trans and nonbinary people (and cis if you apply!), how did you pick your name?

just interested in hearing peoples stories for how y’all have chosen your new names! doesn’t have to be particularly profound or interesting really, i just like hearing about others experiences.

i’m actually planning on changing my own soon socially despite being cis, and just really like hearing how others came to find their names, as well as am curious about if anyone had to go through more than one to find what’s right for them. i figured this would be the best community to talk about the topic even if i’m not trans :)

Abel, (edited )
@Abel@lemmy.nerdcore.social avatar

My original name has no male counterpart, so I nerded to forge something anew.

I made a large list of names of my language whose letter started with A (same letter as my old name), didn’t have a female counterpart and I liked the pronounciation. Then I risked off the names that only very old people used, which were 75% of the list. The remaining list was about eight names. “Abel” was the most common of them.

I noticed afterwards that my parents (if they weren’t transphobic cucks) would have liked this name. When I asked them how they picked my name, they said that they wanted it to start with A, be simple to write, short, with no variant spellings, beautiful, with a good meaning and not too common. Also, they’re christians.

Velociraptor,

I made a list of names I’ve always liked and found I kept coming back to one in particular, so that had to be it.

thumbtack,

i would keep coming back to velociraptor too ngl /j

JuniperusVox,
@JuniperusVox@beehaw.org avatar

I read it in a bad sci fi book when I was about 14, and it just stuck in my head until I finally came out. Also I like trees and gin.

marin,
@marin@beehaw.org avatar

I really wanted a name that starts with the letter ‘M’ because it just felt right. I then looked up “nonbinary/genderneutral names that start with the letter M” I found one with a slight association with my deadname

dinodrinkstea,
@dinodrinkstea@beehaw.org avatar

I’ve read it somewhere and it stuck a chord in me. I started to recognize it everywhere and it just slowly dawned on me that it’s my name is guess 😅

diamond,
@diamond@beehaw.org avatar

My name (Diamond) mostly came from my username. I used to be more active talking on Discord, so a lot of my friends would call me based on my username. It was weird at first, but I got used to it! Some people found it surprising, but the reactions aren’t too bad.

thumbtack,

that’s really cool, diamond is actually sick as fuck lol. a spring number of people have similar stories here, with their name originating as a gamer tag- really nice connection!

din,

I've always had a list of names I liked for several purposes but when I heard the name I chose for myself, I became completely obsessed with it and was sad it wasn't my name. But then I realized there was no reason it couldn't be XD

ethd,

I had a character in a story I wrote but never published that I’ve gone back to several times, originally named Sol for some in-universe reasons but I eventually changed it for other reasons. (Sorry for being vague, it wasn’t a great story.) I still liked the name Sol, though, and eventually decided that I wanted to adopt it. I ended up going with Soleil (pronounced So-lay) because I like how it sounds.

thumbtack,

that’s really cool! soleil is a really nice name, especially with the fun sun connection (i’m pretty sure at least?), and sol is a badass nickname if that’s what you use.

ethd,

“Soleil” does mean “sun” in French and I like to think that I’m more sunshine than clouds! ☀️ Sol is definitely a nickname I go by.

s0phia,

My friend suggested and I liked it :3

thumbtack,

:3 i like it too!

zozo,

I wanted my first name to be something easy for my family to adjust to, and chose my middle name because it spoke to me. Now I’ve learned my middle name is a family name, and my family and all my friends call me by my middle name, so my first name is relegated to official business only. It is a convenient way to identify scams very quickly :)

Manticore,
@Manticore@beehaw.org avatar

They’re all derivative names. My first/middle names are gender-neutral, though I use the original spelling (which implies masc).

I won’t go into detail since it’s generally not a good idea to share full names on the internet with strangers, but when I was a kid I looked up my birthname, and the meaning of my first name was “the (opposing) version of [Name]” (eg “Francine is the feminine of Frank”).

The irony of the original name was that its meaning was ‘very gender’ (eg: if Frank were to mean “buff and hairy”), so it was confusing if the opposing version’s meaning changed in any way. I took a shine to it when I was a kid, then I used the original name and its most common spelling as my new first name as an adult.

thumbtack,

i like what you said with the meaning, that’s a really funny detail lol, and it’s cool that you were able to make a nice, simple, smooth switch like that from one to the other :)

LeylaaLovee,
@LeylaaLovee@lemmy.fmhy.ml avatar

I heard the name as a kid and I always knew it was my name internally. As a kid, I always daydreamt of a pretty girl in an overcast field with the wind blowing against her hair. I decided her name was Leyla. It wasn’t until I came out that I understood that the girl was me, and had always been me.

thumbtack,

awwwww :3 i love that image! coming to the realize that that girl is you is so awesome and special too!

Sierra_Is_Bee,

I didnt know where to look and didnt have any ideas, so I pulled up the list of most popular girls names from my year of birth. It was number 400 something of 500 lol.

Cybrpwca,

When I cracked to enby/genderfluid, I wanted a name that was genderneutral. I’m a fan of Bruce Campbell and Evil Dead, so I thought Ash(ley) worked well. Later I cracked again to transfeminine and thought “yeah, that still works.”

TheBurlapBandit,

Ashy Slashy!

zorbse,

Just thought about different names and the one I later chose somehow just felt good

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