#AskingAutistics
If you could describe a 'perfect' family, how close would that family be?
How often would they meet / talk?
After a conversation with a counsellor I am confused.
I thought that closeness in families was a good thing, as long as you all get on reasonably well, but apparently it's 'bad' and any family that is close is 'enmeshed'.
@autisticbookclub@actuallyautistic There is no one right way for a family to be. According to Tolstoy, this would mean all families are unhappy, but Tolstoy had it wrong. I would describe a perfect family as my little half-autistic, bilingual, almost entirely queer, anarchist collective, but that would not be anyone else’s perfect family.
@actuallyautistic@JeremyMallin Schools don’t actually help children learn - all children are autodidacts. Some of us, more among autistics, just happen to be better at it.
@actuallyautistic Let's talk about autism and dissociation. For many of us with CPTSD, our masks can overlap w/ dissociative periods. Are any of you plural? Or have your masks overlap with dissociation?
This happens to me and I forget part/all of some experiences sometimes.
@actuallyautistic@Claire I haven’t identified as plural, but have always felt “more than one, less than two”. I recall stories of others that are actually about me and seem to have fluctuating gaps in my memory. Masking has been a means to maintain continuity of identity for me, at times. For better or for worse.
What other people might perceive as obsessed with a topic or a person concerning #ActuallyAutistic people is the result of our #monotropism. We focus on one thing strongly and thoroughly to get the whole picture. It's also known as bottom up thinking and it takes time but I imo it is also a talent and gives us practice in analysing things. One reason why many therapists don't really understand what is going on in front of them. @actuallyautistic