@autism101@actuallyautistic True, totally feeling it. Especially when I don't know how something was meant. Was it serious or just irony? Sometimes it's hard to tell for me. This could often lead to me blundering in the "game" of social interaction. Luckily, most of the time people tell me how it's actually meant if I just ask them.
@autism101@actuallyautistic it does not really feel like chess to me because with chess there's at least well defined rules, and at the end you know the outcome instead of leaving the match wondering if you won or lost...
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Usually. Unless they run in "normal" channels for which I have programs. Aha - let me see - this calls for this response. 🙂
@autism101@actuallyautistic I’m not sure this is actually related to autism, but I think this it’s a good graphic representation of what it can feel like.
@autism101@actuallyautistic That's what an online conversation feels like (the type where you get a few hours to reply). Plenty of time to think carefully about how to respond.
Live conversations feel more like chess with a timer next to the board.
The more I think about it the more I like that analogy. :) With a chess clock it would be perfect.
@autism101@everythingalsocan@actuallyautistic It is for that reason I prefer my-time social media and my-time communication media like email, over real-time ones like chats and -gasp- talking to people.
I always try to assume the best in what people say, IRL or online. But online especially, it feels like people will always try and figure out the most fucked interpretation of what you just said and run with it.
This tweet explains it really well. It's quite relevant on that absolute dumpster fire of a website that is Twitter/X but also kind of everywhere online, honestly.
@AtPlume@autism101@actuallyautistic That's a good point, I completely missed that.
Conversations with friends and colleagues usually aren't actually adversarial (ymmv), but they're stressful due to the high likelihood of misunderstandings, exacerbated by the time pressure.
Online conversations have a much greater likelihood of actually turning adversarial, be it through misunderstandings or trolls.
That adds a different kind of stress.
@everythingalsocan@autism101@actuallyautistic Except that chess has rules both players follow. Informal life conversarion doesn't. Or if it does, they may be different for participants. Or hidden. Or not the rules stated explicitly.
Possibilities are endless and it's impossible to form scripts. Which is bad news for my brain...
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