It’s a bit off-side, but another sad part of this quote is that it actually sounds reasonable in the original context:
I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.
Marilyn Monroe went out of her way to list what she considered her “worst”, that is in direct contradiction with the “best” (that everyone could see) from her public persona. She’s saying “Here’s my worst; you know my best. If you don’t accept me for who I am, you don’t deserve that sex symbol that I built”.
It’s a fair cry from how people often use this quote, where they justify making your life a living Hell under the promise of some “best” that you’re never going to see.
I had two friends who used to frequent what was said to be the local debate club. It was the only thing they had in common when they first met, now they’re married. People often see what seems like a complete lack of consensus (for a lack of a better word) between them and they think “wow, are they really going to survive the New Year”. But they show a huge green flag isn’t how synchronized two people are but rather how accepting one is to a shortage of synchronization. There are people who don’t realize this and one issue ruins everything.
If any of those don’t look solid green to you out of the gate, it’s an absolute no-go. They don’t have to be one way or another, but if you can’t openly and comfortably agree on those things, you’re pretty screwed eventually.
Having the same sence of humor proved crucial for me, next to loving pets. I dated someone once and when she asked why I asked her I told her I liked older women. She was 3 days older. (And not amused)
I felt totally comfortable with a girl I met at a forum meeting we started seeing each other more. She had pets and the same sence of humor. She’s my wife for 14y now, we have loads of pets. On my birthday I get gifted a younger wife, on her birthday she’s rescued from an old man. She’s 6 months younger.
I don’t get why is farting in front of others THE sign of a great relatioinship? I’ve been thogether with my SO for 4 years and we still don’t do that, out of respect, I suppose.
Because people need to fart. Being able to do it in front of your SO means you are comfortable with each other that much and personally it just means I can be me. There’s no barriers and both of us can just relax.
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