. Also includes new hi-res illustrations...

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #ADHD #AuDHD #AutisticAdults #LateDiagnosed #Neurodivergent

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd
https://autisticaf.me/2023/08/24/podcast-neurodivergent-kiss-autistic-fairytale-or-fabulous-marriage/

johnnyprofane1, 10 months ago to actuallyadhd

Neurodivergent Kiss: Autistic Fairytale… or Fabulous Marriage?

Folks ask about my #neurodivergent marriage. Umm… over and over. Like… "Is that even possible?"

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd #ActuallyAutistid #AuDHD #AutisticJoy #AutisticLove #Autistic
http://autisticaf.me/2023/08/18/neurodivergent-kiss-autistic-fairytale-or-fabulous-marriage/

johnnyprofane1, 10 months ago to actuallyadhd

"Neurodivergent Kiss."

Cuz autistic love is the most precious love.

For my wife. Who claims to be typical.

We all humor her.

#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

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johnnyprofane1, 10 months ago to actuallyadhd

Do any of my #ActuallyAutistic or #ADHD friends have the technical skills to help me with a project?

#AskingAutists #AskingAutistics @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd @btaroli

I've tried working any number of AutoGPT-like apps, Code Interpreter etc ... but can't get anywhere with my skills...

I'd like to create a {Python} app that I could run that asked for a news search term and time period and gave me links and summaries on a specific topic.

Something like "give me news reports on 'autism and police' in the last 7 days."

This was simple a couple of months ago... but with the restricted web search on most of the platforms, I'm stymied.

I'd use it to create weekly summaries... and for further reading lists on my articles.

For that matter, a separate app (?) could scan an article I've written and suggest related further reading links. Mebbe fund articles on my own site to cross link.

Anybody able to help?

johnnyprofane1, 10 months ago to actuallyautistic

I feel a post coming on... sometimes sharing my process helps...

"Every Clock Is Handgun Pointed at My Head"

Blv it or not... these are the seeds I planted in my notebook:

"Every clock is a handgun pointed at my head

How much does a dream weigh? Enough to slump shoulders... break backs. Strangely? Even more as they die

Dream dreamed dreamt dread

T -10 9 8 7 6... Countdown to anxiety

Doctor forcing labor

Shrieking at the factory door

Time to next paycheck measuring the distance to starvation

Clock tower time to disaster

Einstein measured time as distance between events. I don't give a shit about events. Just the quality of the travel between them...

You don't need a book to know when the sun rises

when to eat

when to sleep

when to pick berries on the fence row

Bible

Landmines of duty waiting to go off

Every tick is an unspoken command

Sale

Punch clock

Daily planner

Best seller"

Trust me this is going somewhere... Let's see where we end up.

#ActuallyAutistic #AusticCreator #ADHD #AuDHD #Time #TimeManagement
@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

johnnyprofane1, 10 months ago to actuallyautistic

"Calm down."
🧵

G-d, I hate those words. Always have.

#AutisticParent #AutisticMom #AutisticDad
#AutisticAwareness #AutisticAcceptance
#Autism #ADHD #AuDHD #AutisticAdults #AutisticAlly
#AutisticElder #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

I've heard them pretty much every day of my long life.

Delivered in soothing tones...
Helpful tones...
Authoritative...
Anxious...
Angry...
Sometimes accompanied by a slap.

From Parents. Teachers. Priests. Playmates. Lovers. Doctors. Therapists... Each one demanding one thing of me.

👉Control over THEIR own feelings.

By demanding... control of mine.

WHO needs control when I'm sad?
Angry?
Intense?
Passionate?
Proud?
Informative...
Joyful...
or...
Suicidal?

You folks do.

I'm feeling what I'm feeling. And expressing it in ways that are not only the most natural to me... but also the most appropriate...

To the neurology I was born with.

You may not like it.
In the park.
In the grocery store.
In front of strangers.
In front of Aunt Mary.
In 2nd grade.
👇👇👇

With my office door open.
In your waiting room.
On our 3rd date.
In your house...
In your life.

There's a whole wing of autism deniers masquerading as scholars who say we autistics lack a "theory of mind."

Like adult autistics don't deal with typical human minds
👉 24 / 7 / 365.25 ... 👈

YOUR problem with MY behavior is easier to understand than your whole "theory of mind," "behavioral analysis" crap.

I don't get how YOU think or feel.
You don't get how * I * think or feel...
And we rub each other the wrong way. Just like cats and dogs.

👉THIS cat has a theory of your mind. It's simple.

You don't acknowledge what you think or feel.
Not in public.
Lots of times not even to yourself.

S'why y'all drive me crazy.

Why did parents, teachers, "helping" pros, "friends" tell me to calm down?

Not to soothe my distress. To soothe THEIR distress.

👉 Shame?
Not fun to feel ashamed... of your child.

👉 Fear?
Scary when everybody's looking at you.
And you think it's not even your fault.

👉 Anger?
It's frustrating... when you have no control.
Like... when I don't do what you want me to. Fast enuff.

👉 Soothing?
Of course, YOU need soothing...

Every time someone else's pain...
Or bad luck...
Or death...
Reminds you of YOUR danger.

🚨 "Calm down." 🚨

There is never a time that a command...
implying that an autistic person in distress is doing "something wrong"...
helps.

Doesn't matter our age... education... profession... wealth.

And since your "helpful advice" almost certainly inflames their pain... literally adding fuel to the fire in our hearts, minds, and bodies...

You'll NEVER get the outcome you demand... soothing.

You'll just add one more brick to the prison wall of our trauma.

#AskingAutistics