Try to focus more on coding, do it about 60/40 with 3d modeling.
Don’t bother playing chess or doing wargaming. All the communities you find are full of assholes.
If you come out as trans you’re not going to be sent to a torture camp, your dad is just going to be more of a bully for a couple years. It’s worth it to be able to be yourself in that aspect for middle school and highschool. Your mom has a spine when it comes to her kids, she just doesn’t really show it except for the major stuff. Go easy on her, she’s coming at this from the angle of someone who’s had an abusive childhood.
Stop using your autism as an excuse not to make friends. You’ll be happier for it. There are plenty of autistic people in your school with worse social skills that have friends.
Don’t bother trying to argue with people about politics. You can talk about it but you should disengage if theyre not interested.
Read Leslie feinberg and Alexandria Kollontai instead of bothering to learn neoclassical economics. Neoclassical economics is eviscerated once you read Marx, and understanding socialist economics teaches you that stuff in enough detail simply through criticism.
Stop making model kits of the US military, especially ww2. They put your your grandparents in a concentration camp and nuked their ancestral home. Go make some Spanish Civil War and eastern front models. You can make some cool German armor kits without it being problematic and giving you weird stares by researching what armor was under the command of the Romanian revolutionary forces.